Someone asked me what's up for the rest of the year, and then went ahead and answered it for me with church as usual? for some reason, even though it is the truth, that got me really upset and then again, it made me sad. The fact that i've become that predicatable.
On that note, i've not made a new year resolution in some years because honest truth is that i don't ever accomplish them, i just go with the flow while asking God to direct me. Anyway, i think i'm going to make some resolutions for this coming year. Of-course on top of the list is to live life a little more since i'm not married and have no kids to tie me down and i know according to my family, time is already against me so i guess i might try to enjoy the rest of my singlehood.
like my people say, "i'm going to start "catching" some fun! Beginning this weekend.
Friday, December 28, 2007
Monday, December 17, 2007
Thoughts inside of me
Song Coming to my head
"I know that i can make, cause the Storm is over now..."
I think it's inside one of Kirk Franklin's Cd's.
Thought in my head
"I'm letting myself go... enough is enough"
"Spirit is willing, but the flesh is week"
"I command everything that is within me, to respond to my will in the mighty name of Jesus"
if anyone is reading this, sorry if it makes no sense, i'm just writing because i want to be able to remember this in the near future.
"I know that i can make, cause the Storm is over now..."
I think it's inside one of Kirk Franklin's Cd's.
Thought in my head
"I'm letting myself go... enough is enough"
"Spirit is willing, but the flesh is week"
"I command everything that is within me, to respond to my will in the mighty name of Jesus"
if anyone is reading this, sorry if it makes no sense, i'm just writing because i want to be able to remember this in the near future.
Wednesday, December 12, 2007
Kids say the Darndest things
I have the opportunity to have young children around me in my daily life and i must admit, they really are a joy and a blessing. Somedays when one is feeling all gloo,. you hear a comment from a child and you just have to laugh.
Thought i'ld a couple of things i heard recently that really got me laughing:
From a little girl learning about sexuality, in trying to explain the different ssexual organs, she confirms: " He has peanuts, i have bigina"
From a child who is waiting to get water from a water: "Don't finish all the water in the water fountain, i need some too."
Kids truly believe whatever you tell them so please be careful what you tell your kids.
Scenerio: Someone was joking and told a 3year old little boy he was 5 not 3. I guess that stuck to the boy. The boy comes in the other day, and am having a conversation with him:
Me: So O, how old are you now?
O: I'm 5 yrs old
Me: 5? No, sweetie, i think you're 3
O: No, i'm 5
Me: O, you're only 3, when i ask you how old you are, say 3 ok?
O: OK
Me: O, so how old are you?
O: I told you Miss. Chic, I'm 5.
Well, that was the end of our conversation; i was not going to push it anymore maybe his parents will convince him later.
Another little child, (this is funny) now, this little boy's name is Tobi. Yes p, by default, Tobi is one of my people, his parents are straight up niajas'. Tobi is a handsome young boy that can not be mistaken for anything other than of african descent with all his beautiful dark features.
Someone had made a joke about Toby (from Roots) so a conversation btw the little child and the T goes like this:
T: What's your name? now, before the child could answer, T says Kunta
This happens about 4 times. The forth time, the child "kuku" answered Kunta.
An older friend ofmine just had her third child. The parents let the children name their baby sister and the name Gabriella from high school musical was chosen. The kids were happy but they wanted the boy from high school musical (can't remember the name now) to also be part of the family. A week ago, the older boy was heard telling his younger sister to look at daddy's tummy, his going to have to go to the hospital like mummy to bring the boy home.
Again, I love kids for real...
Thought i'ld a couple of things i heard recently that really got me laughing:
From a little girl learning about sexuality, in trying to explain the different ssexual organs, she confirms: " He has peanuts, i have bigina"
From a child who is waiting to get water from a water: "Don't finish all the water in the water fountain, i need some too."
Kids truly believe whatever you tell them so please be careful what you tell your kids.
Scenerio: Someone was joking and told a 3year old little boy he was 5 not 3. I guess that stuck to the boy. The boy comes in the other day, and am having a conversation with him:
Me: So O, how old are you now?
O: I'm 5 yrs old
Me: 5? No, sweetie, i think you're 3
O: No, i'm 5
Me: O, you're only 3, when i ask you how old you are, say 3 ok?
O: OK
Me: O, so how old are you?
O: I told you Miss. Chic, I'm 5.
Well, that was the end of our conversation; i was not going to push it anymore maybe his parents will convince him later.
Another little child, (this is funny) now, this little boy's name is Tobi. Yes p, by default, Tobi is one of my people, his parents are straight up niajas'. Tobi is a handsome young boy that can not be mistaken for anything other than of african descent with all his beautiful dark features.
Someone had made a joke about Toby (from Roots) so a conversation btw the little child and the T goes like this:
T: What's your name? now, before the child could answer, T says Kunta
This happens about 4 times. The forth time, the child "kuku" answered Kunta.
An older friend ofmine just had her third child. The parents let the children name their baby sister and the name Gabriella from high school musical was chosen. The kids were happy but they wanted the boy from high school musical (can't remember the name now) to also be part of the family. A week ago, the older boy was heard telling his younger sister to look at daddy's tummy, his going to have to go to the hospital like mummy to bring the boy home.
Again, I love kids for real...
Saturday, December 1, 2007
Okra Soup
Eba goes well with okra
Pounded Yam goes best with okra
Semo goes well with okra
Grounded Rice goes best with okra.
That's my opinion...
I just had Semo and Okra and it went well.
Couple of years back, when i was young and ignorant of the devices of the enemy, an aunt took me along with her to see some white clothed man, after dealing with her case, he must have seen some vision about me because he decided to voice out the fact that i must never eat okra again.
Prior to this, i had never had any reaction to okra so that was wierd, but as long as i was at home i stuck to the rule without telling papa schic. Well, as per being a boarder, and anyone who has been a proper boarder for secondary school in naija knows how it goes down in the dining hall. (Please ehh, i'm not talking about those boarders in schools like VF, A-Hall, Adesoye College, and the likes) I'm refering to those federal government boarders especially. So the first couple of weeks after semester resumes, i exchange my midweek eba and okra (or that watery imitation of okra soup) for someone else's watery beans.
Unfortunately, during that period when everyone is down on provision and visiting day is still a couple of weeks away, i shrenked that food deal and had to go and eat my eba and okra, nullifying any negative effect it may have on my body. Hence, back to eating my okra; except that for a very long time, all my visits back home, i never eat okra but going back to school was a thrill because that same eba and okra soup (ila alasepo) had become my favorite meal.
I'll take okra soup over any other kind anyday anytime...
