Just writing

I'm so busy both at home and at work, yet i'm so out of my mind bored...i really need a more engaging social life for real...someone's response to that is that i need to get married...next level in life...hmmm...

Picked up daddy s.chic bout 2 days ago from the airport and since then it's been one thing or the other. The man does not even want to settle down sef...his explanation is that he went to go see mami (granma) before he left to tell her he was going away to see his girls and she asked when next we were coming to see her and he replied soon...her reply to that was that hmm"will they meet me at this rate?" Well, as a result, daddy s.chic feels like he needs to do everything he has to do real fast just in case...as if anything happens he has to go back right away...hopefully mami will still give us some time sha...

Oh, i've concluded that my sense of direction is really really poor. So airport is like an hour away from us oh...on the way back, y was i challenging the GPS thing? Once it said one way, i would say no oh, the place looks familiar, only to find out i really did take the wrong direction and i would hear "recalculating" from the Oyinbo voice.

Oh ladies, please look at the comments at the last profile. An anonymous lady put a comment up about how we should be open and allow younger guys in...please check it out...i kinda agree u know, but maybe the age must be like 1yr difference sha.
Dearest Ms. Omosewa also suggests maybe we should put e-mails up, but i think for some of us, that would be revealing our identity. If you want me to put ur e-mail up, please feel free to send me an e-mail indicating that.

I actually have a question i'm embarassed about asking, but it's a blog abi? I'm thinking out loud on computer and no one knows me like that-well, except for a few and the others(others u know urselves oh)...lol...but don't they say if u don't ask, u'll never know? Ok, i know someone is probably saying just ask the damn question! You sef you're u too like talk!

Anywayyyyy, i was just wondering, u know, with oral sex and all, many agree and many disagree...until i understand it, then i'll share what i believe...but my question is...

what pleasure do men get from going down on females? I'm just wondering if men just enjoy pleasuring the female, as in, is it her expression or the sounds she makes or something or they themselves derive a pleasure from it?

ok, don't condemn me yet ohh...i'm God-fearing but i'm still human...my mind is allowed to wonder abi? or it's a sin for wondering like that?

Ok, i'm going to go check with the pastor so i can pray for forgiveness...lol...but u know, one pastor said one time like this that if a man is not married by the time his 30, please let's ask him where his putting his "thing." So i'm guessing conversations like that are only human...

ok, me dey go abeg...done enough rambling... i have a meeting that i may fall asleep in now...

Two posts in one day, achievement for me.

Two days ago...
Man: Hey girl how you doing?
Me: Hey long time, how have you been? daughter?, and your wife?
Man: Everyone is good.
Man: So you seeing someone now?
Me: Oh Yeah, about time rite?
Man: It's all good, you happy?
Me: Of-course
Man: You sure?
Me: yeah i'm sure
Man: Oh just checking, anyway, you looking good as usual, take care o.k
Me: yeah you too

Today...

phone rings

Me: goodafternoon, blah blah blah, may i help you?
Man: Yes, can i speak to s.chic?
Me: This is she
Man: Hey girl, it's mE
Me: Oh hi, what's up?
Man: Nothing much
Man: Hey, you know J's mom and i seperated a while ago
Me: Oh really, didn't know that, sorry bout that
Mna: Yeah, you know how things are
Me: Hmm, i don't, i'm not married yet.
Man: Anyway, just wanted to give you my number, you know, if you wanted to hang out sometime or have dinner you can give me a call. Send me a text with your phone so i don't have to call the job anymore ok?
Me: oh sure, what's the number?

At this point i'm pretending to be writing the number

Man: Ok, so give me buzz then, and we'll hang out, have get drinks. I'll stop by to see you when i come around there again ok.?
Me: Sure, yeah.

Biko! Ogini! egbami! a whole s.chic? I'm sure there are still single men out there without wives or kids for me to come and be settling for such mess. It is well sha!

My Friend

Still in line with my just writing series, had a funny conversation with a dear friend of mine (sweetie, u know this is about you since you're the only one with access to this blog in my real world, so abeg permit me to do this... i'm still pondering bout our conversation.)

Anyway, So i'm chatting with a very dear friend of mine when he says "s.chic i have a confession." In all my vainness i'm thinking "Oh Lord, i hope his not falling for me!" when he hits me with a bigger one with " I have desires for other women."

