So i've been thinking about the year coming to an end and about the many reasons why i have to be thankful to God or grateful. To be honest, i've had two particular things i've been looking unto God for and this year, out of frustration i've not been good with being thankful for all His done. (Lord pls have mercy on me).
Anyway, after 2 full days of being snowed in, we got a chance to go see a movie on Monday, saw Avatar on 3D, it would have been really really cool if not for the too many times i had to take off the 3D "shades" because it felt so close and was almost having a headache with having all that illusion of things coming into me....the movie was good though but LOOOOGGGGGG!
On the way back, sitting and hiding and shivering under their Jackets were 2 people at a bus stop. Could not identify if they were males or females, but we realized that that was their abode for the nite.
I said a little thank you to God at that point but for some reason, today is Wednesday and i realize that since Monday i have thought about those people more than once! And i've been disturbed by the thought.
So, God, if you're reading, I'll really like to say a big THANK YOU from the bottom of my heart!
The fact that you've provided me with shelter, food, and clothing.
I'm thankful for those things that i've called basic needs and for others are necessities.
I'm thankful that even when i'm really broke, somehow i still get to buy what i want from subway costing a little of $7.
I'm thankful that i can change from one winter jacket to another to suit my outfit.
I'm thankful that my closet over flows and yet am still able to say i don't know or have what to wear.
I'm thankful that i have all my body parts complete.
I'm thankful that i drive a car and can turn on my heat.
I'm thankful that i have health insurance after seeing what my last drs bills are just for regular check-up and blood works.
I'm thankful for the position you've placed me at work that does not allow my time to be cut and my job to be cut off.
I'm thankful for the professional exam i had to take earlier this yr and passed it at once, B told me she had to retake it which meant she had to pay alot of money for it again.
I'm thankful for that particular prayer i did for M and the lab results came back negative.
I'm thankful that you indirectly worked on teaching me patience with the Mr.
I'm especially thankful that the Mr. and I have come this far since we've had all those glitches along the way.
I'm thankful for daddy's life
I just realized that i could go on and on with reasons why i'm thankful. But God, you already know that a thousand tongues would not be enough to express my appreciation...But i ask in the name of your son Jesus Christ to accept what i have to offer!
I don hope that i can find a way to reach out to those people out there....
Wednesday, December 23, 2009
Tuesday, December 22, 2009
Is this not sexual Harrassment?
This is the third time this is happening to me at my job with a male parent and it's kinda getting annoying.
The first two parents who are no longer with us, one was nigerian...and he started one time we had our international day program and and i wore one very nice ankara skirt and blouse....from that day on, that man told me how he wanted to take the clothes off me and would always say things in yoruba in front of everybody that i could not respond to. It got to a point where he actually told me he had left his Jamaican wife and moved to an apartment and wanted me to come and visit. That finally went away when he realized he could not get through to me.
The second one was an african american parent i used to chit chat with. His daughter was in the first grade then and i always messed with him to hook me up with someone. He would always say he did not believe i was not saying anyone as "nice and fresh" as i was...lol....We were cool until one day he actually called me during work hours to tell me he was no longer with his wife and wanted to know if he could take me out (infact i think i blogged about this when it happened). At that point i ended up telling him i had already started seeing someone.
Now this current parent...
I'll call him the twins father - The twins used to come to us as early as when they were 4 year old and were in K4. They left only to come back this year to join our 2nd grade class. I noticed during the registration period, the father always wanted me to handle all the papers. He would call ahead of time and if i was not at the office, he would not come. When he did come, he would always give me a hug which i innocently assumed it was a friendly hug...because his wife did the same thing....as per they are also africans and always called used gentle endearments like "hello dear." I stopped the hugs when one day i was walking out on my lunch break at the same time he was leaving after he had picked up the final enrollment papers.....he put his hand over my neck/shoulders and asked if i had a boyfriend and when i replied yes he said something along the lines of my boyfriend was not smart enough as he had not married me and he knew what he could have done with me if he was in my man's shoes. I found that uncomfortable but moved on from it. He would occasionally come come pick up the kids but i've managed to still out of his way or maybe there were just always people around.
Today was a different story. He dropped of the kids at school this morning and since he was off work, i asked if he could help me with a program on the computer. The next thing that comes out of this idiot's mouth is that it will cost me. I simply smiled and told him to take it up with boss lady... assuming he was referring to money. While telling him and showing him what i needed done, I noticed he kept looking at my mouth until he whispered again that it would cost me. I stepped back and wondered why he whispered before i realized exactly what he meant and the fact that he probably thought that was sexy. After telling me he needed to check if he had the program on his computer at home first, on his way out, he was quick to mention again that i must not forget that it will cost me.
This mugu later calls me back to tell me he didn't have the program at home and was off work for the rest of the week so he could not do it from work either.
So, parents are required to put in 3hrs monthly of volunteer work into the school in one way or the other, this fool then proceeds to ask me how he can help tomorrow at our christmas program. I asked him what he wanted to do since he had gotten a list of ways he could help, and his reply? "Maybe i can supervise, I'll like to supervise you too" and then went further to tell me his serious! I immediately mentioned his wife in the conversation and how both of them can split the work since they have two kids....I think he got a bit of my message there.
A part of me actually wishes i was a different person so i could get some money out of the sucker but gosh! God don't like ugly! Besides that, his wife is truly a sweet lady and actually very pretty, light complexioned, red lipstick lady...lol....
I need to cut his tail short a little bit more though, i kinda have a feeling i would still be hearing more from him...
The first two parents who are no longer with us, one was nigerian...and he started one time we had our international day program and and i wore one very nice ankara skirt and blouse....from that day on, that man told me how he wanted to take the clothes off me and would always say things in yoruba in front of everybody that i could not respond to. It got to a point where he actually told me he had left his Jamaican wife and moved to an apartment and wanted me to come and visit. That finally went away when he realized he could not get through to me.
The second one was an african american parent i used to chit chat with. His daughter was in the first grade then and i always messed with him to hook me up with someone. He would always say he did not believe i was not saying anyone as "nice and fresh" as i was...lol....We were cool until one day he actually called me during work hours to tell me he was no longer with his wife and wanted to know if he could take me out (infact i think i blogged about this when it happened). At that point i ended up telling him i had already started seeing someone.
Now this current parent...
I'll call him the twins father - The twins used to come to us as early as when they were 4 year old and were in K4. They left only to come back this year to join our 2nd grade class. I noticed during the registration period, the father always wanted me to handle all the papers. He would call ahead of time and if i was not at the office, he would not come. When he did come, he would always give me a hug which i innocently assumed it was a friendly hug...because his wife did the same thing....as per they are also africans and always called used gentle endearments like "hello dear." I stopped the hugs when one day i was walking out on my lunch break at the same time he was leaving after he had picked up the final enrollment papers.....he put his hand over my neck/shoulders and asked if i had a boyfriend and when i replied yes he said something along the lines of my boyfriend was not smart enough as he had not married me and he knew what he could have done with me if he was in my man's shoes. I found that uncomfortable but moved on from it. He would occasionally come come pick up the kids but i've managed to still out of his way or maybe there were just always people around.
Today was a different story. He dropped of the kids at school this morning and since he was off work, i asked if he could help me with a program on the computer. The next thing that comes out of this idiot's mouth is that it will cost me. I simply smiled and told him to take it up with boss lady... assuming he was referring to money. While telling him and showing him what i needed done, I noticed he kept looking at my mouth until he whispered again that it would cost me. I stepped back and wondered why he whispered before i realized exactly what he meant and the fact that he probably thought that was sexy. After telling me he needed to check if he had the program on his computer at home first, on his way out, he was quick to mention again that i must not forget that it will cost me.
This mugu later calls me back to tell me he didn't have the program at home and was off work for the rest of the week so he could not do it from work either.
So, parents are required to put in 3hrs monthly of volunteer work into the school in one way or the other, this fool then proceeds to ask me how he can help tomorrow at our christmas program. I asked him what he wanted to do since he had gotten a list of ways he could help, and his reply? "Maybe i can supervise, I'll like to supervise you too" and then went further to tell me his serious! I immediately mentioned his wife in the conversation and how both of them can split the work since they have two kids....I think he got a bit of my message there.
A part of me actually wishes i was a different person so i could get some money out of the sucker but gosh! God don't like ugly! Besides that, his wife is truly a sweet lady and actually very pretty, light complexioned, red lipstick lady...lol....
I need to cut his tail short a little bit more though, i kinda have a feeling i would still be hearing more from him...
Monday, December 21, 2009
Things Happen...
Sometime last week i watched a nigerian yoruba movie where a grown married woman with a child was sent out of her husband's house because she was a bed wetter. Because of the way the story line went, i remember saying to myself how my people exagerate a lot.
I was talking to an old guy friend of mine this evening when he told me he had been talking to this babe for a while and that the first night she slept over at his place, she wet his bed! I couldn't understand it....
In the movie, the ylater found out that the husband's father was behind the whole thing...and bla bla bla...
In real life, the dude said they had to throw away all the beddings and the girl left embaraased. She called him back once to apologize saying that has never happened to her before.
My friend now kinda thinks that maybe another babe may have put something fetish on his bed...lol...
Interesting..but don't hink i want to try to guess or analyze...
I was talking to an old guy friend of mine this evening when he told me he had been talking to this babe for a while and that the first night she slept over at his place, she wet his bed! I couldn't understand it....
In the movie, the ylater found out that the husband's father was behind the whole thing...and bla bla bla...
In real life, the dude said they had to throw away all the beddings and the girl left embaraased. She called him back once to apologize saying that has never happened to her before.
My friend now kinda thinks that maybe another babe may have put something fetish on his bed...lol...
Interesting..but don't hink i want to try to guess or analyze...
Wednesday, December 16, 2009
Concern for tomorrow's child
I'm sure many would agree with me the importance of Education in today's world. Even President Barack Obama reinforced this fact earlier this year when he was signing a new bill for Education. He said something along the lines that America is in search of highly skilled professionals and if they can't get it within, then they would go outside and get it! In other words, if America can't produce the best skilled in different fields, then they will look unto other countries who have individuals trained to be the best and bring them in.
It's interesting to know that some people would still argue and justify that education is no longer important and it is what you can do and how you apply yourself.
I said all of that only to say this:
A grandma in the school where i work just picked up her granddaughter. The teacher escorts the child to the hallway where grandma is waiting and the following conversation went on: (o, by the way, the office where i am is right by the way so i heard it all by myself and not from someone else...lol):
Teacher: Ok A, tell grandma what you learned today? Eu?
Child: the continent of Europe!
Teacher: Very good!
Grandma: wow! A, very good...and we just came back from there, we went to Mexico!
I'm in the office laughing my head off when the teacher peeps in to look at me a few minutes later...
It's interesting to know that some people would still argue and justify that education is no longer important and it is what you can do and how you apply yourself.
I said all of that only to say this:
A grandma in the school where i work just picked up her granddaughter. The teacher escorts the child to the hallway where grandma is waiting and the following conversation went on: (o, by the way, the office where i am is right by the way so i heard it all by myself and not from someone else...lol):
Teacher: Ok A, tell grandma what you learned today? Eu?
Child: the continent of Europe!
Teacher: Very good!
Grandma: wow! A, very good...and we just came back from there, we went to Mexico!
I'm in the office laughing my head off when the teacher peeps in to look at me a few minutes later...
Tuesday, December 15, 2009
Missing my man
Ok, so i thought i was going to last a couple of days without missing the Mr. since he was so much trouble before he left...but by gosh! i miss my man! and his only been gone 2 days...Now i have to count down....
Thursday, December 3, 2009
Recipe for Okra Soup
Here u go GNG and for any other lady or even gentleman interested in making this dish:
I found the recipe on this blog http://foodandnutritionclub.blogspot.com/
it was really nice with pounded yam...I didn't use everything they included thugh but i made do...
I found the recipe on this blog http://foodandnutritionclub.blogspot.com/
it was really nice with pounded yam...I didn't use everything they included thugh but i made do...
Wednesday, December 2, 2009
My soup was perfect! yipee to me! and yes, i sent him away and used the recipe i found...hehehehe.... but can u imagine, now his telling me Vegetable soup is the next thing to make this weekend...men! i have to go find a good recipe and figure out which kind i can make: one with locust beans or plain....
I also discovered Always Infinity....I will no longer use Always super - long for my heavy days...Yipee!
I also discovered Always Infinity....I will no longer use Always super - long for my heavy days...Yipee!
Tuesday, December 1, 2009
Cooking - Naija Style
Am a pretty good cook but i'm not too sure about the very traditional nigerian soups. I mean things like egusi, ogbono, okra soup (ila alasepo), bitterleaf soup, etc. There is a common phrase that implies that good food is the way to a man's heart.
I want to start practicing some of these things by getting recipes online and doing it. Now i'm wondering do i outrightly tell the Mr. i can't do these things and i'm going to use recipes until i'm perfect them or do i sneak around and cook them while his away at work?
I'm going to try a recipe this evening for ila alasepo. I've done it several times but i realize it never really draws like i want it so i'm going to follow a recipe and see if i'll get it right! Maybe i'll be done before he gets back from work! hehehehe
I want to start practicing some of these things by getting recipes online and doing it. Now i'm wondering do i outrightly tell the Mr. i can't do these things and i'm going to use recipes until i'm perfect them or do i sneak around and cook them while his away at work?