Pounded Yam goes best with okra
Semo goes well with okra
Grounded Rice goes best with okra.
That's my opinion...
I just had Semo and Okra and it went well.
Couple of years back, when i was young and ignorant of the devices of the enemy, an aunt took me along with her to see some white clothed man, after dealing with her case, he must have seen some vision about me because he decided to voice out the fact that i must never eat okra again.
Prior to this, i had never had any reaction to okra so that was wierd, but as long as i was at home i stuck to the rule without telling papa schic. Well, as per being a boarder, and anyone who has been a proper boarder for secondary school in naija knows how it goes down in the dining hall. (Please ehh, i'm not talking about those boarders in schools like VF, A-Hall, Adesoye College, and the likes) I'm refering to those federal government boarders especially. So the first couple of weeks after semester resumes, i exchange my midweek eba and okra (or that watery imitation of okra soup) for someone else's watery beans.
Unfortunately, during that period when everyone is down on provision and visiting day is still a couple of weeks away, i shrenked that food deal and had to go and eat my eba and okra, nullifying any negative effect it may have on my body. Hence, back to eating my okra; except that for a very long time, all my visits back home, i never eat okra but going back to school was a thrill because that same eba and okra soup (ila alasepo) had become my favorite meal.
I'll take okra soup over any other kind anyday anytime...
Tuesday, November 20, 2007
My Primary School Best Friend
One of my fondest memories is from primary school, as some of us know it, and elementary school for others. I had just switched to my family's school(no! my family does not own the school, but all my siblings, including my brother who is now close to 40, went to that school) in primary two when i met the girl that became my best friend. Co-incidentally, both our immediate older brothers had been best friends as well.
We split ways at the end of primary school as she went on to a private school and i was shipped far away to one of those federal girls school in a town i had never heard before that time. Of-course we made new sets of friends, but everytime i came back home we got in touch but i guess that relationship never went back to the way we had it.
I actually attribute a part of whom i am today to my primary school best friend for some reason. I believe the year was 1995. My friend invited me to a christian camp that she attended the previous year, and since i was still trying to get that old relationship we had, i was willing to go to another town and spend a week out of my dear vacation at another boarding school, which by the way was not as bad as my school, maybe because it was also a private school. Anyway, a group of young people together, no parents, different platoons, and of-course for we girls we had "boys" and for the boys, they had "girls." We had major fun and learned that being young and a christian was a plus and was cool too; this allowed me to freely love the Lord till this day.
Anyway, that was just side story abi na reminiecing, my friend and i never really reestablished that primary school love, but regardless we remained friends. We both met up in the US of A again and started an adult friendship, we prayed together, belonged to a group she had started of young women dealing with everything-life, relationships, being a christian, etc. That was wonderful too.
Couple of years ago, my friend got married to the love of her life. In spite of the different talk that she was too young, some said maybe she wanted to have sex, but wanted to do the right thing-inside marriage. One time she had asked me to go with her to some guy's b/day get-together, this was her first appearance with the guy's family and she needed back up. The good friend i was, i kuku ma went. Six months or less, down the time, my friend calls me one random day and says she's getting married and would love for me to be a bridesmaid. Now, i can't really remember the engagement period, but i remember us planning for this wedding sha. I went with her dress shopping a couple of times, and bridesmaids outfit shopping too. The wedding was beautiful, couple of friends from primary school reunited, and some from that camp back in nigeria.
Another year and a half later, my friend had her first child, beautiful little girl, first child i saw with her eyes open two days after they had her.
Another two years down the line and my friend is getting a divorce. What went wrong? I don't know. She's a God-fearing young woman, She knows the word of God and bible principles and all that. She's spoken/counselled young girls over a period of time too; so i can't explain what went wrong. Now the problem is that my friend has up to this date not told me a thing. I heard from her husband. Because of some arrangement, i happen to see my friend almost everyday. Should i mention it to her that i know? I'm i supposed to say sorry about your marriage? or just act like nothing is happening.
This morning, in regards to something with their child, my friend's husband told me, can't you talk to her? Isn't she your friend? What am i supposed to say? I'm really not the kind to interfer in people's family affairs, never been married before so i don't even have advice to give.
Anyone has any thots?
We split ways at the end of primary school as she went on to a private school and i was shipped far away to one of those federal girls school in a town i had never heard before that time. Of-course we made new sets of friends, but everytime i came back home we got in touch but i guess that relationship never went back to the way we had it.
I actually attribute a part of whom i am today to my primary school best friend for some reason. I believe the year was 1995. My friend invited me to a christian camp that she attended the previous year, and since i was still trying to get that old relationship we had, i was willing to go to another town and spend a week out of my dear vacation at another boarding school, which by the way was not as bad as my school, maybe because it was also a private school. Anyway, a group of young people together, no parents, different platoons, and of-course for we girls we had "boys" and for the boys, they had "girls." We had major fun and learned that being young and a christian was a plus and was cool too; this allowed me to freely love the Lord till this day.
Anyway, that was just side story abi na reminiecing, my friend and i never really reestablished that primary school love, but regardless we remained friends. We both met up in the US of A again and started an adult friendship, we prayed together, belonged to a group she had started of young women dealing with everything-life, relationships, being a christian, etc. That was wonderful too.
Couple of years ago, my friend got married to the love of her life. In spite of the different talk that she was too young, some said maybe she wanted to have sex, but wanted to do the right thing-inside marriage. One time she had asked me to go with her to some guy's b/day get-together, this was her first appearance with the guy's family and she needed back up. The good friend i was, i kuku ma went. Six months or less, down the time, my friend calls me one random day and says she's getting married and would love for me to be a bridesmaid. Now, i can't really remember the engagement period, but i remember us planning for this wedding sha. I went with her dress shopping a couple of times, and bridesmaids outfit shopping too. The wedding was beautiful, couple of friends from primary school reunited, and some from that camp back in nigeria.
Another year and a half later, my friend had her first child, beautiful little girl, first child i saw with her eyes open two days after they had her.
Another two years down the line and my friend is getting a divorce. What went wrong? I don't know. She's a God-fearing young woman, She knows the word of God and bible principles and all that. She's spoken/counselled young girls over a period of time too; so i can't explain what went wrong. Now the problem is that my friend has up to this date not told me a thing. I heard from her husband. Because of some arrangement, i happen to see my friend almost everyday. Should i mention it to her that i know? I'm i supposed to say sorry about your marriage? or just act like nothing is happening.
This morning, in regards to something with their child, my friend's husband told me, can't you talk to her? Isn't she your friend? What am i supposed to say? I'm really not the kind to interfer in people's family affairs, never been married before so i don't even have advice to give.