Now, my friend is a married man. I was short of words (very unusual for me.) After a minute i thought about it and started to understand his plight. (ok maybe not understand sha, but have an idea.)

Let me just say i really admire my friend for admitting this fact though, his guy friends are surprised his still not cheating on his wife especially being in nigeria and we all know how some of our young ladies parade themselves and his in the entertainment/fashion industry. He knows it's wrong and his been controlling those desires but not sure how long it will last. A big part of the problem is coming from the bedroom (if you know what i mean.) His wife is a beautiful woman and they've got two wonderful little cuties. She's very conservative and the kind you want to have at home.

My friend admits that one of the problem is that his wife is conservative to the extent that a "lot" of things he wants to do, he finds it hard doing in the bedroom because he can't be too wild. Don't want to go into too much details, but my little two cents, (as usual) is that he teaches his wife what he wants to do to her and what he wants her to do to him. I strongly believe that as long as you're doing things in your marriage bed, then there are no limits or boundaries to what can be done. We actually had a discussion about this at young adults fellowship one-time, the topic has something to do with oral sex being right or wrong even if you're doing it to your husband/wife. At the end of the day, those that stayed firm on the ground that it was alrite still did not change, and some decided it was sinful.

But on another note, i guess my question is that is this desires by men helpable or not? I've asked a couple of guys and they all seem to agree that it's normal for men to have those desires, acting up on them is a different thing. For this reason, many say that atleast 90% of men will cheat on there wife one time or the other during marriage because they just can't help it. God Help us all...

Just Writing

Finally took that bloody exam... well i won't say much until i get my "pass" or "fair."

Now i can blog more, then again i doubt i can ever really be consistent, i admire those who dedicate time to this thing.

Anyway, i do have a lot to talk about but my train of thought is scattered sef so as you can tell already i'm just rambling.

It's funny how this life works sha (i need to stop this "sha" habit) but anyway, my very good friend "J" is desperating looking to get married. I think desperate is an understatement for how she's looking but i can't seem to find a betterword to describe her situation. At our young age, she's convinced we must have a problem or that their are external forces (now, that angle always gets me laughing, "get thee behind me satan!") behind our not currently seeing someone. For her, last 6-8 months is the longest she's been without being with someone and she has a big problem letting people know that; as in she's ashamed to let people know that she's single. The rationale behind that is truly beyond moi. So "J" has had many potentials along the way including her last boyfriend, Yemisi. I thought Yemisi was really cool but not ready for that kinda commitment that "J" wanted. The chap was still trying to complete undergrad degree and figure things out. But of-course my dear friend is ahead of the game. She's got an MBA already and she's got a pretty cool job too so i guess that relationship didn't last but for a while.
After Yemisi, they've been a series of potentials but none that she got into a relationship with. There was Seun which she declared her love to but homeboy only saw her as a sister, there was this other chap who is not nigerian but is actually really cool, but it's a no go area for my dear friend because her family is very very, i repeat, very very traditional to the core. Now the funniest one bros K. Yeah, another church bros. Now, for some crazy reason my dear friend is beginning to like bros K, but she's ashamed to say it out too. Today i finally got her to say what she's been ashamed to say. First, let me explain my dear friend. "J" is a beautiful black girl, tall, slim, (the kind they call "lepa"). "J" dresses to kill, she's one of those that can't be caught not doing it up, or having a bad hair day unlike me. "J" does not wear flip flops or slippers out for any reason it's always got to be something fancy. I have to add though that she has a wonderful heart and a beautiful spirit; Oh, she's also in the choir, infact she's like the choir mistress or something of the sort. So, bros K is not a bad looking chap sha, but not to mince words, his simply the yoruba speaking type. Today while chatting with my friend she finally confessed that the social status level was way different, there seem to be a generational gap thing going on as well even though the guy is only 31 but acts like his 50. The guy loves oldies like sunny ade and obey (which i see nothing wrong with becos i like too) but she can't handle that either. It would take too much to "polish" him up inspite of the fact that the guy is an accountant. I confession had me cracking the twist is that she actually likes him though, his witty, caring, and she actually believes he'll be a good husband.

Now the dilema is can she let go with all the rest of the stuff and be with him or just let go of him completely. Left to me, i truly have no idea and can't advice. I've given my own two cents though which is that whatever makes her happy and at peace is what she should do! abi?

O.k spent more time doing this than i thot, guess i'll have to go on with my rantings larra.