I'm going to try a recipe this evening for ila alasepo. I've done it several times but i realize it never really draws like i want it so i'm going to follow a recipe and see if i'll get it right! Maybe i'll be done before he gets back from work! hehehehe
Monday, November 30, 2009
A Post i should have done Since!
GNG my dear friend, here my story....
I think it was either late December or January 2008 when i did a post about my "supposed" adventurous/ignorant trip out of town...unfortunately i went back now to find the post to see if i could link it on herebut it must be part of the posts i deleted a while back just in case the Mr also finds it...funny, now he read my blog but only when i open it....
I guess i should have saved it anyway. So one very interesting evening we were having some serious/honest conversations...it included us asking each other what each person could do that would warrant for unforgiveness...so u can imagine the seriousness of the conversation.
Anyway, apparently, the Mr. had been curious about how i knew the people i went out of town with and how we ended up where we went because he also knew them and could not understand the connection. I honestly thought since we were "playing" honesty i should be honest and tell him the full story (i could have lied or just said don't worry about it)...which included the fact that i slept in the same room with the guy that invited me and nothing happened between us....I'm not saying he didn't make advances but i practically had to beg him!lol
in my original post about the event, i explained that i somehow assumed that the females would be sleeping in d same room and all but it really was not the case and there was nothing i could do about it! I truly didn't even think he was interested in me that way and thought he invited me on the trip only for pity sake after i had poured out about how boring and routinely my life was....
Anyway, the Mr. flipped! he would not have it! Infact he almost started crying explaining that he did not want anyone in that cycle to have even seen me evenhalf naked! lol mind u this was after i explained that i did all my changing in the bathroom and there was nothing half sexy about my pjs....hehehehehe...and for the 3 days were were at the place, the guys were downstairs almost all through gambling...and i mean even late at night....
even though i tried to apologize, my stubborness would not let me because i truly felt like this was all the way in 2007 even before i dreamt of meeting him. I couldn't understand why he could not accept i had a past...i mean, am almost 30 and unless i live elsewhere all my past will be in this same state...but thank God i somehow have a clean record....lol...yeah like i know that many people!
To cut a long story short, even though the story may already be long....lol...we ended up not talking for about 2 bothering days before he called me back with only this statement after which he dropped the phone "i miss u" ....yeah! i was tripped but still had to let it drag for one more day before we could talk it out....hehehehehe
I think it was either late December or January 2008 when i did a post about my "supposed" adventurous/ignorant trip out of town...unfortunately i went back now to find the post to see if i could link it on herebut it must be part of the posts i deleted a while back just in case the Mr also finds it...funny, now he read my blog but only when i open it....
I guess i should have saved it anyway. So one very interesting evening we were having some serious/honest conversations...it included us asking each other what each person could do that would warrant for unforgiveness...so u can imagine the seriousness of the conversation.
Anyway, apparently, the Mr. had been curious about how i knew the people i went out of town with and how we ended up where we went because he also knew them and could not understand the connection. I honestly thought since we were "playing" honesty i should be honest and tell him the full story (i could have lied or just said don't worry about it)...which included the fact that i slept in the same room with the guy that invited me and nothing happened between us....I'm not saying he didn't make advances but i practically had to beg him!lol
in my original post about the event, i explained that i somehow assumed that the females would be sleeping in d same room and all but it really was not the case and there was nothing i could do about it! I truly didn't even think he was interested in me that way and thought he invited me on the trip only for pity sake after i had poured out about how boring and routinely my life was....
Anyway, the Mr. flipped! he would not have it! Infact he almost started crying explaining that he did not want anyone in that cycle to have even seen me evenhalf naked! lol mind u this was after i explained that i did all my changing in the bathroom and there was nothing half sexy about my pjs....hehehehehe...and for the 3 days were were at the place, the guys were downstairs almost all through gambling...and i mean even late at night....
even though i tried to apologize, my stubborness would not let me because i truly felt like this was all the way in 2007 even before i dreamt of meeting him. I couldn't understand why he could not accept i had a past...i mean, am almost 30 and unless i live elsewhere all my past will be in this same state...but thank God i somehow have a clean record....lol...yeah like i know that many people!
To cut a long story short, even though the story may already be long....lol...we ended up not talking for about 2 bothering days before he called me back with only this statement after which he dropped the phone "i miss u" ....yeah! i was tripped but still had to let it drag for one more day before we could talk it out....hehehehehe
Friday, November 13, 2009
Thursday, September 24, 2009
Hey i reached my hundred post and almost didn't realize it! Yipee to me, it's an achievement for me! I've learnt/learned one thing from blogging...the fact that i like writing and i think i do a better job expressing myself writing than talking...unfortunately, i can't be as expressive here anymore....
For my 100th post celebrating, i want to do an intimate post on my fears about marriage....
will be back!
For my 100th post celebrating, i want to do an intimate post on my fears about marriage....
will be back!
Wednesday, September 23, 2009
Wow, it's really been a while...GNG...i'm writing now for you so u berra comment....lol...
Don't even know what to write sef...i had some things i wanted to write about but i can't even seem to remember them now....
Anyway, they'll come to me....in the main time....
Last weekend, a friend of mine had a little birthday gathering for her 1 year old son. It was done at the house because it wasn't meant to be such a big thing....while the kids were downstairs, a number of the "mommies" were upstairs gossiping and drinking alcohol induced punch. Anyway, i found myself in the middle young mothers (that's what happens when you're about 30 and not married) who needed to talk dirty (then again maybe it was the punch...or not!) Somehow we got talking about sex and i just heard all sort of things that made me wonder...lol
The first question came from "S" a mother of one who was wondering or maybe just for conversation reasons asked if we thought masturbation was a sin...i can't really tell what the conclusion was, as it was with all the discussion topics it all became controversial until someone asked them to drop it or a little child came around looking for his/her mom or starts crying.
"B" who is married but no kids yet.... asked about oral sex next...note that all the questions were being asked in the confines of marriage. i think in a total of about 10 of us in a corner, 3 of us were not married. All the married women seem to agree that it was ok....they had to spice up their sex lives somehow....I seem to have had a shocked look on my face and "B" noticed and straight up asked if all i do is "chuk chuk"...lol....my other friend "B" was quick to answer that i should be left alone because i was not married while everyone laughed it off....saved by the friend huh....if i had to answer, i'm honestly not too sure what my answered would be....I agree that sex is important, maybe good sex sef, is important in a marriage especially when we know what men can be like....but i'm not sure if i would be ok putting a man's peeing equipment in my mouth....i could choke right?...i'll see when it time comes sha....
My friend "B" switched gears and mentioned how her husband had changed, and immediately, a number of the married ladies agreed with her. She claims that before they got married, they could have sex anywhere....indoors or outdoors, but now, her husband always looks at her funny when she suggests somewhere daring and would only do it in the confines of their bedroom. "S" was quick to agree with her...."S" by the way has no shame in her game, she opening declared that she liked having sex alot....infact she called her husband out of a party one time so they could go in the car to have a quickie and he just looked and her and asked if there was something wrong with her inside her head...lol...
It soon got switched to places they've done it which i won't even bother with details, they talked about anal, and those kinda pf people who like pain in the bedroom, i forget what they'll called now...
Anyway, i realized something though, the ladies who spoke up were married, we single ones listened and smiled unless the conversation was general...i remember saying that women are better at maintaining themselves than men who are usually horny or turned on first thing in the morning because i had read it somewhere about womens hormons and mens testorone levels.... i remember thinking while driving that not sure we didn't speak up because we didn't want to be judged? or we really lacked the real knowledge of how things worked in marriage....
Hmmm.....
Don't even know what to write sef...i had some things i wanted to write about but i can't even seem to remember them now....
Anyway, they'll come to me....in the main time....
Last weekend, a friend of mine had a little birthday gathering for her 1 year old son. It was done at the house because it wasn't meant to be such a big thing....while the kids were downstairs, a number of the "mommies" were upstairs gossiping and drinking alcohol induced punch. Anyway, i found myself in the middle young mothers (that's what happens when you're about 30 and not married) who needed to talk dirty (then again maybe it was the punch...or not!) Somehow we got talking about sex and i just heard all sort of things that made me wonder...lol
The first question came from "S" a mother of one who was wondering or maybe just for conversation reasons asked if we thought masturbation was a sin...i can't really tell what the conclusion was, as it was with all the discussion topics it all became controversial until someone asked them to drop it or a little child came around looking for his/her mom or starts crying.
"B" who is married but no kids yet.... asked about oral sex next...note that all the questions were being asked in the confines of marriage. i think in a total of about 10 of us in a corner, 3 of us were not married. All the married women seem to agree that it was ok....they had to spice up their sex lives somehow....I seem to have had a shocked look on my face and "B" noticed and straight up asked if all i do is "chuk chuk"...lol....my other friend "B" was quick to answer that i should be left alone because i was not married while everyone laughed it off....saved by the friend huh....if i had to answer, i'm honestly not too sure what my answered would be....I agree that sex is important, maybe good sex sef, is important in a marriage especially when we know what men can be like....but i'm not sure if i would be ok putting a man's peeing equipment in my mouth....i could choke right?...i'll see when it time comes sha....
My friend "B" switched gears and mentioned how her husband had changed, and immediately, a number of the married ladies agreed with her. She claims that before they got married, they could have sex anywhere....indoors or outdoors, but now, her husband always looks at her funny when she suggests somewhere daring and would only do it in the confines of their bedroom. "S" was quick to agree with her...."S" by the way has no shame in her game, she opening declared that she liked having sex alot....infact she called her husband out of a party one time so they could go in the car to have a quickie and he just looked and her and asked if there was something wrong with her inside her head...lol...
It soon got switched to places they've done it which i won't even bother with details, they talked about anal, and those kinda pf people who like pain in the bedroom, i forget what they'll called now...
Anyway, i realized something though, the ladies who spoke up were married, we single ones listened and smiled unless the conversation was general...i remember saying that women are better at maintaining themselves than men who are usually horny or turned on first thing in the morning because i had read it somewhere about womens hormons and mens testorone levels.... i remember thinking while driving that not sure we didn't speak up because we didn't want to be judged? or we really lacked the real knowledge of how things worked in marriage....
Hmmm.....
Tuesday, September 22, 2009
Thursday, August 20, 2009
All sorts
Not Random, just different stuffs in my head at the moment:
I no longer work directly under my boss...I have another boss now...don't think we're going to work out well, she already looks at me funny.
Really sad about the people they just let go...those were cool people...but i still don't understand the reason, if you're letting go people, why hire these new ones? Admissions director is just a name...i'm going to start counting how many new people she brings in...*hiss*
Mr. B has been arrested in nigeria, i honestly hope that for everyone's sake, they can work things out...really praying and counting on God and Commissioner to help the poor guy.
Is hoping/praying the Mr. starts to feel better...sick people make me scared...
I'm really sleepy right now and need for 5 o'clock to come soonest!
Does not plan to pack up anything to the new school, everything in this station is going just like that...why would i want to empty cabinets full of folders and then plan to put things back...i already have a problem with folding clothes at home when i put them out....
I can feel aunty flo coming and just need her to come already...all these spots on my face and the way i'm eating...
I don't really want to go all the way out of town to visit daddy IB...if they couldn't reach me since he got here, they should have called daddy schic to ask for my right number...now i have to go out of my way to go visit them before saturday...*his*
I'm in need of money badly or maybe a second job
I wanna go back to school. Not sure if i want to do a PHD or just some sort of certification.
I've become even more convinced of what i'm supposed to be doing...thank you Lord
Maybe i should just risk it and go back to Nigeria...ok, maybe after i can pay of this one loan...
Finally decided that i'm no longer interested in doing aso-ebi with anyone...this summer has not been that bad though, compare to other summers:
Aso ebi that i did not accept:
I no longer work directly under my boss...I have another boss now...don't think we're going to work out well, she already looks at me funny.
Really sad about the people they just let go...those were cool people...but i still don't understand the reason, if you're letting go people, why hire these new ones? Admissions director is just a name...i'm going to start counting how many new people she brings in...*hiss*
Mr. B has been arrested in nigeria, i honestly hope that for everyone's sake, they can work things out...really praying and counting on God and Commissioner to help the poor guy.
Is hoping/praying the Mr. starts to feel better...sick people make me scared...
I'm really sleepy right now and need for 5 o'clock to come soonest!
Does not plan to pack up anything to the new school, everything in this station is going just like that...why would i want to empty cabinets full of folders and then plan to put things back...i already have a problem with folding clothes at home when i put them out....
I can feel aunty flo coming and just need her to come already...all these spots on my face and the way i'm eating...
I don't really want to go all the way out of town to visit daddy IB...if they couldn't reach me since he got here, they should have called daddy schic to ask for my right number...now i have to go out of my way to go visit them before saturday...*his*
I'm in need of money badly or maybe a second job
I wanna go back to school. Not sure if i want to do a PHD or just some sort of certification.
I've become even more convinced of what i'm supposed to be doing...thank you Lord
Maybe i should just risk it and go back to Nigeria...ok, maybe after i can pay of this one loan...
Finally decided that i'm no longer interested in doing aso-ebi with anyone...this summer has not been that bad though, compare to other summers:
- A's wedding $80 aso ebi & gele - sewn in nigeria
- T's wedding $25 ankara - sewing $60.00
- O's 50th b/day - $40 aso ebi & gele sewn in nigeria
Aso ebi that i did not accept:
- AY's wedding - $75.00 what's the point, it's the same day as A's wedding, and i already have A's aso-ebi, even though A's mother forced it on me...i'll be going from one to the other
- T's gele - $25.00i can't and don't like tying the thing anyway
- The other T's wedding - after spending all that money going to the wedding, no way would i buy aso ebi for $150.00 again...