Anyone has any thots?
Friday, November 9, 2007
See me see Wahala
Ok, so this girl eh, i don't even know what kinda games she's playing. I know she's suspicious of my friendship with her brother who has a girlfriend but pays me too much attention, but hey... if i'm good like that, i can't blame him. But on a serious note though, i don't want her brother like that, he really is just a good friend and i even advice him on his babe sef. I know this girl has issues with it still though, because someone else confirmed it to me.
So why is she now offering me a man? even after i said i'm in a relationship o? calls me up today about some 37 year old man looking for a wife. The man's birthday is this coming sunday and he wants her to bring him a wifey material girl and this _ _ _ _ _(thank God i'm saved) calls me up askng me if i wanted to go.
I don't even know what to say to her... i feel insulted sef. Ok i'm closer to 30 than i want to believe and so what? I'm not desperating looking to get married in the next 3-6 months; sorry but for me 37 is old. close to 40 does not sound attracting to me. Besides, God forgive me o, if judging by the girls crew, the guy i'm suspecting has to be kinda on the yoruba fuji side. I say that because a group of them gather together often saying they are from "isale eko" (downtown lagos) you know, for lack of a better word, i'll use the word razz, with their fuji kinda music.
Ok, i know what to tell her now. I guess this writing thing works.
So why is she now offering me a man? even after i said i'm in a relationship o? calls me up today about some 37 year old man looking for a wife. The man's birthday is this coming sunday and he wants her to bring him a wifey material girl and this _ _ _ _ _(thank God i'm saved) calls me up askng me if i wanted to go.
I don't even know what to say to her... i feel insulted sef. Ok i'm closer to 30 than i want to believe and so what? I'm not desperating looking to get married in the next 3-6 months; sorry but for me 37 is old. close to 40 does not sound attracting to me. Besides, God forgive me o, if judging by the girls crew, the guy i'm suspecting has to be kinda on the yoruba fuji side. I say that because a group of them gather together often saying they are from "isale eko" (downtown lagos) you know, for lack of a better word, i'll use the word razz, with their fuji kinda music.
Ok, i know what to tell her now. I guess this writing thing works.
Wednesday, November 7, 2007
A Plea
I'm using this medium to appeal to all armed robbers in nigeria. In the name of God, i'm begging you on my knees and from the innermost part of my heart and with everything that is within and is of me; LEAVE MY PAPA ALONE! He is all i have; abeg have mercy on a motherless child, i know you have one at home yourself- (Mi o shako) (it is not yanga) let atleast one of these people see their grandchildren (well atleast from me) or even let the ones he has now grow pass the age of 5; in this case, since death was cruel enough to take his wife, then you robbers should allow this one time.
Allow him to reap the fruits of his labor, the man tried, i lie to you not. The man actually told me one day like this that even if he has to drink garri everyday, we his children will not suffer; and suffer, we did not.
It's only remaining small eh, i will marry and have those kids the man wants to see, abeg let him atleast walk his daughter down the aisle, he has not gotten the opportunity to do that yet as per the ones wey don marry are boys. I still don't have that money yet to buy the man his car or whatever it is he wants, so abeg allow me time eh, biko, ejoo.
But sha o, you rogues no dey fear sha, i can bet the man is older than your parents at home, and you still had the guts to tell him to lie flat on the floor. It's sad to say that driving in nigeria, you anticipate things like this and have hidden corners in your car. You people didn't find the 3 mobile phones the man carries around like his into some shady business abi? sorry about that.
But ehh, abeg, if you happen to be reading this, return the cologne in the traveling bag, i beg of you, if you want cologne, just e-mail i will buy, but papa's own dey cost me too much money and i just got that one, me thinking i'm good to go atleast till January, then una just take am like that. There are still no money tries in this country, i work pretty damn hard and every penny counts. The rest of the trouser and shirts, and the senegalese kaftan, i give you permission to keep or give to your own folks.
As you can see, i have not insulted you in this message, i could have cursed you and your entire household. But as a child of God, all i have done is pleaded with you... so please ehh, harken. I will also leave you with advice from the good book:
Exodus 20:15: “THOU SHALT NOT STEAL
woe be unto the man, woman, boy or girl who breaks this commandment!
"Let those who have ears, hear". (and those who have eyes, read)
Allow him to reap the fruits of his labor, the man tried, i lie to you not. The man actually told me one day like this that even if he has to drink garri everyday, we his children will not suffer; and suffer, we did not.
It's only remaining small eh, i will marry and have those kids the man wants to see, abeg let him atleast walk his daughter down the aisle, he has not gotten the opportunity to do that yet as per the ones wey don marry are boys. I still don't have that money yet to buy the man his car or whatever it is he wants, so abeg allow me time eh, biko, ejoo.
But sha o, you rogues no dey fear sha, i can bet the man is older than your parents at home, and you still had the guts to tell him to lie flat on the floor. It's sad to say that driving in nigeria, you anticipate things like this and have hidden corners in your car. You people didn't find the 3 mobile phones the man carries around like his into some shady business abi? sorry about that.
But ehh, abeg, if you happen to be reading this, return the cologne in the traveling bag, i beg of you, if you want cologne, just e-mail i will buy, but papa's own dey cost me too much money and i just got that one, me thinking i'm good to go atleast till January, then una just take am like that. There are still no money tries in this country, i work pretty damn hard and every penny counts. The rest of the trouser and shirts, and the senegalese kaftan, i give you permission to keep or give to your own folks.
As you can see, i have not insulted you in this message, i could have cursed you and your entire household. But as a child of God, all i have done is pleaded with you... so please ehh, harken. I will also leave you with advice from the good book:
Exodus 20:15: “THOU SHALT NOT STEAL
woe be unto the man, woman, boy or girl who breaks this commandment!
"Let those who have ears, hear". (and those who have eyes, read)
Thursday, November 1, 2007
Spider/Superstition
I officially have to stop watching yourba movies.
Last week i watched one movie that this guy got charmed after supposedly walking through a spider's web.
Well, today at work same thing happened to me. I ignored it and got it off my face until a co-worker of mine said i had a spider on my hair. For some dumb reason i paniced, after she took it off i started to plead the blood of Jesus, at the same time rejecting and rebuking every plan contrary to the plan of God over my life.
Meanwhile this lady is looking at me, if she could speak pigin, she would probably have asked "abi i don kolo." She's indian and actually told me it was a good omen in her country. Something about my wishes would come to pass. I really just starred at her like a zombie.
Last week i watched one movie that this guy got charmed after supposedly walking through a spider's web.