- V's wedding - $45.00 - thank God she called me too late and i could say no!
Must be sign that Mr. is getting better...sick people sha don't eat plaintain and just called me asking for plaintains...*hiss*
Monday, August 17, 2009
Granma
I lost my grandmother this past weekend and it honestly makes me very sad even though she has lived a life well spent and died at a very good age, she was the only grand parent i knew and i loved her dearly.... i also pray for God to spare me too to see that age....
I don't think there is a single grandchild, either direct or indirect grandchild that has not had a relationship with Maami (lol, that's what she was fondly called by all...lol...well, except for daddy who calls her mama)
I remember when mother passed, we had to make visits to maami every other week...funny, even though the house was not what we were used to, i remember we all looked forward to going...and occassionally spending the entire weekend with her because it would be a weekend full of goodies.
Maami had a "shop" attached to the house, right in front of her house and as long as there were goodies there, we got some of everything. I also remember maami making lunch and dinner for us herself even though she had a helper. She personally made amala and ewedu for us one time. I know my brother and i couldn't hurt her feelings by telling her we didn't like it much, especially since she wanted to make it herself so we shoved it down our throats just like that...and it really was good...maybe the fact that it everyting was done outside behind the house gave it a different taste...a lot of nigerians say food from outside joints are nicer...the food had that element.
I remember daddy sending maami some money through the driver when he took us down to her, and she always took out of the money and gave us like 20 naira each which was sure a lot fo money then to spend on chocomilo, buttermint, malta sweets and "minerals" (soda).
I could keep going with stories from maami...like how dad told her to stop sending eggs and chickens to us so that she can sell them to make a profit...imagine distributing all these to her all her childrens home....what's left to sell? Ok, so i've got to go back to work now...
Maami, I'm glad you've gone to rest now because i understand the pain you were in during your last days here on earth....i think many will testify to the life you've lived and the fear of God in your heart that you taught us all...I pray that if the Lord comes before my time here on earth, i would have straightened myself out well enough to make heaven just so that i can see you again....In the main time, rest in perfect peace my dear grandmother....Will miss you...
I don't think there is a single grandchild, either direct or indirect grandchild that has not had a relationship with Maami (lol, that's what she was fondly called by all...lol...well, except for daddy who calls her mama)
I remember when mother passed, we had to make visits to maami every other week...funny, even though the house was not what we were used to, i remember we all looked forward to going...and occassionally spending the entire weekend with her because it would be a weekend full of goodies.
Maami had a "shop" attached to the house, right in front of her house and as long as there were goodies there, we got some of everything. I also remember maami making lunch and dinner for us herself even though she had a helper. She personally made amala and ewedu for us one time. I know my brother and i couldn't hurt her feelings by telling her we didn't like it much, especially since she wanted to make it herself so we shoved it down our throats just like that...and it really was good...maybe the fact that it everyting was done outside behind the house gave it a different taste...a lot of nigerians say food from outside joints are nicer...the food had that element.
I remember daddy sending maami some money through the driver when he took us down to her, and she always took out of the money and gave us like 20 naira each which was sure a lot fo money then to spend on chocomilo, buttermint, malta sweets and "minerals" (soda).
I could keep going with stories from maami...like how dad told her to stop sending eggs and chickens to us so that she can sell them to make a profit...imagine distributing all these to her all her childrens home....what's left to sell? Ok, so i've got to go back to work now...
Maami, I'm glad you've gone to rest now because i understand the pain you were in during your last days here on earth....i think many will testify to the life you've lived and the fear of God in your heart that you taught us all...I pray that if the Lord comes before my time here on earth, i would have straightened myself out well enough to make heaven just so that i can see you again....In the main time, rest in perfect peace my dear grandmother....Will miss you...
Wednesday, August 5, 2009
MAMI
I went home today very happy and planned on doing some self grooming - change nail polish and all...Only to get home and find out that granma who we call mami had a stroke and is in coma back home....
So have they taken her to hospital? what doctor is taking care of her?
No hospital this time s.chic! they're going to just leave her at home...doctor A has already seen come to see her and she's been stabilized...
They're just going to let her die?
Yes, she's 97, has lost her vision, in pain, and wears adult pull-ups...she does both #s 1 & 2 on herself....She's spent her time....
MAMI, REST IN PEACE...
i'm going to write a tribute to mami when she officially goes to see the Lord...she just was not the regular granma...
So have they taken her to hospital? what doctor is taking care of her?
No hospital this time s.chic! they're going to just leave her at home...doctor A has already seen come to see her and she's been stabilized...
They're just going to let her die?
Yes, she's 97, has lost her vision, in pain, and wears adult pull-ups...she does both #s 1 & 2 on herself....She's spent her time....
MAMI, REST IN PEACE...
i'm going to write a tribute to mami when she officially goes to see the Lord...she just was not the regular granma...
Note to Self
I'm usually very late catching up with blogs so i usually have to read a couple of posts back at some of the blog sites i like to follow...i read Linda Ikeji's blog yesterday and down was an honest post about worries...it's inspired me to do one...i've always felt that since i know people personally that read my blog then i can't be just as honest anymore..but i think one more time i'm going to do an honest one...forgetting about all those that don't think i know that they read it...
yes you ______! i already know you read it too! lol! hiss....
yes you ______! i already know you read it too! lol! hiss....
Friday, July 31, 2009
Work
Ok, so i'm determined to make it to 100 post...even though techincally, i should have made it...but for those posts i deleted after i found out "they" found my blog....ol...well, now i can laugh about it, then it was embarassing...
I work in a pre through elementary school...it's private, it's Montessori and it's expensive...infact extremely expensive if you think about the current state of the economy. Anyway, it's a known fact and most of staff members here constantly joke about the fact that all the parents are under the largest income brackets and yet we staff members are poor people....
You see, there is a certain amount of money that private schools are entitled to every year from the state. One of the things i do is making sure the school gets its fair share of the money...of-course we have to prove that we need the funds... In doing this, one of the forms we get from board of education is a survey that has to be sent out to all our parents and a part of it is to indicate their annual gross income:
18,130 or below
18,131 - 24,419
24,420 - 30, 709
30, 710-36,999
37,000-43-289
43,290-49,579
49,580-55,869
55,870-62,159
62,160-68,449
68,450-74,739
74,740-81,029
81,030 and above
Honestly, almost all of our parents fall under the very last bracket...of-course we get the few who are under state vouchers/subsidies so we capitalize on those ones....neverless, we never get good share as long as i'm concerned, all we get is the change left....
Anyway, we're currently enrolling for the new school year and today we had a few potential parents come in....Amongst them was a Medical Dr, another that is a Director at the state department of agriculture, and another that works for the FBI.
The current joke now is that we're all in trouble...we have a bit of diversity here and many times we joke and say americans are not into Montessori , hence we foreigners...(espeically the indians and the phillipinos)a lady here now mentions that she hopes all out papers are in order because the FBI lady is going to go run all our records up...maybe we all do need to go check ourselves out....lol...
I work in a pre through elementary school...it's private, it's Montessori and it's expensive...infact extremely expensive if you think about the current state of the economy. Anyway, it's a known fact and most of staff members here constantly joke about the fact that all the parents are under the largest income brackets and yet we staff members are poor people....
You see, there is a certain amount of money that private schools are entitled to every year from the state. One of the things i do is making sure the school gets its fair share of the money...of-course we have to prove that we need the funds... In doing this, one of the forms we get from board of education is a survey that has to be sent out to all our parents and a part of it is to indicate their annual gross income:
18,130 or below
18,131 - 24,419
24,420 - 30, 709
30, 710-36,999
37,000-43-289
43,290-49,579
49,580-55,869
55,870-62,159
62,160-68,449
68,450-74,739
74,740-81,029
81,030 and above
Honestly, almost all of our parents fall under the very last bracket...of-course we get the few who are under state vouchers/subsidies so we capitalize on those ones....neverless, we never get good share as long as i'm concerned, all we get is the change left....
Anyway, we're currently enrolling for the new school year and today we had a few potential parents come in....Amongst them was a Medical Dr, another that is a Director at the state department of agriculture, and another that works for the FBI.
The current joke now is that we're all in trouble...we have a bit of diversity here and many times we joke and say americans are not into Montessori , hence we foreigners...(espeically the indians and the phillipinos)a lady here now mentions that she hopes all out papers are in order because the FBI lady is going to go run all our records up...maybe we all do need to go check ourselves out....lol...
Thursday, July 30, 2009
dress
Ok, so i went to a wedding in one state and wore this fabulous dress...tleast i thought it was...i've been wanting to wear the dress for the longest time...i got it last december (on some nice sale too) to wear to a wedding in chicago, unfortunately, the zipper broke and i had to get another dress in chicag....fixed the zipper finally just a few weeks ago.... the following week after the wedding i wore it to, i went to another wedding in another state and wore the same dress...
So i didn't take any pictures at the first wedding but i've been taggedas i've been spotted inside someone else's picture.... I know fashio people say it's not cool to do it...but really what if it was my only dressy outfit?lol
They were two completely different states....not even drivable to each other...ok, maybe someone can drive it sha....two different time zones....
I even made sure i didn't spot anyone from the first wedding at the engagement for the secod wedding so that i have an idea who would be at the weddin..lol...
Anyway, it's all done...yes i wore the same dress two weekends in a roll...
(this post was just something to make me fall asleep...i was sleeping peacefully before i was called to come try to fix the tv...now i'm awakw again.)
So i didn't take any pictures at the first wedding but i've been taggedas i've been spotted inside someone else's picture.... I know fashio people say it's not cool to do it...but really what if it was my only dressy outfit?lol
They were two completely different states....not even drivable to each other...ok, maybe someone can drive it sha....two different time zones....
I even made sure i didn't spot anyone from the first wedding at the engagement for the secod wedding so that i have an idea who would be at the weddin..lol...
Anyway, it's all done...yes i wore the same dress two weekends in a roll...
(this post was just something to make me fall asleep...i was sleeping peacefully before i was called to come try to fix the tv...now i'm awakw again.)
Wednesday, July 29, 2009
Friends
I was talking to someone at work today and she reminded bout a post i should have put up a really long time ago...Not sure if it's a guy thing or i'm actually the ignorant one...
Ok, so i'm not the most friendly person ever but i do have friends. My friendships are simple....i can do with or without my friends....I not one to keep very close friendships but i can say i have one or two really close friends....and i don't have a problem with my friends coming together....the more the merrier.
The Mr. on the other hand, has two seperate set of friends and i've always thought it was interesting and funny.
Friend Group 1 are those ones who are all coupled up and we occassionally plan an outing with or schedule whose house we're going to spend a friday or saturday evening at. Nice group of people and rather great gentle conversations regarding nigeria, relationships, growing up, to politics are usually on the table...we'll all even watch a movie or play a game....without being rude, i want to say these are the "proper" friends.... as in, u have to be abe to make intelligent conversation and all...and oh yeah, all of them work with coperate america...
Friend Group 2 are those friends not included in friend group 1....lol....ok, can't explain them without sounding rude again, but they are also a nice group of people....these are the group of friends where pidgin english is the form of communication and i must say they are rather loud....Not all of them are coupled up but among them is one who is engaged and another in a serious relationship...well besides the Mr. and I. Interesting enough, in this group of about 6 guys, i can say 4 also work in coperate America so they are also pretty intelligent....The conversation among this group also includes nigerian politics but not as polite as friend group 1 discussions....these ones are loud and argue...rather than inform each other about happenings....lol...The only thing that actually bothered me about this group was one time we were all chilling, they started to talk bout sex rather openly and somehow i felt it was rude....i'm not prudish or anything, but i just didn't think it was approriate for them to talk bout females they had slept with like that in front of me...i was the only female there and left shortly after....
Anyway, i remember my b.day dinner earlier on in the year, the Mr. invited friends from Group 1 and not one single one from group 2. Apparently, word got out and someone from group 2 friends was upset about it because they had previously accused him of hiding me from them....lol....On another occassion, when the Mr's. family member had an event, friend group 2 was invited...lol...I finally asked him why his friends never come together and he simply brushed it off and said they would never get along....
Now he spends as much time with friend group 1 as with 2 and fits right in with either group...
So the point is, do people generally have 2 groups of friends or these people are just wierd? I can understand if your friends are of a different culture...but even then....
Ok, so i'm not the most friendly person ever but i do have friends. My friendships are simple....i can do with or without my friends....I not one to keep very close friendships but i can say i have one or two really close friends....and i don't have a problem with my friends coming together....the more the merrier.
The Mr. on the other hand, has two seperate set of friends and i've always thought it was interesting and funny.
Friend Group 1 are those ones who are all coupled up and we occassionally plan an outing with or schedule whose house we're going to spend a friday or saturday evening at. Nice group of people and rather great gentle conversations regarding nigeria, relationships, growing up, to politics are usually on the table...we'll all even watch a movie or play a game....without being rude, i want to say these are the "proper" friends.... as in, u have to be abe to make intelligent conversation and all...and oh yeah, all of them work with coperate america...