Well, today at work same thing happened to me. I ignored it and got it off my face until a co-worker of mine said i had a spider on my hair. For some dumb reason i paniced, after she took it off i started to plead the blood of Jesus, at the same time rejecting and rebuking every plan contrary to the plan of God over my life.
Meanwhile this lady is looking at me, if she could speak pigin, she would probably have asked "abi i don kolo." She's indian and actually told me it was a good omen in her country. Something about my wishes would come to pass. I really just starred at her like a zombie.
Monday, October 29, 2007
I just realized i actually have a harder time opening up than i thought. I'm really a personal person and this blogging thing has only just made me realize how bad i have it. There are actually only two people in my real world that know i have a blog. One has no access to it, at least that's what i think, and the other, "my friend" i blogged about, i doubt can remember the web address. Yet i realize that i can't open up on the blog; i would rather blog bout someone else's story or gist than mine. Hmmm, Interesting.
Anyway, while doing some blog rounds, i realized one thing a lot of we female bloggers have in common is our male isssues, and the funniest of late is that of those looking for "life partners." I read a post from vera's blog and i completely share the sentiments. Thanks Vera for keeping it too real. (Those when are you getting married, or when is your turn questions are alot nerving.)
What's funny is that i've seen and heard my engagement being planned infront of me without me being engaged. My uncle, aunt, and i had just gotten back from one of many weddings, i guess this one must have been a really nice one, can't even remember myself but i do remember while we sat analyzing everyone and everything that went down, the conversation drifted to how they would do it different for my wedding. It was so funny it was ridiculous; the conversation went from how the back of the house would be decorated, the canopies to be rented, to the colors of the day, the "elere" as we yorubas call the entertainers to perform, and all the good stuff involved with weddings. All of this planning going on without me being engaged o. What i'm i talking about, infact without me having a boyfriend. Sad huh?
I understand they are anxious like every other parent but abeg, can they cut me some slack. Every guy friend that comes looking for me has become a potential in my house and my uncle is quick to ask what kinda friend after the initial introduction. Atleast, i like his style, his quick to ask in front of the two of us-it's ok, i always prepare them guys ready if they are coming to the house for the first time. My aunt on the other hand waits until we're alone to ask what the deal is with the guy. Of-course i'm quick to say we're just friends, then she begins her short lecture on being a good wife, and the fact that we women just have to deal with men the way they are, they don't have to be perfect, just try to work with what you have...blah, blah, blah.
And then there are the other uncles and aunties out there, including those ones that are not even real aunties and uncles, the by default ones. Those ones that often expect you to bring some dude to an event or the other and when that does not happen they ask "Oko e da?" like Oko translates to husband, abeg who put ring on my finger? Then they also want to introduce you to some random dude they believe will make a good husband or that they are convinced is a good match for you; meanwhile i'm thinking to myself why the dude can't find his own babe. One of several reasons, his a tat bit too old, (forgive me for this), but maybe his razz, or he just cannot talk to a female by himself. Oh yeah, there is also that uncle that asks any and everybody if they have a good and intelligent younger brother, cousin, or friend that is looking for a wife. Maybe they've not heard me say it loud enough, I CAN FIND MY OWN MAN, AND I WILL!! Just waiting for God to do His thing!
On the other hand, it's funny how there are still the ones that believe that i'm so secretive and hiding the guy. Common now, i'm getting old, at my age why would i be doing under J with any guy? Although, the rate everyone around me is desperately waiting for it, i may just keep the guy on the downlow for real. Like some guy also told me, "i don't look like the kind that does not have a boyfriend. I'm actually considering writing "No man" on my head to church on for sundays. Not like there are any eligible bachs' at my church sha, but just a thought, would like to see the reults.
I've also heard that i'm too fast in judging guys and condemning them. This i know is not true really. Ok, so i like smart people, is that my fault? I can't stand a guy that can't keep up a conversation, or a guy that his conversation is centered around the same boring stuff, so i'm into nigerian politics? What is wrong with that? If you don't follow it, it's ok but don't give me a dumb look like i'm out of my mind. I say you're "cynical" and you're asking me what does that mean? or our conversation can only be sweet when it's in yoruba, now that's the worse one of all. I've actually had a guy tell me he prefers to speak yoruba than english, silly, that's because you can't speak good english.
Ok, i started this post with something else in mind and i think it's taken another direction and it's just a rant now. I can't be bothered to go back and edit either, it's become a long post too and that's because i'm in the library and too tired to actually study so i thought i'ld write...
Anyway, while doing some blog rounds, i realized one thing a lot of we female bloggers have in common is our male isssues, and the funniest of late is that of those looking for "life partners." I read a post from vera's blog and i completely share the sentiments. Thanks Vera for keeping it too real. (Those when are you getting married, or when is your turn questions are alot nerving.)
What's funny is that i've seen and heard my engagement being planned infront of me without me being engaged. My uncle, aunt, and i had just gotten back from one of many weddings, i guess this one must have been a really nice one, can't even remember myself but i do remember while we sat analyzing everyone and everything that went down, the conversation drifted to how they would do it different for my wedding. It was so funny it was ridiculous; the conversation went from how the back of the house would be decorated, the canopies to be rented, to the colors of the day, the "elere" as we yorubas call the entertainers to perform, and all the good stuff involved with weddings. All of this planning going on without me being engaged o. What i'm i talking about, infact without me having a boyfriend. Sad huh?
I understand they are anxious like every other parent but abeg, can they cut me some slack. Every guy friend that comes looking for me has become a potential in my house and my uncle is quick to ask what kinda friend after the initial introduction. Atleast, i like his style, his quick to ask in front of the two of us-it's ok, i always prepare them guys ready if they are coming to the house for the first time. My aunt on the other hand waits until we're alone to ask what the deal is with the guy. Of-course i'm quick to say we're just friends, then she begins her short lecture on being a good wife, and the fact that we women just have to deal with men the way they are, they don't have to be perfect, just try to work with what you have...blah, blah, blah.
And then there are the other uncles and aunties out there, including those ones that are not even real aunties and uncles, the by default ones. Those ones that often expect you to bring some dude to an event or the other and when that does not happen they ask "Oko e da?" like Oko translates to husband, abeg who put ring on my finger? Then they also want to introduce you to some random dude they believe will make a good husband or that they are convinced is a good match for you; meanwhile i'm thinking to myself why the dude can't find his own babe. One of several reasons, his a tat bit too old, (forgive me for this), but maybe his razz, or he just cannot talk to a female by himself. Oh yeah, there is also that uncle that asks any and everybody if they have a good and intelligent younger brother, cousin, or friend that is looking for a wife. Maybe they've not heard me say it loud enough, I CAN FIND MY OWN MAN, AND I WILL!! Just waiting for God to do His thing!