Friend Group 2 are those friends not included in friend group 1....lol....ok, can't explain them without sounding rude again, but they are also a nice group of people....these are the group of friends where pidgin english is the form of communication and i must say they are rather loud....Not all of them are coupled up but among them is one who is engaged and another in a serious relationship...well besides the Mr. and I. Interesting enough, in this group of about 6 guys, i can say 4 also work in coperate America so they are also pretty intelligent....The conversation among this group also includes nigerian politics but not as polite as friend group 1 discussions....these ones are loud and argue...rather than inform each other about happenings....lol...The only thing that actually bothered me about this group was one time we were all chilling, they started to talk bout sex rather openly and somehow i felt it was rude....i'm not prudish or anything, but i just didn't think it was approriate for them to talk bout females they had slept with like that in front of me...i was the only female there and left shortly after....
Anyway, i remember my b.day dinner earlier on in the year, the Mr. invited friends from Group 1 and not one single one from group 2. Apparently, word got out and someone from group 2 friends was upset about it because they had previously accused him of hiding me from them....lol....On another occassion, when the Mr's. family member had an event, friend group 2 was invited...lol...I finally asked him why his friends never come together and he simply brushed it off and said they would never get along....
Now he spends as much time with friend group 1 as with 2 and fits right in with either group...
So the point is, do people generally have 2 groups of friends or these people are just wierd? I can understand if your friends are of a different culture...but even then....
Tuesday, July 28, 2009
Name calling-yoruba tradition
The yoruba culture dictates that a wife must not call her husbands siblings/family members whether older or younger by their names; there must be an "aunty" or "uncle" , "brother" or "sister" before the name as a sign of respect. Thank God for Western influence, alot of us have come out of this tradition (i think) especially if one is already very cool with the sibling or family member and make it better, the sibling or family member is either younger or the same age as one.
Some families on the other hand have stuck to this tradtion. While trying to establish my current relationship, i noticed that all the inlaws call the guy "uncle _____" and the other unmarried sister "aunty ______."
For some reason, this is somewhat funny to me. I honestly can't say i have a problem with doing it but it's really just wierd to me especially since "aunty ____" and i are not far apart at all in age....infact, one of "aunty ____" closest friends is a friend of mine as well and i call him by his name.
Done unconsciously i wanna say, but today something prompted the fact that i had to call "aunty _____." Before i called, i thought about it and realized that i had never called her name for any reason...which by the way was really funny to me...lol....Whenever i speak with her, i tend to switch to yoruba and use "e" which denotes respect in the language rather than the "o" in referring to an age mate. I remember clearly that Mr. had said one time, that it was a good thing i respcted his sister and thanked me for it, but he thought i gave hera little too much respect...but this was also on the basis that i always switched the conversation to yoruba when referring to her so it would end up something like this...
" se e ti jeun", "e ka bo o!", "so fun won", "se won ma jeon" (won also denotes respect even though it is also used for more than one person)
The thing is he may say its too much, but i bet the other family members don't think so because all the other sister in-laws who are probably older than her call her aunty....and you know what they say, you marry one, you marry the whole family...by the way, is that a yoruba thing or a nigerian thing in general?
Anyway, in the last 2 weeks, with the Mr. away, i've had to communicate with her to help him take care of some things but somehow i've pulled all of it off myself and i guess she did her's too and we never had to get in touch...even though he would say call ____ and tell her... or ask if i called ____and i was always quick to say "i didn't need to"....today was different...I had to call her...no choice...
for atleast 3 mins i debated over what i wanted to use - "aunty" or "sister"...lol....sister sounded to me like i was referring to a sister-in-Christ....and eventually went with "aunty."
Maybe now we can actually get close or maybe i can just start calling her and not feeling wierd about it....
Some families on the other hand have stuck to this tradtion. While trying to establish my current relationship, i noticed that all the inlaws call the guy "uncle _____" and the other unmarried sister "aunty ______."
For some reason, this is somewhat funny to me. I honestly can't say i have a problem with doing it but it's really just wierd to me especially since "aunty ____" and i are not far apart at all in age....infact, one of "aunty ____" closest friends is a friend of mine as well and i call him by his name.
Done unconsciously i wanna say, but today something prompted the fact that i had to call "aunty _____." Before i called, i thought about it and realized that i had never called her name for any reason...which by the way was really funny to me...lol....Whenever i speak with her, i tend to switch to yoruba and use "e" which denotes respect in the language rather than the "o" in referring to an age mate. I remember clearly that Mr. had said one time, that it was a good thing i respcted his sister and thanked me for it, but he thought i gave hera little too much respect...but this was also on the basis that i always switched the conversation to yoruba when referring to her so it would end up something like this...
" se e ti jeun", "e ka bo o!", "so fun won", "se won ma jeon" (won also denotes respect even though it is also used for more than one person)
The thing is he may say its too much, but i bet the other family members don't think so because all the other sister in-laws who are probably older than her call her aunty....and you know what they say, you marry one, you marry the whole family...by the way, is that a yoruba thing or a nigerian thing in general?
Anyway, in the last 2 weeks, with the Mr. away, i've had to communicate with her to help him take care of some things but somehow i've pulled all of it off myself and i guess she did her's too and we never had to get in touch...even though he would say call ____ and tell her... or ask if i called ____and i was always quick to say "i didn't need to"....today was different...I had to call her...no choice...
for atleast 3 mins i debated over what i wanted to use - "aunty" or "sister"...lol....sister sounded to me like i was referring to a sister-in-Christ....and eventually went with "aunty."
Maybe now we can actually get close or maybe i can just start calling her and not feeling wierd about it....
Thursday, July 16, 2009
Thinking - Random
Aunty flo is really mean...i've waiting all this while for her to come and then i'm going on vacation, planned on going to the beach and all and she comes! huff!
this my boss is very foolish...i'm away for 8 days and she's acting like i'm going for 4 weeks.... i defintely can't finish all the work i have to do and then still come to a meeting at 2p.m. it's 1:12p.m now, i'm not almost done and i'm blogging...and i'm still leaving at 4:30 to catch a flight...wa re hell! don't care much at this point....why is it now i have to do a new contract agreement?....
Never thought i could miss someone...but i actually do.... hmmm
Actually don't have money to spend on this trip but i'll enjoy it regardless....too much has already gone into it...including airline fare...why are they so expensive?
I do hope i can carry all my stuff on the plane...don't want to pay $15 to check it in....
Not sure if it was because i was expecting aunty flo and different hormones raging, or maybe i've just become a softee...but last week saturday i cried at a naming ceremony when they asked the parents to bless their child. The baby's mother took her son and prayed for him...and my throat got stuck...lol...
ok, going to get back to go finish up...before i can't leave at 4:30 for real!
this my boss is very foolish...i'm away for 8 days and she's acting like i'm going for 4 weeks.... i defintely can't finish all the work i have to do and then still come to a meeting at 2p.m. it's 1:12p.m now, i'm not almost done and i'm blogging...and i'm still leaving at 4:30 to catch a flight...wa re hell! don't care much at this point....why is it now i have to do a new contract agreement?....
Never thought i could miss someone...but i actually do.... hmmm
Actually don't have money to spend on this trip but i'll enjoy it regardless....too much has already gone into it...including airline fare...why are they so expensive?
I do hope i can carry all my stuff on the plane...don't want to pay $15 to check it in....
Not sure if it was because i was expecting aunty flo and different hormones raging, or maybe i've just become a softee...but last week saturday i cried at a naming ceremony when they asked the parents to bless their child. The baby's mother took her son and prayed for him...and my throat got stuck...lol...
ok, going to get back to go finish up...before i can't leave at 4:30 for real!
Friday, July 10, 2009
gosh...i've really not been here in a while...
what is the nicest way to tell someone you don't want to be in their wedding after the person told you excitedly how u have to be in the wedding...She didn't ask, she told me i'm in the wedding...
I don't want to be in the wedding for two reasons:
1. I'm scared of the bridesmaid dress...i've seen the babe dress...her sense of style...not too sure what the dresses will be....she still wears jeans with brown shades...
2. I promised myself no more bridesmaid for me...ever heard the phrase "7 times a bridemaid, never a braid."
So what shall i say?
what is the nicest way to tell someone you don't want to be in their wedding after the person told you excitedly how u have to be in the wedding...She didn't ask, she told me i'm in the wedding...
I don't want to be in the wedding for two reasons:
1. I'm scared of the bridesmaid dress...i've seen the babe dress...her sense of style...not too sure what the dresses will be....she still wears jeans with brown shades...
2. I promised myself no more bridesmaid for me...ever heard the phrase "7 times a bridemaid, never a braid."
So what shall i say?
Wednesday, April 15, 2009
I'm sooooooooo boreeeddddddddddddd!!!!!!!!!!! and i'm at work oh!!!!!
Anyway, i wasn't tagged but thought i would do this since i'm really bored at the moment...I'm not following the rules since i was not tagged but these are the rules: much tanxs to GNG....lol
1. Use the first letter of your name to answer each of the following questions.
2. They have to be real….nothing made up! if the person before you had the same first initial,you 3. must use different answers.
4.You cannot use any word twice and you cant use your name for the boy/girl question.
5.Don’t google your answers.
6.Make it as interesting and fun as you can.
1. What is your name: S.chic
2. A four letter word: Shake
3. A boy’s name: Sean
4. A girl’s name: Suzanne (this came up because a suzanne just walked in...is that cheating?)
5. An occupation: Scuba diver (atleast i think it's an occupation...i honestly can't think of anything else right about now....oh gosh, while i was typing that i could not think of anything else i thought bout Secretary...lol)
6. A colour: sky blue
7. Something you’ll wear: scarf (quite a few possibilities: shorts, socks)
8. A food: shawarma (i want some soo badly...)(i've really got to find where i can get them here?)
9. Something found in the bathroom: shower curtains
10. A place: Spain?
11. A reason for being late: Stolen keys/purse
12. Something you’d shout: Shucks!
13. A movie title: Slumdog Millionaire (saw it yesterday...pretty good movie)
14. Something you’d drink: Smirnoff ice....ok, smoothie?
15. A musical group: Unless i cheat, i really can't think of any right now...Soul 4 Real? is there a group like that? Sounds real but really old group rite? lol
16. An animal: Snake
17. A street name: Sundew Court
18. A type of car: Saturn
19. The title of a song: "Showers of blessing"
I think this is my first time ever doing one of these....i'm not too good with thinking on the spot...i usually have to think bout something before writing...even before talking sef...
In not following the rules, i'm not tagging anyone...but if you happen to read this and you've not done it...feel free to try it out...
Anyway, i wasn't tagged but thought i would do this since i'm really bored at the moment...I'm not following the rules since i was not tagged but these are the rules: much tanxs to GNG....lol
1. Use the first letter of your name to answer each of the following questions.
2. They have to be real….nothing made up! if the person before you had the same first initial,you 3. must use different answers.
4.You cannot use any word twice and you cant use your name for the boy/girl question.
5.Don’t google your answers.
6.Make it as interesting and fun as you can.
1. What is your name: S.chic
2. A four letter word: Shake
3. A boy’s name: Sean
4. A girl’s name: Suzanne (this came up because a suzanne just walked in...is that cheating?)
5. An occupation: Scuba diver (atleast i think it's an occupation...i honestly can't think of anything else right about now....oh gosh, while i was typing that i could not think of anything else i thought bout Secretary...lol)
6. A colour: sky blue
7. Something you’ll wear: scarf (quite a few possibilities: shorts, socks)
8. A food: shawarma (i want some soo badly...)(i've really got to find where i can get them here?)
9. Something found in the bathroom: shower curtains
10. A place: Spain?
11. A reason for being late: Stolen keys/purse
12. Something you’d shout: Shucks!
13. A movie title: Slumdog Millionaire (saw it yesterday...pretty good movie)
14. Something you’d drink: Smirnoff ice....ok, smoothie?
15. A musical group: Unless i cheat, i really can't think of any right now...Soul 4 Real? is there a group like that? Sounds real but really old group rite? lol
16. An animal: Snake
17. A street name: Sundew Court
18. A type of car: Saturn
19. The title of a song: "Showers of blessing"
I think this is my first time ever doing one of these....i'm not too good with thinking on the spot...i usually have to think bout something before writing...even before talking sef...
In not following the rules, i'm not tagging anyone...but if you happen to read this and you've not done it...feel free to try it out...
Friday, April 10, 2009
Yesterday, i had the day off work. A friend, whose sister does all the house shopping is currently away in nigeria. He had asked if i could please help him go to the farmer's market....it's not as bad as the market in Nigeria, but it does get kinda rowdy with people's body touching one another, i'm not clustrophobic, but i don't like being touched by strange bodies.
Anyway, i had refused at first but earlier during the week, my aunt and i had had a conversation about every woman knowing how to shop at the farmer's market if they were to save money. So i challenged myself and asked him to bring the money and that i would do it.
Maybe it was because i went during the week but it was not bad at all...at one store, the butcher must have known that i was new to this kinda thing, thank God he was african, most of the people there are asians or mexicans...So i had to get chicken, fish, cowleg, and oxtail.
So with the chicken, there are two types; not sure what they are called up till now but i know the nigerians call one Obasanjo chicken, those are the small ones, they taste really nice but they are small and take longer to cook. I believe they are the natural ones actually, as in un-processed... and the other one is the processed one. I didn't want to tell the guy Obasanjo chicken obviously, so i said "i don't want that chicken that is small, i want the big ones"...he laughed, but he took care of me for everything else too...God bless the guy...ended up buying everything with him....well except the fish...So i bought Tilapia from some Asians, and unfortunately they didn't even cut it. I did ask, but the guy said they didn't. Ended up doing all the work myself...
In all, kinda proud of myself, actually bought everything needed on his list, and had money left over...of-course which i kept not even enough for gas and labor...lol
Anyway, i had refused at first but earlier during the week, my aunt and i had had a conversation about every woman knowing how to shop at the farmer's market if they were to save money. So i challenged myself and asked him to bring the money and that i would do it.
Maybe it was because i went during the week but it was not bad at all...at one store, the butcher must have known that i was new to this kinda thing, thank God he was african, most of the people there are asians or mexicans...So i had to get chicken, fish, cowleg, and oxtail.
So with the chicken, there are two types; not sure what they are called up till now but i know the nigerians call one Obasanjo chicken, those are the small ones, they taste really nice but they are small and take longer to cook. I believe they are the natural ones actually, as in un-processed... and the other one is the processed one. I didn't want to tell the guy Obasanjo chicken obviously, so i said "i don't want that chicken that is small, i want the big ones"...he laughed, but he took care of me for everything else too...God bless the guy...ended up buying everything with him....well except the fish...So i bought Tilapia from some Asians, and unfortunately they didn't even cut it. I did ask, but the guy said they didn't. Ended up doing all the work myself...
In all, kinda proud of myself, actually bought everything needed on his list, and had money left over...of-course which i kept not even enough for gas and labor...lol
Wednesday, April 8, 2009
We recently had guests visiting from home with their 2 little adorable kids.
Even though the kids spoke English, the accent was quite interesting, to say the least... I was telling a friend that if i happen to live in Nigeria, i would have to send my kids abroad like every 3 months just to polish their English.
What they say about Nigerians being loud is absolutely correct! I could tell with the little boy that he didn't know any better. As much as i loved the way he pronounced every single word with a "dotted T" it was still funny and wierd to me.
I'll love for my kids to not only speak good english, but i feel like they should also be "polished" (for lack of a better word) with it. I think after sending them abroad for a while, they'll realise the way it's spoken.
I can't fully explain it but that's the gist of it...lol
Even though the kids spoke English, the accent was quite interesting, to say the least... I was telling a friend that if i happen to live in Nigeria, i would have to send my kids abroad like every 3 months just to polish their English.
What they say about Nigerians being loud is absolutely correct! I could tell with the little boy that he didn't know any better. As much as i loved the way he pronounced every single word with a "dotted T" it was still funny and wierd to me.
I'll love for my kids to not only speak good english, but i feel like they should also be "polished" (for lack of a better word) with it. I think after sending them abroad for a while, they'll realise the way it's spoken.
I can't fully explain it but that's the gist of it...lol
Tuesday, April 7, 2009
Monday, April 6, 2009
I was amazed and in shock when i got this in return...
Last Thursday was my cousin's birthday and there were plans to go out to eat...who doesn't like eating especially when u're told that it's free food right?
Well, so i eat light at work because i get full really easily...infact had just a Shrimp egg roll...The dinner venue website was posted on the e-vite so of-course i looked it up excitedly to prepare myself since the name was really fancy...(u know, as a proper african, didn't want to have to go embarass myself) I looked up the food menu and noticed the names itself were "funny"...they had a few pictures up there that i had concluded had to be desserts...
So we're at the venue about 8:30 and everyone welcoming each other...we're given a private area and i bet everyone was enjoying the atmosphere...cocktail orders were taken, the names i must say were also "funny" too, (should have been my clue to what was to become)thank God they explained what they were at the bottom so i settled for a mango moulin (i think that's what it was called)....i'm not much of a drinker but i'm used to getting slightly induced alcohol fruit drinks, u know, like the daiquiries and all...This mango whatver it is was nothing similar...the vodka in it was "serious".... had it half way when i tasted someone else's pineapple delight and wanted that instead...vodka induced pineapple juice...lol... but much better than the mango moulin....
By the time i was done with my drinks, i had already started getting dizzy, was beginning to wonder why the heck i was dizzy and my head was heavy when i realized that i had not eaten all day and had alcohol flowing through me...of-course i got impatient and kept asking when food orders were going to be taken, it was already past 9 and we had not eaten yet...
So they started taking food orders, i didn't want any starters as i had already convinced myself that those things are a gimmick, make u full before the main dish so i generally don't get them...was saving my stomach for the real deal...well, it didn't make it better that everyone around got sushi which is a no-no for me....(i'm a bush girl...u can take the girl out of the bush but u can't take the bush out of her...wareva)
Anyway, place my food order and was really happy to wait for it whilst people ate their rice and raw fish....
I was amazed, in shock, distressed when i got the picture at the top back as my food..."ki le leyi?"(what is this?) was my first reaction...the next thing was "this is not my food"...
the round green things are cantaloupes...the orange one is sliced carrot sitting ontop of a squarish looking baked rice and two that's the chicken on top with God knows what kinda sauce....u should also be able to see the nuts they have on the plate....To be honest, it was nice...but i would have had to have eaten like 3-4 of those before i get satisfied...
I was just thinking about that when the babe sitting opposite me was complaining that she could not finish the 3 small pieces of steak that was on her order(i mean, my chicken pieces were bigger than her steak)...i was not sure why and was truly shocked...something about it being a lot of meat to eat....Two guesses: she really does not like meat or because the guy sitting directly opposite her likes her and she was cautious.... or the one sitting beside her....
oh a third guess would have been the fact that i've stopped caring bout people looking or any guy and just eating...
Thursday, April 2, 2009
http://freerice.com/ - Contribute to a cause...test your vocabulary...
I've been playing this, i think a year or two now and just thought to share...
I've been playing this, i think a year or two now and just thought to share...
Monday, March 23, 2009
A friend and i were talking about contraceptives this weekend. She's getting married in September and is really worried about not yet getting pregnant. They have been in a long distance relationship and the honest truth is the longest amount of time they've been together has not been more than 10days at a time. So i'm guessing she's very concerned about sha spending time with the guy before they get married.
Anyway, ignorance is a really bad thing sha...i on the other hand plan on having a baby right away so i haven't thought about or have plans for contraceptives. She then mentioned that if at all, well, we don't plan on having kids every 9 months right?
Very Correct!
So she's been doing research on it and i'm amazed at some of the things she mentioned...i had to look it up myself and these are some of what i found....(Now some of these may not be news to many....but it is to me...sorry....)
courtesy: http://www.netdoctor.co.uk/sex_relationships/facts/contraception_which.htm
What are the most popular types of contraception?
The Pill including the mini-Pill
Male condom
Vasectomy
Female sterilisation
The coil (intra-uterine device)
Withdrawal method
Persona and other variations of the rhythm method
Contraceptive injection
Mirena (intra-uterine system)
Skin patch
The cap or diaphragm
Female condom
The league table changes from time to time, depending on factors such as Pill scares and the introduction of new methods.For instance, the number of women using Depo-provera (the contraceptive injection) seems to have increased a little since 2000.
What works and what doesn't?
With the exception of withdrawal (coitus interruptus), the above methods have the blessing of family planning experts because when used properly, they prevent pregnancy.However, while the rhythm method is okay for well-motivated couples who have been trained in its use by a qualified natural family planning teacher, for the rest of us, it’s a bit risky.
Also very risky are certain non-approved methods, for instance, using spermicides (chemical pessaries, creams or foams), or douching your vagina after sex.Practices like ‘doing it standing up’ or ‘coughing a lot afterwards’ or ‘trying not to come’ don’t work, and will simply lead to unwanted pregnancy.
How effective are the various methods?Some contraceptive methods are more effective in preventing pregnancy than others, while only condoms offer protection against sexually transmitted infections.
The following figures will give you some idea of which kinds of contraception are the most efficient at protecting you against pregnancy.
Vasectomy - Almost 100 per cent
Female sterilisation- Almost 100 per cent
The Pill-Almost 100 per cent
Contraceptive injection-Almost 100 per cent
IUS (Mirena)- 98 to 99 per cent
IUD (the coil) -97 to 98 per cent
The mini-Pill- Around 98 per cent
Male condom - 90 to 98 per cent
Female condom - 90 to 98 per cent
Diaphragm with spermicide - 90 to 96 per cent
None of the methods is 100 per cent effective, which means the only guaranteed way of preventing conception is to not have sex!(hehehehe) You should also remember that some methods are quite complicated to use, (this is the very reason why i don't like these things, there will always be one "but")and no method is as safe as the figures quoted if you don’t follow the instructions carefully.For example, if you are taking the Pill, you shouldn’t miss taking a tablet. If you are using condoms, you should make sure you put them on before sex starts – not half way through.(why?) If you’re relying on the contraceptive injection, you need to turn up for your jab on time. (what if there is traffic on the way there?)Every method can fail if you don’t take care.
What about new methods of contraception?Other methods of contraception will be available in the future. Below are two recent developments.
The vaginal hormone ring - The vaginal hormone ring (NuvaRing) has been tried out extensively since 2001. It is approved in 32 countries, but not yet in the UK.You keep it in your vagina for three weeks out of every four. During the week you take it out, you will have your period.Like the Pill, it contains two hormones. (and with hormones, your estrogen level is increased causing different kinds of emotions you may not be used to)We don’t know what its long-term effects will be.The most common side effects are known to be:
vaginal inflammation – 14 per cent
headache – 10 per cent
Discharge – 6 per cent
Nausea – 5 per cent.The ring hasn't been generally released in Britain, though you can get it through a few private gynaecologists.As is common with hi-tech methods of contraception, the ring has attracted legal action. In 2008, a lawsuit was launched by a husband who claims that his wife died as a result of using it.
The male Pill The male Pill is still at least five years away from general release, despite the fact that it keeps making headlines.At present, it’s an injection, not a pill.It’s unlikely to reach the British market before 2013.
Anyway, ignorance is a really bad thing sha...i on the other hand plan on having a baby right away so i haven't thought about or have plans for contraceptives. She then mentioned that if at all, well, we don't plan on having kids every 9 months right?
Very Correct!
So she's been doing research on it and i'm amazed at some of the things she mentioned...i had to look it up myself and these are some of what i found....(Now some of these may not be news to many....but it is to me...sorry....)
courtesy: http://www.netdoctor.co.uk/sex_relationships/facts/contraception_which.htm
What are the most popular types of contraception?
The Pill including the mini-Pill
Male condom
Vasectomy
Female sterilisation
The coil (intra-uterine device)
Withdrawal method
Persona and other variations of the rhythm method
Contraceptive injection
Mirena (intra-uterine system)
Skin patch
The cap or diaphragm
Female condom
The league table changes from time to time, depending on factors such as Pill scares and the introduction of new methods.For instance, the number of women using Depo-provera (the contraceptive injection) seems to have increased a little since 2000.
What works and what doesn't?
With the exception of withdrawal (coitus interruptus), the above methods have the blessing of family planning experts because when used properly, they prevent pregnancy.However, while the rhythm method is okay for well-motivated couples who have been trained in its use by a qualified natural family planning teacher, for the rest of us, it’s a bit risky.
Also very risky are certain non-approved methods, for instance, using spermicides (chemical pessaries, creams or foams), or douching your vagina after sex.Practices like ‘doing it standing up’ or ‘coughing a lot afterwards’ or ‘trying not to come’ don’t work, and will simply lead to unwanted pregnancy.
How effective are the various methods?Some contraceptive methods are more effective in preventing pregnancy than others, while only condoms offer protection against sexually transmitted infections.
The following figures will give you some idea of which kinds of contraception are the most efficient at protecting you against pregnancy.
Vasectomy - Almost 100 per cent
Female sterilisation- Almost 100 per cent
The Pill-Almost 100 per cent
Contraceptive injection-Almost 100 per cent
IUS (Mirena)- 98 to 99 per cent
IUD (the coil) -97 to 98 per cent
The mini-Pill- Around 98 per cent
Male condom - 90 to 98 per cent
Female condom - 90 to 98 per cent
Diaphragm with spermicide - 90 to 96 per cent
None of the methods is 100 per cent effective, which means the only guaranteed way of preventing conception is to not have sex!(hehehehe) You should also remember that some methods are quite complicated to use, (this is the very reason why i don't like these things, there will always be one "but")and no method is as safe as the figures quoted if you don’t follow the instructions carefully.For example, if you are taking the Pill, you shouldn’t miss taking a tablet. If you are using condoms, you should make sure you put them on before sex starts – not half way through.(why?) If you’re relying on the contraceptive injection, you need to turn up for your jab on time. (what if there is traffic on the way there?)Every method can fail if you don’t take care.
What about new methods of contraception?Other methods of contraception will be available in the future. Below are two recent developments.
The vaginal hormone ring - The vaginal hormone ring (NuvaRing) has been tried out extensively since 2001. It is approved in 32 countries, but not yet in the UK.You keep it in your vagina for three weeks out of every four. During the week you take it out, you will have your period.Like the Pill, it contains two hormones. (and with hormones, your estrogen level is increased causing different kinds of emotions you may not be used to)We don’t know what its long-term effects will be.The most common side effects are known to be:
vaginal inflammation – 14 per cent
headache – 10 per cent
Discharge – 6 per cent
Nausea – 5 per cent.The ring hasn't been generally released in Britain, though you can get it through a few private gynaecologists.As is common with hi-tech methods of contraception, the ring has attracted legal action. In 2008, a lawsuit was launched by a husband who claims that his wife died as a result of using it.