On the other hand, it's funny how there are still the ones that believe that i'm so secretive and hiding the guy. Common now, i'm getting old, at my age why would i be doing under J with any guy? Although, the rate everyone around me is desperately waiting for it, i may just keep the guy on the downlow for real. Like some guy also told me, "i don't look like the kind that does not have a boyfriend. I'm actually considering writing "No man" on my head to church on for sundays. Not like there are any eligible bachs' at my church sha, but just a thought, would like to see the reults.
I've also heard that i'm too fast in judging guys and condemning them. This i know is not true really. Ok, so i like smart people, is that my fault? I can't stand a guy that can't keep up a conversation, or a guy that his conversation is centered around the same boring stuff, so i'm into nigerian politics? What is wrong with that? If you don't follow it, it's ok but don't give me a dumb look like i'm out of my mind. I say you're "cynical" and you're asking me what does that mean? or our conversation can only be sweet when it's in yoruba, now that's the worse one of all. I've actually had a guy tell me he prefers to speak yoruba than english, silly, that's because you can't speak good english.
Ok, i started this post with something else in mind and i think it's taken another direction and it's just a rant now. I can't be bothered to go back and edit either, it's become a long post too and that's because i'm in the library and too tired to actually study so i thought i'ld write...
Monday, October 22, 2007
Nursery Rhymes
Yesterday, my cousin reminded me of the nursery rhymes from back in the days. Unfortunately, kids in yankee are not taught a lot of these rhymes these days. Anyway, she pointed out something and it actually gave us a real crack up. The fact that those songs/rhymes had an element of violence in them. Examples:
Jack and Jill went up the hill...: Abeg, why does Jack have to break his neck?
Goosey Goosey Gander: Why did they have to throw the old man that could not say his prayer down the stairs: "i took him by the left leg, and threw him down the stairs."
Rock-a-bye-baby: Please why is anyone rocking a baby by the tree top, surely that can't be soothing.
Three blind mice: Why do they have to chase the farmer's wife and then she had to get all poster on them and cut off their tails with a knife.
Ever famous Humpty Dumpty: The poor thing broke into too many pieces. (My sister has quite a nice drawing she did of this, i should put it up, if i can get a hold of it)
I also remember a song from secondary school in nigeria, don't remember all the words, but it had something to do with going to jail: "take a message to Mary, but don't tell where i am, take a message to Mary, but don't tell her i'm in jail; you can tell her i've gone to see the world, tell her i'll be back someday, but tell she better not wait for me, but don't tell her i'm in jail..." Any reason why this person was in jail?
Anyway, just thought all of these were funny, no wonder America is not teaching their kids these songs, many would agree that they don't need it at the rate they are going; 6 year old getting chased by police after stealing school bus, 5 year old killing younger sister, 6 year old stealing grandma's car to go to get something to eat. Now, this story is funny, 6 year old boy really wanted food from some eatery, took his granma's car, transfered his car seat to the front, belted himself and just drove off until he ran into an electric pole.
What a wonderful world we live in!!!
Jack and Jill went up the hill...: Abeg, why does Jack have to break his neck?
Goosey Goosey Gander: Why did they have to throw the old man that could not say his prayer down the stairs: "i took him by the left leg, and threw him down the stairs."
Rock-a-bye-baby: Please why is anyone rocking a baby by the tree top, surely that can't be soothing.
Three blind mice: Why do they have to chase the farmer's wife and then she had to get all poster on them and cut off their tails with a knife.
Ever famous Humpty Dumpty: The poor thing broke into too many pieces. (My sister has quite a nice drawing she did of this, i should put it up, if i can get a hold of it)
I also remember a song from secondary school in nigeria, don't remember all the words, but it had something to do with going to jail: "take a message to Mary, but don't tell where i am, take a message to Mary, but don't tell her i'm in jail; you can tell her i've gone to see the world, tell her i'll be back someday, but tell she better not wait for me, but don't tell her i'm in jail..." Any reason why this person was in jail?
Anyway, just thought all of these were funny, no wonder America is not teaching their kids these songs, many would agree that they don't need it at the rate they are going; 6 year old getting chased by police after stealing school bus, 5 year old killing younger sister, 6 year old stealing grandma's car to go to get something to eat. Now, this story is funny, 6 year old boy really wanted food from some eatery, took his granma's car, transfered his car seat to the front, belted himself and just drove off until he ran into an electric pole.
What a wonderful world we live in!!!
Friday, October 19, 2007
Really can't think of a good title
So, i'm at work and this new indian lady is reading palms, of-course them nosy people hear want to hear what they have to say about everyone and i'm coerced into it. Now i must say i absolutely do not believe in palm reading but it was interesting hearing her. Right in front of them all i was quick to reject all the nonsense in the mighty name of Jesus. But in all, i guess i'm going to have some good money somewhere along the line, i have a strong aura about me and my faith line is really good, i'm still going to read some more, even though i've convinced myself that no PHD in my future, i mean, me is completely tired of this reading business-masters i believe is the height of it for me, and like my aunt keeps begging my uncle to stop encouraging me to do Phd so that i can get married and have kids.
Now, the funny one is that she currently sees no love/marriage line. I don't think some of these people understand heaven principles sha. It's o.k, i doubt they've heard bout some serious "fire" prayers that make things happen or our mountain top prayers. With those kinda support, i'm bound to have my own husband. Oh, yeah, so she sees only one child and another half line which means the child was supposed but never came into existence.(abortion or stillborn) Me i don't know....and my life line is actually long too. (Funny).
Once again, i rebuke the devourer over my life in Jesus name.
Now, the funny one is that she currently sees no love/marriage line. I don't think some of these people understand heaven principles sha. It's o.k, i doubt they've heard bout some serious "fire" prayers that make things happen or our mountain top prayers. With those kinda support, i'm bound to have my own husband. Oh, yeah, so she sees only one child and another half line which means the child was supposed but never came into existence.(abortion or stillborn) Me i don't know....and my life line is actually long too. (Funny).
Once again, i rebuke the devourer over my life in Jesus name.
Thursday, October 18, 2007
Period
I really think there should be a law that says females can be off work maximum 3 days during their monthly.
Unfortunately i'm one of those people that have bad cramps and people around me know. I'm at work cramping and no one can beg me to get off my seat for any reason because i'm too weak and my back hurts too much for me to get up.
For this reason, i think i should be able to take off work without worrying. It should be a labor law for real...
Unfortunately i'm one of those people that have bad cramps and people around me know. I'm at work cramping and no one can beg me to get off my seat for any reason because i'm too weak and my back hurts too much for me to get up.