The male Pill The male Pill is still at least five years away from general release, despite the fact that it keeps making headlines.At present, it’s an injection, not a pill.It’s unlikely to reach the British market before 2013.
Tuesday, March 17, 2009
So, it looks like the older i get, the more changes i'm beginning to realize in my body....i'm still trying to figure out if it's the age (keep in mind i'm getting close to 30) or it's just that all of a sudden i've become more aware of my body....(which i think is beautiful by the way!hehehehe)
Anyway, the change that has been of recent and somehow of concern to me, and was a conversation at work has to do with my ovulation period. I've been having some very interesting body reactions....I didn't use to know/care about when exactly my period was coming, but i always had an idea as i'm pretty regular. The case is different now...i tend to now know 1-2 weeks ahead.
how you ask?
my boobies get really tender and tinglyand by God they hurt!... i get sharp short pains in the stomach, i tend to eat/crave food, and of-course a rather embarassing one...i get horny....
Now these signs have only just started in the last maybe 5-6 months so i'm wondering how come. My hypothesis is on the age factor but maybe i do need to check with a doctor...
Does anyone else get these kinda symptoms? or i'm i just the lucky one? or are there even worse symptoms out there? that should make me feel better....
I can handle all the others except for the eating one...i'm already trying to loose weight as i will be playing my first and last (7 times a bridesmaid, never a bride) MOH (maid of honor) role in September....yipeee!!!! so it's a bother and i can't help the urges...
A co-worker actually mentioned that she gets the horny one during her period itself...thought that was funny....
Was going to put some information up on ovulation...but sorry...realy too lazy...but pls feel free to google it yourself if you need more info...my google search question was "one's ovulation period" and there is some pretty good information out there...
Anyway, the change that has been of recent and somehow of concern to me, and was a conversation at work has to do with my ovulation period. I've been having some very interesting body reactions....I didn't use to know/care about when exactly my period was coming, but i always had an idea as i'm pretty regular. The case is different now...i tend to now know 1-2 weeks ahead.
how you ask?
my boobies get really tender and tinglyand by God they hurt!... i get sharp short pains in the stomach, i tend to eat/crave food, and of-course a rather embarassing one...i get horny....
Now these signs have only just started in the last maybe 5-6 months so i'm wondering how come. My hypothesis is on the age factor but maybe i do need to check with a doctor...
Does anyone else get these kinda symptoms? or i'm i just the lucky one? or are there even worse symptoms out there? that should make me feel better....
I can handle all the others except for the eating one...i'm already trying to loose weight as i will be playing my first and last (7 times a bridesmaid, never a bride) MOH (maid of honor) role in September....yipeee!!!! so it's a bother and i can't help the urges...
A co-worker actually mentioned that she gets the horny one during her period itself...thought that was funny....
Was going to put some information up on ovulation...but sorry...realy too lazy...but pls feel free to google it yourself if you need more info...my google search question was "one's ovulation period" and there is some pretty good information out there...
Friday, March 13, 2009
A couple of days ago, a friend and i were talking about another friend we call "ruth." I'm not sure who started it, but we call females who are so deep into their men "ruths" (abokoku) in translation-ruth who will die for her man.
Well, the conversation shifted from how and why females are like that. My friend clearly admits that once you meet the man you "love and cherish" you become that. Infact, she's in a relationship right now and she clearly admits that if her man was here (it's long distance) we would never really see her. Anyone looking for her would know not to go to her family house anymore but to come over to his place because she would spend all her waking hours with him.
I was later thinking bout the fact and wondering if i'm just wierd, have never truly fallen in love, or it's just not in my nature to be like that because the honest truth is i don't see myself being or doing that.
I hate to make a man the center of my world when his not Christ.
In my entire life and man experience, albeit small, i've never felt and still don't feel like i should treat my man the way those people called "ruth" do. I do hope someone understands the extremes of this "love." Don't get me wrong, I know for sure that my man who will later become my husband will get the utmost respect and attention from me but not to a point where i begin to look silly...
We were at a party one time when another girlfriend's man arrived. The girl jumped telling anyone that would listen "oko mi ti de" - my husband has come, pls excuse me; from that point on, everything became about the guy. The time she used in finding him food, the fact that she would not leave his side and even spoke for him during conversations.
females called "ruth" don't keep any secret or anything away or from their men. Whether it is their's or a friend. I may be wrong but a secret is a secret. It should not be shared with another party...husband or not.
Having said all that, i was going to ask if i was wierd about not being an "abaokoku," but now that i think about it, i really don't want to be one. I do want to love freely but i don't want the guy simply thinking/feeling like his the center of my world!
Well, the conversation shifted from how and why females are like that. My friend clearly admits that once you meet the man you "love and cherish" you become that. Infact, she's in a relationship right now and she clearly admits that if her man was here (it's long distance) we would never really see her. Anyone looking for her would know not to go to her family house anymore but to come over to his place because she would spend all her waking hours with him.
I was later thinking bout the fact and wondering if i'm just wierd, have never truly fallen in love, or it's just not in my nature to be like that because the honest truth is i don't see myself being or doing that.
I hate to make a man the center of my world when his not Christ.
In my entire life and man experience, albeit small, i've never felt and still don't feel like i should treat my man the way those people called "ruth" do. I do hope someone understands the extremes of this "love." Don't get me wrong, I know for sure that my man who will later become my husband will get the utmost respect and attention from me but not to a point where i begin to look silly...
We were at a party one time when another girlfriend's man arrived. The girl jumped telling anyone that would listen "oko mi ti de" - my husband has come, pls excuse me; from that point on, everything became about the guy. The time she used in finding him food, the fact that she would not leave his side and even spoke for him during conversations.
females called "ruth" don't keep any secret or anything away or from their men. Whether it is their's or a friend. I may be wrong but a secret is a secret. It should not be shared with another party...husband or not.
Having said all that, i was going to ask if i was wierd about not being an "abaokoku," but now that i think about it, i really don't want to be one. I do want to love freely but i don't want the guy simply thinking/feeling like his the center of my world!
Tuesday, March 3, 2009
Yesterday, most places were closed where i am because of some snow storm...on the way out later in the evening, we were having a conversation and someone mentioned what would happen in an incidence of snow in Nigeria...i heard some really funny answers:
Reduction in Population - In other words, many would die. Think about those people that live under the bridge or simply on the straights...or the many handicapped.
Crime Reduction - Since nigerians are not used to snow, doubt if even armed robbers would be able to stand the cold or would want to go robb
Stimulate Economy - lol...geezz...i forgot what the logic behind this was...any ideas?
Migration - people may move back to where they originally belong...i think this also would affect the economy as people would take money back to their home states rather than the big cities...
Increased number of believers - justification for this is the fact that many would either believe that God is angry with us as nigerians...the world may be coming to an end...as such people would begin to believe more in whomever it is they believe...
Igbo women will open their wrappers... i can't explain it...but something about ibo women opening their wrappers meaning they mean business...
Not sure if it sounds funny on here, but it was the way these contributions were said that was funny and the exagerated way...
Reduction in Population - In other words, many would die. Think about those people that live under the bridge or simply on the straights...or the many handicapped.
Crime Reduction - Since nigerians are not used to snow, doubt if even armed robbers would be able to stand the cold or would want to go robb
Stimulate Economy - lol...geezz...i forgot what the logic behind this was...any ideas?
Migration - people may move back to where they originally belong...i think this also would affect the economy as people would take money back to their home states rather than the big cities...
Increased number of believers - justification for this is the fact that many would either believe that God is angry with us as nigerians...the world may be coming to an end...as such people would begin to believe more in whomever it is they believe...
Igbo women will open their wrappers... i can't explain it...but something about ibo women opening their wrappers meaning they mean business...
Not sure if it sounds funny on here, but it was the way these contributions were said that was funny and the exagerated way...
Tuesday, February 24, 2009
Ermmm...excuse me, excuse me...
yes hi, can i help you?
hi, just moved to the area, actually i just came into the country and just trying to make friends...i'm hanging out here with my friend, his uncle owns the store...
Oh really, nice...came from where? nigeria?
oh no, Russia, so what's your name?
oh welcome, i hope you're settling down well?
yes thanks, you didn't tell me your name?
oh it's schic
ahhh! you're yoruba? could not have guessed, you look hausa...i'm yoruba too, i'm Ayo...
ok, nice to meet you, sorry i have to run now...
oh ok, sorry to hold you up...maybe the next time you come here i can get your number...
yeah, maybe...i come here pretty often...
(truth is, schic went home that day a little happy, was beginning to think she had "lost it"...apparently, i still got it!)
The Next Time
Hey! Schic right?
right! sorry i forgot your name
Ayo...oh yeah, right...hope you're settling down well now?
Yeah...i thought you came here often, have not seen you in two weeks...
Oh, i've been busy...and have not needed anything from here...
Oh ok, so, can i get your number, maybe you can take me out sometime?
Well, about that, the other time i mentioned you to my husband and he thought maybe he could give you a call to maybe hang out sometime....
you're married? you don't look it...and there is no ring on your finger....
do married people look a certain way? and i choose not to wear my ring everyday, but yeah, i do have a husband at home...
(phone rings at that point)
oh, hi baby, i'm at africana, buying yam, wanted to make porridge this evening, are you on your way home already?
ok baby, we'll probably be getting home at the same time then...later
(Ayo's friend comments) (by the way, Ayo's friend is a really cool guy that runs Africana):
I could never have guessed you were married, you just come in here and get movies and plaintain chips...i've always thought maybe you lived alone and liked a quiet lifestyle...
hmmm, well...nope...i'm married but still live a quiet life...Anyway, Ayo, give me your number, i could have my husband call u up sometime maybe he could show you around...
Ayo did give me his number...
Ok, i don't know why, but i got a kick playing the married woman....hehehehehe....
it was funny to me...My life is a bore! i need excitment!
yes hi, can i help you?
hi, just moved to the area, actually i just came into the country and just trying to make friends...i'm hanging out here with my friend, his uncle owns the store...
Oh really, nice...came from where? nigeria?
oh no, Russia, so what's your name?
oh welcome, i hope you're settling down well?
yes thanks, you didn't tell me your name?
oh it's schic
ahhh! you're yoruba? could not have guessed, you look hausa...i'm yoruba too, i'm Ayo...
ok, nice to meet you, sorry i have to run now...
oh ok, sorry to hold you up...maybe the next time you come here i can get your number...
yeah, maybe...i come here pretty often...
(truth is, schic went home that day a little happy, was beginning to think she had "lost it"...apparently, i still got it!)
The Next Time
Hey! Schic right?
right! sorry i forgot your name
Ayo...oh yeah, right...hope you're settling down well now?
Yeah...i thought you came here often, have not seen you in two weeks...
Oh, i've been busy...and have not needed anything from here...
Oh ok, so, can i get your number, maybe you can take me out sometime?
Well, about that, the other time i mentioned you to my husband and he thought maybe he could give you a call to maybe hang out sometime....
you're married? you don't look it...and there is no ring on your finger....
do married people look a certain way? and i choose not to wear my ring everyday, but yeah, i do have a husband at home...
(phone rings at that point)
oh, hi baby, i'm at africana, buying yam, wanted to make porridge this evening, are you on your way home already?
ok baby, we'll probably be getting home at the same time then...later
(Ayo's friend comments) (by the way, Ayo's friend is a really cool guy that runs Africana):
I could never have guessed you were married, you just come in here and get movies and plaintain chips...i've always thought maybe you lived alone and liked a quiet lifestyle...
hmmm, well...nope...i'm married but still live a quiet life...Anyway, Ayo, give me your number, i could have my husband call u up sometime maybe he could show you around...
Ayo did give me his number...
Ok, i don't know why, but i got a kick playing the married woman....hehehehehe....
it was funny to me...My life is a bore! i need excitment!
Wednesday, February 18, 2009
So i was not thinking so much when i put up my last post, anyone that happens to go to my church and reads my blog probably now knows and can confirm exactly who i am...sad huh...no wonder i'm real easy to find...huff!
Anyway, i'm writing today for a different reason. I enjoy watching nigerian movies because they sort of remind me of home...but i saw one yesterday and was really really upset.
Can someone please tell those nigerian script writers or story writers or casting director...not sure who even handles the matter, but the problem is "please, do not give yoruba names to people who are clearly ibo and have an accent that does not allow them to pronounce the yoruba name properly...(pls note, this is said with all due respect) and vice-versa...
It totally spoils the reality of what i'm watching.
The other problem i have watching them, and this is totally personal, please don't match the really sexy, well spoken guy with some chic that can't atleast speak properly or without me thinking she has something stuck in her mouth or her tongue is not long enough....and vice-versa sha...don't use a hot babe and then just any guy as the leading male role. If both can't speak properly, i would gladly still watch without getting annoyed...
Anyway, i was just a bit worried after watching the movie from yesterday that i figured if i put my complain up here, maybe someone would be kind enough to let them movie people know.
Anyway, i'm writing today for a different reason. I enjoy watching nigerian movies because they sort of remind me of home...but i saw one yesterday and was really really upset.
Can someone please tell those nigerian script writers or story writers or casting director...not sure who even handles the matter, but the problem is "please, do not give yoruba names to people who are clearly ibo and have an accent that does not allow them to pronounce the yoruba name properly...(pls note, this is said with all due respect) and vice-versa...
It totally spoils the reality of what i'm watching.
The other problem i have watching them, and this is totally personal, please don't match the really sexy, well spoken guy with some chic that can't atleast speak properly or without me thinking she has something stuck in her mouth or her tongue is not long enough....and vice-versa sha...don't use a hot babe and then just any guy as the leading male role. If both can't speak properly, i would gladly still watch without getting annoyed...
Anyway, i was just a bit worried after watching the movie from yesterday that i figured if i put my complain up here, maybe someone would be kind enough to let them movie people know.
Tuesday, February 17, 2009
I was tired of looking at the last post...so i put up something else from last sunday....
It's a compilation of my thoughts and thoughts of others who ave shared their ideas that i gound online...i'm going to go back and find the original articles so i can reference them properly...
Today’s service theme is based on a celebration yesterday that the world termed Valentine’s day. The history behind that is a story for another day but if anyone were like me…quite on the “unromantic side,” you would have wondered why there has to be a special day to remember to show or celebrate love…
If you’re in a relationship-married or courting, or even a child to a parent or parent to child, I say whatever happened to being able to throw in a gift every now and then, or just doing something special as an expression f that love? Why wait until one specific day…while the thought of the day is really nice, I think it further propagates the idea of love by the world’s standard.
I’m not sure how many people have ever tried asking anyone to define “love” and you don’t get the answer you really want to hear? You get different kind of funny answers like “you just know when it’s love,” or it’s a wonderful feeling that can’t be explained.”
On the other hand, if you look into the dictionary, you’ll find different definitions but one common thing about all the definition you’ll find is the fact that the definition of love is dependent on something else.
The American Heritage dictionary defines love as an “intense affection for another person based on familial or personal ties” That intense affection usually stems from a sexual attraction for another person, that is, we love people or say we love others when we are attracted to them and when they make us feel good. The underlined word here is the term “based on.”
It implies that our love is conditional; we love someone because they fulfill a condition that we require before we can love them. Even with children, you hear a child after being given a gift be real quick to say I love you to the parent and even as young adults, how many times have you heard or said to someone else, “I love you because you are cute, or I love you because you take good care of me or I love you because you are fun to be with.
In all, we can clearly say that we love based on feelings and emotions that can change from one moment to another and also the reason why many times we say we love someone and after a while, the love just dies.
Ok, so we’ve looked at what people say about the definition of love, we’ve looked at how the dictionary defines love, now, we want to look at how the bible defines love: The honest truth is we can’t exhaust it based on the time we have. There are too many scriptures that back this whole idea of love.
As Christians, It’s simply the basis of our existence! Why do you think God created the world? It was out of this love, this love is the same reason we’re able to wake up each day, it’s the same reason we see a lot of things/mysteries of nature-some as simple as water falls others as complicated as day and night, the seasons, and we’re “wow,” and appreciate them all…the bibles’ definition is love is simple: I John 4:8 simply tells us “God is love!” what about one of the most popular one John 3:16 – “For God so loved the world that He gave his only begotten Son that whosoever believes in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” Here, God’s love is defined in the act of His giving. However, what God gave was not a mere gift wrapped present; God sacrificed His only Son so that we, who put our faith in His Son, will not spend eternity separated from Him. If anyone here has any other way to express love greater than this love that was expressed for us, I’ll really love to know. The honest truth is I’m not even sure right now I could sacrifice my life for another person’s.
Another verse about love is found in Romans 5:8: “But God Commandeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.” Here, and also in John 3:16, we find no condition for this love- an unconditional expression. He didn’t say, well, “I’ll wait for you to get yourself together and come to me, or say “if you promise to love me, or even ask if I give you my son will you love me?” He just went ahead and loved us! I think that’s amazing.
Having said all of that, the bottom line is that Real love is costly. Real love demands sacrifice that can’t be found in self-centeredness. Sacrificial love requires that we give what we value most: our hearts, minds, souls, and strength.
Going back to the passage we read, 1 Corinthian 13…It describes the depth of love, for those of us still wondering about what I’m saying, Love is the very nature of God, and the greatest of the Christian virtues: So it says in Matthew 22:36-38…
Love is essential – vs 2
· It is more important that prophesy. The bible is full of prophecies but combined they are not as great as love; without love, prophecy is useless.
· Love is more important than mysteries – we’re talking about all the unknown, Trinity, Incarnation, etc
· Love is more important than knowledge – this includes the whole range of possible learning: schools, universities, or college degrees.
· Love is more important than faith: faith as a grain of mustard seed would be wonderful, but useless without love.
Love is Generous/sacrificial – vs 3
Giving without love is useless. To give with an unkind spirit or mind is useless. It’s funny because giving is probably one of the common ones we go astray with. Not only in giving money, we’re talking bout-giving time, it’s usually easy for us to say I’m just doing so that they won’t say or so that “they” say…. Imagine how God gave his son even without thinking twice about it. The utmost possible sacrifices of property or anything else is useless if it is not done in love…
Love is able to suffer long vs 4a
This is probably the most outstanding attribute of love…
In other words, love is able to persevere patiently and bravely, is able to be patient, love is able to be mild and slow in avenging, love is slow to anger, slow to punish. As Christians, we will be willing to endure sufferings of various sorts for the sake of others. , Sometimes, it may involve being ridiculed suffer actual or physical loss or even persecutions for the sake of Christ. The bible makes us understand that The Christian journey is one of suffering, God tells us that in this world we will have trouble, but he’ll give us peace, in this suffering, we as Christians must still learn to love. Through this suffering we become matured Christians as all this will pass…let’s look at Romans 8:35-39.
Love is kind
An attribute we all need this days, imagine being in a store and a waiter is rude to you, of-course your first instinct is to say “ what the “heck” and I put it mildly for some…or imagine someone just saying horrible things about you, the first thing you want to do is get back at the person…but there is actually a solution, James 3:13 say “ “who is wise and understanding among you? Let him show good conduct that his works are done in the meekness of wisdom.” Let’s also look at 1 peter 2:12…
Love is not vs 4b – 6a
Envious- true love does not envy success, gifts, talents, and possessions of others
Boastful –true love is humble. It does not show off
Conceited – it is not self centered
Rude – True love is courteous at all times
Selfish – True love is not self-seeking, it is sacrificial and generous
Provoked – True love is not irritable, it is not easily angered…
True love does not delight in evil
True love does not dwell in sin.
Love is
Truthful – it’s honest regardless…
Sustaining, it bears all things, it does not drop under strain, and it does not run away
Trusting –
Hopeful
Enduring – it endures through time, and even death
Successful – love never fails
Love is Eternal; it will outlive everything else, prophecy, tongues, and knowledge.
The bible says Heaven and earth may pass away but love will abide…
Now, I may have said a lot, and maybe some have even gotten lost in all my rambling, but just as a reminder, if you’re wondering
how much and amazing God’s love is: Jeremiah 31:3 – God loves you with an amazing love, a love that endures through all time.
The cost of this love was Calvary: I John 4:9-10 - God sent Jesus to pay the penalty for our sins
It doesn’t matter how many wrong things we have done in the past, Jesus loves us and is waiting with open arms to receive us.
And even though we may be going through some hard or difficult times, God promises that nothing can separate us from His amazing love!
Having said all that, to understand the depth of this amazing love, and the peace of mind that also comes with it, and be able to truly love others, we must know God, by establishing a relationship with him.
If there is anyone who does not have that relationship, or anyone who thinks they have strayed away from that relationship, even as we all rise to pray, let us meditate on the reassurance that God loves us. Let us thank Him for that love, ask him to open our eyes to each evidence of the love, no matter how small; and pray that re establishes or restores us to Himself so that we may begin to bask in that love.
An additional prayer point is taken from Ephesians 3:17-19
“May your roots go down deep into the soil of God’s marvelous love. And may you have the power to understand, as all God’s people should, how wide, how long, how high, and how deep his love really is.”
Let us ask God to help us discover the heights, depth, width and length of his love to the extent that we will become speechless.
It's a compilation of my thoughts and thoughts of others who ave shared their ideas that i gound online...i'm going to go back and find the original articles so i can reference them properly...
Today’s service theme is based on a celebration yesterday that the world termed Valentine’s day. The history behind that is a story for another day but if anyone were like me…quite on the “unromantic side,” you would have wondered why there has to be a special day to remember to show or celebrate love…
If you’re in a relationship-married or courting, or even a child to a parent or parent to child, I say whatever happened to being able to throw in a gift every now and then, or just doing something special as an expression f that love? Why wait until one specific day…while the thought of the day is really nice, I think it further propagates the idea of love by the world’s standard.
I’m not sure how many people have ever tried asking anyone to define “love” and you don’t get the answer you really want to hear? You get different kind of funny answers like “you just know when it’s love,” or it’s a wonderful feeling that can’t be explained.”
On the other hand, if you look into the dictionary, you’ll find different definitions but one common thing about all the definition you’ll find is the fact that the definition of love is dependent on something else.
The American Heritage dictionary defines love as an “intense affection for another person based on familial or personal ties” That intense affection usually stems from a sexual attraction for another person, that is, we love people or say we love others when we are attracted to them and when they make us feel good. The underlined word here is the term “based on.”
It implies that our love is conditional; we love someone because they fulfill a condition that we require before we can love them. Even with children, you hear a child after being given a gift be real quick to say I love you to the parent and even as young adults, how many times have you heard or said to someone else, “I love you because you are cute, or I love you because you take good care of me or I love you because you are fun to be with.
In all, we can clearly say that we love based on feelings and emotions that can change from one moment to another and also the reason why many times we say we love someone and after a while, the love just dies.
Ok, so we’ve looked at what people say about the definition of love, we’ve looked at how the dictionary defines love, now, we want to look at how the bible defines love: The honest truth is we can’t exhaust it based on the time we have. There are too many scriptures that back this whole idea of love.
As Christians, It’s simply the basis of our existence! Why do you think God created the world? It was out of this love, this love is the same reason we’re able to wake up each day, it’s the same reason we see a lot of things/mysteries of nature-some as simple as water falls others as complicated as day and night, the seasons, and we’re “wow,” and appreciate them all…the bibles’ definition is love is simple: I John 4:8 simply tells us “God is love!” what about one of the most popular one John 3:16 – “For God so loved the world that He gave his only begotten Son that whosoever believes in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” Here, God’s love is defined in the act of His giving. However, what God gave was not a mere gift wrapped present; God sacrificed His only Son so that we, who put our faith in His Son, will not spend eternity separated from Him. If anyone here has any other way to express love greater than this love that was expressed for us, I’ll really love to know. The honest truth is I’m not even sure right now I could sacrifice my life for another person’s.
Another verse about love is found in Romans 5:8: “But God Commandeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.” Here, and also in John 3:16, we find no condition for this love- an unconditional expression. He didn’t say, well, “I’ll wait for you to get yourself together and come to me, or say “if you promise to love me, or even ask if I give you my son will you love me?” He just went ahead and loved us! I think that’s amazing.
Having said all of that, the bottom line is that Real love is costly. Real love demands sacrifice that can’t be found in self-centeredness. Sacrificial love requires that we give what we value most: our hearts, minds, souls, and strength.
Going back to the passage we read, 1 Corinthian 13…It describes the depth of love, for those of us still wondering about what I’m saying, Love is the very nature of God, and the greatest of the Christian virtues: So it says in Matthew 22:36-38…
Love is essential – vs 2
· It is more important that prophesy. The bible is full of prophecies but combined they are not as great as love; without love, prophecy is useless.
· Love is more important than mysteries – we’re talking about all the unknown, Trinity, Incarnation, etc
· Love is more important than knowledge – this includes the whole range of possible learning: schools, universities, or college degrees.
· Love is more important than faith: faith as a grain of mustard seed would be wonderful, but useless without love.
Love is Generous/sacrificial – vs 3
Giving without love is useless. To give with an unkind spirit or mind is useless. It’s funny because giving is probably one of the common ones we go astray with. Not only in giving money, we’re talking bout-giving time, it’s usually easy for us to say I’m just doing so that they won’t say or so that “they” say…. Imagine how God gave his son even without thinking twice about it. The utmost possible sacrifices of property or anything else is useless if it is not done in love…
Love is able to suffer long vs 4a
This is probably the most outstanding attribute of love…
In other words, love is able to persevere patiently and bravely, is able to be patient, love is able to be mild and slow in avenging, love is slow to anger, slow to punish. As Christians, we will be willing to endure sufferings of various sorts for the sake of others. , Sometimes, it may involve being ridiculed suffer actual or physical loss or even persecutions for the sake of Christ. The bible makes us understand that The Christian journey is one of suffering, God tells us that in this world we will have trouble, but he’ll give us peace, in this suffering, we as Christians must still learn to love. Through this suffering we become matured Christians as all this will pass…let’s look at Romans 8:35-39.
Love is kind
An attribute we all need this days, imagine being in a store and a waiter is rude to you, of-course your first instinct is to say “ what the “heck” and I put it mildly for some…or imagine someone just saying horrible things about you, the first thing you want to do is get back at the person…but there is actually a solution, James 3:13 say “ “who is wise and understanding among you? Let him show good conduct that his works are done in the meekness of wisdom.” Let’s also look at 1 peter 2:12…
Love is not vs 4b – 6a
Envious- true love does not envy success, gifts, talents, and possessions of others
Boastful –true love is humble. It does not show off
Conceited – it is not self centered
Rude – True love is courteous at all times
Selfish – True love is not self-seeking, it is sacrificial and generous
Provoked – True love is not irritable, it is not easily angered…
True love does not delight in evil
True love does not dwell in sin.