For this reason, i think i should be able to take off work without worrying. It should be a labor law for real...
Wednesday, October 17, 2007
Two posts in one day, achievement for me.
Two days ago...
Man: Hey girl how you doing?
Me: Hey long time, how have you been? daughter?, and your wife?
Man: Everyone is good.
Man: So you seeing someone now?
Me: Oh Yeah, about time rite?
Man: It's all good, you happy?
Me: Of-course
Man: You sure?
Me: yeah i'm sure
Man: Oh just checking, anyway, you looking good as usual, take care o.k
Me: yeah you too
Today...
phone rings
Me: goodafternoon, blah blah blah, may i help you?
Man: Yes, can i speak to s.chic?
Me: This is she
Man: Hey girl, it's mE
Me: Oh hi, what's up?
Man: Nothing much
Man: Hey, you know J's mom and i seperated a while ago
Me: Oh really, didn't know that, sorry bout that
Mna: Yeah, you know how things are
Me: Hmm, i don't, i'm not married yet.
Man: Anyway, just wanted to give you my number, you know, if you wanted to hang out sometime or have dinner you can give me a call. Send me a text with your phone so i don't have to call the job anymore ok?
Me: oh sure, what's the number?
At this point i'm pretending to be writing the number
Man: Ok, so give me buzz then, and we'll hang out, have get drinks. I'll stop by to see you when i come around there again ok.?
Me: Sure, yeah.
Biko! Ogini! egbami! a whole s.chic? I'm sure there are still single men out there without wives or kids for me to come and be settling for such mess. It is well sha!
Two days ago...
Man: Hey girl how you doing?
Me: Hey long time, how have you been? daughter?, and your wife?
Man: Everyone is good.
Man: So you seeing someone now?
Me: Oh Yeah, about time rite?
Man: It's all good, you happy?
Me: Of-course
Man: You sure?
Me: yeah i'm sure
Man: Oh just checking, anyway, you looking good as usual, take care o.k
Me: yeah you too
Today...
phone rings
Me: goodafternoon, blah blah blah, may i help you?
Man: Yes, can i speak to s.chic?
Me: This is she
Man: Hey girl, it's mE
Me: Oh hi, what's up?
Man: Nothing much
Man: Hey, you know J's mom and i seperated a while ago
Me: Oh really, didn't know that, sorry bout that
Mna: Yeah, you know how things are
Me: Hmm, i don't, i'm not married yet.
Man: Anyway, just wanted to give you my number, you know, if you wanted to hang out sometime or have dinner you can give me a call. Send me a text with your phone so i don't have to call the job anymore ok?
Me: oh sure, what's the number?
At this point i'm pretending to be writing the number
Man: Ok, so give me buzz then, and we'll hang out, have get drinks. I'll stop by to see you when i come around there again ok.?
Me: Sure, yeah.
Biko! Ogini! egbami! a whole s.chic? I'm sure there are still single men out there without wives or kids for me to come and be settling for such mess. It is well sha!
My Friend
Still in line with my just writing series, had a funny conversation with a dear friend of mine (sweetie, u know this is about you since you're the only one with access to this blog in my real world, so abeg permit me to do this... i'm still pondering bout our conversation.)
Anyway, So i'm chatting with a very dear friend of mine when he says "s.chic i have a confession." In all my vainness i'm thinking "Oh Lord, i hope his not falling for me!" when he hits me with a bigger one with " I have desires for other women."
Now, my friend is a married man. I was short of words (very unusual for me.) After a minute i thought about it and started to understand his plight. (ok maybe not understand sha, but have an idea.)
Let me just say i really admire my friend for admitting this fact though, his guy friends are surprised his still not cheating on his wife especially being in nigeria and we all know how some of our young ladies parade themselves and his in the entertainment/fashion industry. He knows it's wrong and his been controlling those desires but not sure how long it will last. A big part of the problem is coming from the bedroom (if you know what i mean.) His wife is a beautiful woman and they've got two wonderful little cuties. She's very conservative and the kind you want to have at home.
My friend admits that one of the problem is that his wife is conservative to the extent that a "lot" of things he wants to do, he finds it hard doing in the bedroom because he can't be too wild. Don't want to go into too much details, but my little two cents, (as usual) is that he teaches his wife what he wants to do to her and what he wants her to do to him. I strongly believe that as long as you're doing things in your marriage bed, then there are no limits or boundaries to what can be done. We actually had a discussion about this at young adults fellowship one-time, the topic has something to do with oral sex being right or wrong even if you're doing it to your husband/wife. At the end of the day, those that stayed firm on the ground that it was alrite still did not change, and some decided it was sinful.
But on another note, i guess my question is that is this desires by men helpable or not? I've asked a couple of guys and they all seem to agree that it's normal for men to have those desires, acting up on them is a different thing. For this reason, many say that atleast 90% of men will cheat on there wife one time or the other during marriage because they just can't help it. God Help us all...
Anyway, So i'm chatting with a very dear friend of mine when he says "s.chic i have a confession." In all my vainness i'm thinking "Oh Lord, i hope his not falling for me!" when he hits me with a bigger one with " I have desires for other women."
Now, my friend is a married man. I was short of words (very unusual for me.) After a minute i thought about it and started to understand his plight. (ok maybe not understand sha, but have an idea.)
Let me just say i really admire my friend for admitting this fact though, his guy friends are surprised his still not cheating on his wife especially being in nigeria and we all know how some of our young ladies parade themselves and his in the entertainment/fashion industry. He knows it's wrong and his been controlling those desires but not sure how long it will last. A big part of the problem is coming from the bedroom (if you know what i mean.) His wife is a beautiful woman and they've got two wonderful little cuties. She's very conservative and the kind you want to have at home.
My friend admits that one of the problem is that his wife is conservative to the extent that a "lot" of things he wants to do, he finds it hard doing in the bedroom because he can't be too wild. Don't want to go into too much details, but my little two cents, (as usual) is that he teaches his wife what he wants to do to her and what he wants her to do to him. I strongly believe that as long as you're doing things in your marriage bed, then there are no limits or boundaries to what can be done. We actually had a discussion about this at young adults fellowship one-time, the topic has something to do with oral sex being right or wrong even if you're doing it to your husband/wife. At the end of the day, those that stayed firm on the ground that it was alrite still did not change, and some decided it was sinful.
But on another note, i guess my question is that is this desires by men helpable or not? I've asked a couple of guys and they all seem to agree that it's normal for men to have those desires, acting up on them is a different thing. For this reason, many say that atleast 90% of men will cheat on there wife one time or the other during marriage because they just can't help it. God Help us all...
Tuesday, October 16, 2007
Just Writing
Finally took that bloody exam... well i won't say much until i get my "pass" or "fair."
Now i can blog more, then again i doubt i can ever really be consistent, i admire those who dedicate time to this thing.
Anyway, i do have a lot to talk about but my train of thought is scattered sef so as you can tell already i'm just rambling.
It's funny how this life works sha (i need to stop this "sha" habit) but anyway, my very good friend "J" is desperating looking to get married. I think desperate is an understatement for how she's looking but i can't seem to find a betterword to describe her situation. At our young age, she's convinced we must have a problem or that their are external forces (now, that angle always gets me laughing, "get thee behind me satan!") behind our not currently seeing someone. For her, last 6-8 months is the longest she's been without being with someone and she has a big problem letting people know that; as in she's ashamed to let people know that she's single. The rationale behind that is truly beyond moi. So "J" has had many potentials along the way including her last boyfriend, Yemisi. I thought Yemisi was really cool but not ready for that kinda commitment that "J" wanted. The chap was still trying to complete undergrad degree and figure things out. But of-course my dear friend is ahead of the game. She's got an MBA already and she's got a pretty cool job too so i guess that relationship didn't last but for a while.
After Yemisi, they've been a series of potentials but none that she got into a relationship with. There was Seun which she declared her love to but homeboy only saw her as a sister, there was this other chap who is not nigerian but is actually really cool, but it's a no go area for my dear friend because her family is very very, i repeat, very very traditional to the core. Now the funniest one bros K. Yeah, another church bros. Now, for some crazy reason my dear friend is beginning to like bros K, but she's ashamed to say it out too. Today i finally got her to say what she's been ashamed to say. First, let me explain my dear friend. "J" is a beautiful black girl, tall, slim, (the kind they call "lepa"). "J" dresses to kill, she's one of those that can't be caught not doing it up, or having a bad hair day unlike me. "J" does not wear flip flops or slippers out for any reason it's always got to be something fancy. I have to add though that she has a wonderful heart and a beautiful spirit; Oh, she's also in the choir, infact she's like the choir mistress or something of the sort. So, bros K is not a bad looking chap sha, but not to mince words, his simply the yoruba speaking type. Today while chatting with my friend she finally confessed that the social status level was way different, there seem to be a generational gap thing going on as well even though the guy is only 31 but acts like his 50. The guy loves oldies like sunny ade and obey (which i see nothing wrong with becos i like too) but she can't handle that either. It would take too much to "polish" him up inspite of the fact that the guy is an accountant. I confession had me cracking the twist is that she actually likes him though, his witty, caring, and she actually believes he'll be a good husband.
Now the dilema is can she let go with all the rest of the stuff and be with him or just let go of him completely. Left to me, i truly have no idea and can't advice. I've given my own two cents though which is that whatever makes her happy and at peace is what she should do! abi?
O.k spent more time doing this than i thot, guess i'll have to go on with my rantings larra.
Now i can blog more, then again i doubt i can ever really be consistent, i admire those who dedicate time to this thing.
Anyway, i do have a lot to talk about but my train of thought is scattered sef so as you can tell already i'm just rambling.
It's funny how this life works sha (i need to stop this "sha" habit) but anyway, my very good friend "J" is desperating looking to get married. I think desperate is an understatement for how she's looking but i can't seem to find a betterword to describe her situation. At our young age, she's convinced we must have a problem or that their are external forces (now, that angle always gets me laughing, "get thee behind me satan!") behind our not currently seeing someone. For her, last 6-8 months is the longest she's been without being with someone and she has a big problem letting people know that; as in she's ashamed to let people know that she's single. The rationale behind that is truly beyond moi. So "J" has had many potentials along the way including her last boyfriend, Yemisi. I thought Yemisi was really cool but not ready for that kinda commitment that "J" wanted. The chap was still trying to complete undergrad degree and figure things out. But of-course my dear friend is ahead of the game. She's got an MBA already and she's got a pretty cool job too so i guess that relationship didn't last but for a while.
After Yemisi, they've been a series of potentials but none that she got into a relationship with. There was Seun which she declared her love to but homeboy only saw her as a sister, there was this other chap who is not nigerian but is actually really cool, but it's a no go area for my dear friend because her family is very very, i repeat, very very traditional to the core. Now the funniest one bros K. Yeah, another church bros. Now, for some crazy reason my dear friend is beginning to like bros K, but she's ashamed to say it out too. Today i finally got her to say what she's been ashamed to say. First, let me explain my dear friend. "J" is a beautiful black girl, tall, slim, (the kind they call "lepa"). "J" dresses to kill, she's one of those that can't be caught not doing it up, or having a bad hair day unlike me. "J" does not wear flip flops or slippers out for any reason it's always got to be something fancy. I have to add though that she has a wonderful heart and a beautiful spirit; Oh, she's also in the choir, infact she's like the choir mistress or something of the sort. So, bros K is not a bad looking chap sha, but not to mince words, his simply the yoruba speaking type. Today while chatting with my friend she finally confessed that the social status level was way different, there seem to be a generational gap thing going on as well even though the guy is only 31 but acts like his 50. The guy loves oldies like sunny ade and obey (which i see nothing wrong with becos i like too) but she can't handle that either. It would take too much to "polish" him up inspite of the fact that the guy is an accountant. I confession had me cracking the twist is that she actually likes him though, his witty, caring, and she actually believes he'll be a good husband.
Now the dilema is can she let go with all the rest of the stuff and be with him or just let go of him completely. Left to me, i truly have no idea and can't advice. I've given my own two cents though which is that whatever makes her happy and at peace is what she should do! abi?
O.k spent more time doing this than i thot, guess i'll have to go on with my rantings larra.
Tuesday, October 9, 2007
Friday, October 5, 2007
TIME
s.chic, i know you want to blog but just can't find the time to do so. Wait until after your exam next week, and then you can start putting up proper gist/stuff on your blog...
Thursday, September 27, 2007
Just Wondering
Well, recently i've been praying that God should remove from my life things and people that is not and will not allow His will and His plan for my life to be done.( Some say it's a dangerous prayer, don't really know) anyway, so in the last two weeks, i've stopped talking to three people that were part of my daily routine. So i'm wondering, is that God answering my prayer? One other person, that plays a more significant role, i've not heard from and again, i'm wondering, is that God answering my prayers because now i'm the one going back to look for them. I'm i supposed to let sleeping dogs lie?
Hmm, just wondering...
Hmm, just wondering...
Thursday, September 20, 2007
Friday, September 14, 2007
TGIF
Don't remember if i've ever been happier that it's friday, and for no specific reason. Feel like i need to go home and sleep away the weekend...