Love is
Truthful – it’s honest regardless…
Sustaining, it bears all things, it does not drop under strain, and it does not run away
Trusting –
Hopeful
Enduring – it endures through time, and even death
Successful – love never fails
Love is Eternal; it will outlive everything else, prophecy, tongues, and knowledge.
The bible says Heaven and earth may pass away but love will abide…
Now, I may have said a lot, and maybe some have even gotten lost in all my rambling, but just as a reminder, if you’re wondering
how much and amazing God’s love is: Jeremiah 31:3 – God loves you with an amazing love, a love that endures through all time.
The cost of this love was Calvary: I John 4:9-10 - God sent Jesus to pay the penalty for our sins
It doesn’t matter how many wrong things we have done in the past, Jesus loves us and is waiting with open arms to receive us.
And even though we may be going through some hard or difficult times, God promises that nothing can separate us from His amazing love!
Having said all that, to understand the depth of this amazing love, and the peace of mind that also comes with it, and be able to truly love others, we must know God, by establishing a relationship with him.
If there is anyone who does not have that relationship, or anyone who thinks they have strayed away from that relationship, even as we all rise to pray, let us meditate on the reassurance that God loves us. Let us thank Him for that love, ask him to open our eyes to each evidence of the love, no matter how small; and pray that re establishes or restores us to Himself so that we may begin to bask in that love.
An additional prayer point is taken from Ephesians 3:17-19
“May your roots go down deep into the soil of God’s marvelous love. And may you have the power to understand, as all God’s people should, how wide, how long, how high, and how deep his love really is.”
Let us ask God to help us discover the heights, depth, width and length of his love to the extent that we will become speechless.
Thursday, January 22, 2009
Womiloju!!! Womiloju!!! Womilenu!!! Wominimu!!!
Omo Oloriburuku...the child never hears when she's being called!
Maaaa...Womiloju finally shouts....i'm coming ma!
foolish girl! how many times do i have to call you before you hear and answer me...
E ma binu ma, i was in the toilet...
Well, go and pack your things, you're going to iya Kano....since you won't read, "olodo oshi" all your mates are moving ahead, you can't pass one class...me i can't keep you again, you're going to go live with iya Kano.
Ahh...maami, please i don't won't to go...i will try school again....
ahhh...abi "awon aiye se omo yi ni?" jo, go and pack your things and you will follow ahmed tomorrow morning to catch the bus to Kano.
Womiloju cried her eyes out and begged but to no avail....two days later she was with iya Kano learning how to make ogi and to sell...which she did very well for 4 months...
After 4 months, just when she was settling down,Womiloju is sent again to Abeokuta to go live with maami's niece who has a 3years old child and is expecting another.
Womiloju, lo pon omo wa funmi...Womiloju, lo ra iresi wa, Womiloju lo gbale yara, Womiloju lo gba eko wa ni odo iya risi wa...Womiloju was sent on endless errands...climbing up and down over 40 stone steps about 6 to 7 times a day....
The day after maami's niece had her baby, 3 months into Womiloju living with them, she was called back to Lagos.
Womiloju, o ma lo ko ise. you will learn to sew...from now on, you will go to iya Bamiji every morning and come back at night...by 3 weeks you better be able to sew...if u can't i repeat, if u cannot at that time...o ti rogo!
Womiloju did learn and became really good, she got her freedom 6 months later and maami bought her a sewing machine...
Womiloju started making progress in life, she got married and had her first child, while she was expecting her second child, something happened that prompted her to go see an uncle that was a doctor... the uncle sent her to another doctor...an ENT...results came out after some tests...
Womiloju was deaf in one ear...that's the reason she could never pass in school...she never heard what was being said in class....the classes were too large and she sat at the back...she was able to hear at home because everyone around was generally loud when talking....
a different path was chosen for her...her destiny had been changed just because no one paid attention....
Womiloju is 54 years old now, came to america for the first time...in her wildest dreams, she never thought she would come abroad...her children have brought her here to visit....
I thought her story was really inspirational...
Omo Oloriburuku...the child never hears when she's being called!
Maaaa...Womiloju finally shouts....i'm coming ma!
foolish girl! how many times do i have to call you before you hear and answer me...
E ma binu ma, i was in the toilet...
Well, go and pack your things, you're going to iya Kano....since you won't read, "olodo oshi" all your mates are moving ahead, you can't pass one class...me i can't keep you again, you're going to go live with iya Kano.
Ahh...maami, please i don't won't to go...i will try school again....
ahhh...abi "awon aiye se omo yi ni?" jo, go and pack your things and you will follow ahmed tomorrow morning to catch the bus to Kano.
Womiloju cried her eyes out and begged but to no avail....two days later she was with iya Kano learning how to make ogi and to sell...which she did very well for 4 months...
After 4 months, just when she was settling down,Womiloju is sent again to Abeokuta to go live with maami's niece who has a 3years old child and is expecting another.
Womiloju, lo pon omo wa funmi...Womiloju, lo ra iresi wa, Womiloju lo gbale yara, Womiloju lo gba eko wa ni odo iya risi wa...Womiloju was sent on endless errands...climbing up and down over 40 stone steps about 6 to 7 times a day....
The day after maami's niece had her baby, 3 months into Womiloju living with them, she was called back to Lagos.
Womiloju, o ma lo ko ise. you will learn to sew...from now on, you will go to iya Bamiji every morning and come back at night...by 3 weeks you better be able to sew...if u can't i repeat, if u cannot at that time...o ti rogo!
Womiloju did learn and became really good, she got her freedom 6 months later and maami bought her a sewing machine...
Womiloju started making progress in life, she got married and had her first child, while she was expecting her second child, something happened that prompted her to go see an uncle that was a doctor... the uncle sent her to another doctor...an ENT...results came out after some tests...
Womiloju was deaf in one ear...that's the reason she could never pass in school...she never heard what was being said in class....the classes were too large and she sat at the back...she was able to hear at home because everyone around was generally loud when talking....
a different path was chosen for her...her destiny had been changed just because no one paid attention....
Womiloju is 54 years old now, came to america for the first time...in her wildest dreams, she never thought she would come abroad...her children have brought her here to visit....
I thought her story was really inspirational...
Tuesday, January 13, 2009
It's so hard keeping up with blogging these days, i honestly just can't find the time...i have different things in my head and say i'll come blog bout it but then by the time i do find a little bit of time, i forget what i was going to blog about....
I was going to blog about the hilariousness and popularity of the yoruba movie called Jenifa...As in, that girl deserves an award for real...
Anyway, i had a really wierd dream last night and thought i would blog bout it before i forget again...Funny it was a really detailed dream too...not sure if it happens to anyone, but it was as if at one point i was pulling out of the dream back to consciousness but i forced myself back to sleep so i could continue and finish the dream...lol...sad huh?
Ok, so get to the dream already abi? well even before that- background to my dream is based on the issues i've have been blogging about...i've been hearing different kinds of stories that is funny sha...also coupled with the fact that there is a bit of marriage buzz around me. My cousin and a very good friend of mine got engaged this new year and so the buzz...my friend's wedding is in about 6months and i'm heavily involved in the planning...i'm even MOH sef....infact, i went to sleep last night after a telephone conference with the bride and the head planner-bride's sister in-law...already, there is drama that i wish not to be involved in especially since it's something as ridiculous as aso-ebi (family clothing)- how many different ones? these group of people want their own while another group want another one and so on...anyway...that was what i slept thinking bout....
My dream, now i've forgotten the full gist sef.... somehow was sha that me too i was getting ready to marry...lol...honestly, only people who really know me would find the fact that i'm marrying funny...infact the guy had proposed and all that only to find out during the planning that the guy is married and with kids sef...as in, young guy, nothing to indicate or prompt me to that before...we had been dating for atleast a year...not once had there been any sign of him being married....he didn't have to call anyone, travel anywhere and all...
Well, i remember there was one part where he was just in a living room just sitting down looking when some older pple from his home were breaking the news to me...he insisted he still wanted to marry me though...that that family was not real...anyway...think the last thing i remember was me just crying that why would something like that happen to me of all people! lol
I thought it was realyl funny....lol
I was going to blog about the hilariousness and popularity of the yoruba movie called Jenifa...As in, that girl deserves an award for real...
Anyway, i had a really wierd dream last night and thought i would blog bout it before i forget again...Funny it was a really detailed dream too...not sure if it happens to anyone, but it was as if at one point i was pulling out of the dream back to consciousness but i forced myself back to sleep so i could continue and finish the dream...lol...sad huh?
Ok, so get to the dream already abi? well even before that- background to my dream is based on the issues i've have been blogging about...i've been hearing different kinds of stories that is funny sha...also coupled with the fact that there is a bit of marriage buzz around me. My cousin and a very good friend of mine got engaged this new year and so the buzz...my friend's wedding is in about 6months and i'm heavily involved in the planning...i'm even MOH sef....infact, i went to sleep last night after a telephone conference with the bride and the head planner-bride's sister in-law...already, there is drama that i wish not to be involved in especially since it's something as ridiculous as aso-ebi (family clothing)- how many different ones? these group of people want their own while another group want another one and so on...anyway...that was what i slept thinking bout....
My dream, now i've forgotten the full gist sef.... somehow was sha that me too i was getting ready to marry...lol...honestly, only people who really know me would find the fact that i'm marrying funny...infact the guy had proposed and all that only to find out during the planning that the guy is married and with kids sef...as in, young guy, nothing to indicate or prompt me to that before...we had been dating for atleast a year...not once had there been any sign of him being married....he didn't have to call anyone, travel anywhere and all...
Well, i remember there was one part where he was just in a living room just sitting down looking when some older pple from his home were breaking the news to me...he insisted he still wanted to marry me though...that that family was not real...anyway...think the last thing i remember was me just crying that why would something like that happen to me of all people! lol
I thought it was realyl funny....lol
Tuesday, January 6, 2009
case update
ok, i have like God knows how many things on my table that i need to do...but i don't feel like it, don't have the strength for it and don't know where to start from...i sha know my oga wants to see typed up papers by 11am and it's currently 9:40a.m.
and what i'm i doing? blogging! SAD!
I'm thinking about getting off facebook, i've seen something that i should not have seen...if i had been jejely minding my business doing what i should be doing...i would have been blissful in my ignorance...huff!
oh yeah main reason for signing in here...the gist from that babe from case 2...well, not confirmed yet but according to the babe the guy did cancel his wedding in naija oh...his not back yet because his sorting things out still....
could this be true?
and what i'm i doing? blogging! SAD!
I'm thinking about getting off facebook, i've seen something that i should not have seen...if i had been jejely minding my business doing what i should be doing...i would have been blissful in my ignorance...huff!
oh yeah main reason for signing in here...the gist from that babe from case 2...well, not confirmed yet but according to the babe the guy did cancel his wedding in naija oh...his not back yet because his sorting things out still....
could this be true?
Saturday, January 3, 2009
Profile
It's a New Year!!!! Yipeee...praying that new and beautiful things will happen for us all in this new year in Jesus Name....Amen!
So i thought i was done with this profiling thing but i sporadically (is the use and the word correct? just thot i'ld try my mind on big words...lol...if it's not, o well...) get someone asking me to put up a profile or is interested in one they've read from the past.
That reminds me, i have to do a follow up on the last match...i wonder if anything good came out of it....
This one i'm putting up today is actually someone i know personally, and if things were different, i could have hooked up with him myself...lol... "BUT"....let's just say there is a but there for us...
In other words...his a great guy....so ladies, if u're interested...pls feel free to let me know...if u have further questions for him...his willing to answer them...
Age: 29
Sex: male
Occupation: IT consultant
Religion: Christian
Faith: Pentecostal
Resident Country: London
COuntry of Origin: Nigeria
State: Illesha
Age range seeking: 24 - 30
Seeking Someone preferably in london but someone who "can" and is willing to be able to travel back and forth also ok
Interest: Reading, music, arts
Description: Quiet, Intelligent, intellectual (o.k, this is me adding this), simple...
Well ladies...his laid it down...just send me an e-mail if you are at all curious about this individual...
by the way, i have case 3 to put up...maybe i will tomorrow...
So i thought i was done with this profiling thing but i sporadically (is the use and the word correct? just thot i'ld try my mind on big words...lol...if it's not, o well...) get someone asking me to put up a profile or is interested in one they've read from the past.
That reminds me, i have to do a follow up on the last match...i wonder if anything good came out of it....
This one i'm putting up today is actually someone i know personally, and if things were different, i could have hooked up with him myself...lol... "BUT"....let's just say there is a but there for us...
In other words...his a great guy....so ladies, if u're interested...pls feel free to let me know...if u have further questions for him...his willing to answer them...
Age: 29
Sex: male
Occupation: IT consultant
Religion: Christian
Faith: Pentecostal
Resident Country: London
COuntry of Origin: Nigeria
State: Illesha
Age range seeking: 24 - 30
Seeking Someone preferably in london but someone who "can" and is willing to be able to travel back and forth also ok
Interest: Reading, music, arts
Description: Quiet, Intelligent, intellectual (o.k, this is me adding this), simple...
Well ladies...his laid it down...just send me an e-mail if you are at all curious about this individual...
by the way, i have case 3 to put up...maybe i will tomorrow...
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