Tuesday, August 7, 2007
Random
Hmm... don't understand why i'm attracting married men oh.... another one over the weekend. To think his wife just had #4 child oh.... how sad huh?
Not much of a writer so i'm already short of what to write. But i was thinking today, if anyone i knew ever found this blog site it would be too funny. I'm the last person they'll expect to actually blog. I actually remember finding my sister's blog a some years ago before this craz for blogs. My cousin and i were in total shock, i guess the saying about quiet people is true- you really have to be careful with them, then again, these days i won't be surprised at anything from her, she's truly coming out.
Excited about this weekend already... probably blog about it after the fact.(No has nothing to do with a man)
Still out of my random thoughts, just wondering why is it that the guys we don't fancy that much are the ones that are really into us, and then the ones we fancy are just laid back?
Now that i think about it, since i've been talking about relationships of some sort or the other, i just may make this blog into one that deals with such issues. I sure have a story to tell in regards to that; some funny story too.
Not much of a writer so i'm already short of what to write. But i was thinking today, if anyone i knew ever found this blog site it would be too funny. I'm the last person they'll expect to actually blog. I actually remember finding my sister's blog a some years ago before this craz for blogs. My cousin and i were in total shock, i guess the saying about quiet people is true- you really have to be careful with them, then again, these days i won't be surprised at anything from her, she's truly coming out.
Excited about this weekend already... probably blog about it after the fact.(No has nothing to do with a man)
Still out of my random thoughts, just wondering why is it that the guys we don't fancy that much are the ones that are really into us, and then the ones we fancy are just laid back?
Now that i think about it, since i've been talking about relationships of some sort or the other, i just may make this blog into one that deals with such issues. I sure have a story to tell in regards to that; some funny story too.
Friday, August 3, 2007
TGIF
Thank God it's friday!!!
I'm at work and i'm still bored stiff.... what am i going to do this weekend? I feel like there is much to do and yet nothing to do... not making much sense am i? But it's also kinda of my last week to really enjoy for a while so i'm def. going to make the best use of it somehow.
Men! when God created men, he really did a wonderful job sha. Abeg my people help me oh. So i've got this guy friend, and we've really been cool for a long time. His got a girlfriend but i think we share more things about each other than he even shares with his girlfriend, i've never had a problem with him having a babe oh! And all of a sudden, i tell him i have a new man....(mind you, just said it jokingly) but this homeboy is tripping about it. How he did not hear about him before and how i'm keeping things from him now. In general i'm getting this vibe that his upset about me seeing this my "new man." How far with that? it's o.k for him to have a girlfriend and then i have a new man and it's a problem. I told him this bogus story beginning of the week, and today is friday and i've gotten a new question each day about the guy and if i'm happy. I'm beginning to think he likes me!!! or what was the initial annoyance and all this questioning about?
Abeg, so if you happen to be reading this, please enjoy your weekend. I'll definitely be enjoying mine!
I'm at work and i'm still bored stiff.... what am i going to do this weekend? I feel like there is much to do and yet nothing to do... not making much sense am i? But it's also kinda of my last week to really enjoy for a while so i'm def. going to make the best use of it somehow.
Men! when God created men, he really did a wonderful job sha. Abeg my people help me oh. So i've got this guy friend, and we've really been cool for a long time. His got a girlfriend but i think we share more things about each other than he even shares with his girlfriend, i've never had a problem with him having a babe oh! And all of a sudden, i tell him i have a new man....(mind you, just said it jokingly) but this homeboy is tripping about it. How he did not hear about him before and how i'm keeping things from him now. In general i'm getting this vibe that his upset about me seeing this my "new man." How far with that? it's o.k for him to have a girlfriend and then i have a new man and it's a problem. I told him this bogus story beginning of the week, and today is friday and i've gotten a new question each day about the guy and if i'm happy. I'm beginning to think he likes me!!! or what was the initial annoyance and all this questioning about?
Abeg, so if you happen to be reading this, please enjoy your weekend. I'll definitely be enjoying mine!
Thursday, August 2, 2007
Man vs Mistress
Truly i started this blog out of boredom, but i'm beginning to think it may actually be fun! But abeg, i'm asking anyone who cares to read not to get used to it because even as old as i am, i still have one kin short attention span for things like this.
Anyway, i remember reading,(not sure if it was a blog post or something) but it was about how nigerian men, newly married young men especially,still cheat on their spouses, and i'm thinking to myself what a mess, you would think that as newly married you get atleast a year or two of your husband before he starts wondering outside if his that kinda man.
Low and behold, i find one who is showing me first hand example. Proclaiming his love and how he married his wife out of circumstances that i don't need to "worry my little head about." Sad part of it is i feel sorry for the wife who is back at home while her husband is declaring some serious soul-mate love to another woman in the "land of the free."
So i'm wondering, do some men really think that low of women? or is it some inner male thingy that they can't help it? This homeboy wants a serious relationship not an affair. So abeg i ask, what becomes of me when his wife comes? Can't imagine myself someone's mistress, it sounds really cool, don't get me wrong, after many years of reading Halequine presents (M&B's) i've always wondered about the good life of a mistress. Infact i have the upper hand and can milk the situation for all it's worth.
Hmmm... so i'm asking, if you met someone you believe is all you've wanted your man to be but you know his married, his wife is far away, would you have an affair with him? ladies?
Anyway, i remember reading,(not sure if it was a blog post or something) but it was about how nigerian men, newly married young men especially,still cheat on their spouses, and i'm thinking to myself what a mess, you would think that as newly married you get atleast a year or two of your husband before he starts wondering outside if his that kinda man.
Low and behold, i find one who is showing me first hand example. Proclaiming his love and how he married his wife out of circumstances that i don't need to "worry my little head about." Sad part of it is i feel sorry for the wife who is back at home while her husband is declaring some serious soul-mate love to another woman in the "land of the free."
So i'm wondering, do some men really think that low of women? or is it some inner male thingy that they can't help it? This homeboy wants a serious relationship not an affair. So abeg i ask, what becomes of me when his wife comes? Can't imagine myself someone's mistress, it sounds really cool, don't get me wrong, after many years of reading Halequine presents (M&B's) i've always wondered about the good life of a mistress. Infact i have the upper hand and can milk the situation for all it's worth.
Hmmm... so i'm asking, if you met someone you believe is all you've wanted your man to be but you know his married, his wife is far away, would you have an affair with him? ladies?
Wednesday, August 1, 2007
I'm blogging
So, i've finally joined this blogging thing.... let's see how long i can last... was never able to keep a journal
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