Hey i reached my hundred post and almost didn't realize it! Yipee to me, it's an achievement for me! I've learnt/learned one thing from blogging...the fact that i like writing and i think i do a better job expressing myself writing than talking...unfortunately, i can't be as expressive here anymore....
For my 100th post celebrating, i want to do an intimate post on my fears about marriage....
will be back!
Thursday, September 24, 2009
Wednesday, September 23, 2009
Wow, it's really been a while...GNG...i'm writing now for you so u berra comment....lol...
Don't even know what to write sef...i had some things i wanted to write about but i can't even seem to remember them now....
Anyway, they'll come to me....in the main time....
Last weekend, a friend of mine had a little birthday gathering for her 1 year old son. It was done at the house because it wasn't meant to be such a big thing....while the kids were downstairs, a number of the "mommies" were upstairs gossiping and drinking alcohol induced punch. Anyway, i found myself in the middle young mothers (that's what happens when you're about 30 and not married) who needed to talk dirty (then again maybe it was the punch...or not!) Somehow we got talking about sex and i just heard all sort of things that made me wonder...lol
The first question came from "S" a mother of one who was wondering or maybe just for conversation reasons asked if we thought masturbation was a sin...i can't really tell what the conclusion was, as it was with all the discussion topics it all became controversial until someone asked them to drop it or a little child came around looking for his/her mom or starts crying.
"B" who is married but no kids yet.... asked about oral sex next...note that all the questions were being asked in the confines of marriage. i think in a total of about 10 of us in a corner, 3 of us were not married. All the married women seem to agree that it was ok....they had to spice up their sex lives somehow....I seem to have had a shocked look on my face and "B" noticed and straight up asked if all i do is "chuk chuk"...lol....my other friend "B" was quick to answer that i should be left alone because i was not married while everyone laughed it off....saved by the friend huh....if i had to answer, i'm honestly not too sure what my answered would be....I agree that sex is important, maybe good sex sef, is important in a marriage especially when we know what men can be like....but i'm not sure if i would be ok putting a man's peeing equipment in my mouth....i could choke right?...i'll see when it time comes sha....
My friend "B" switched gears and mentioned how her husband had changed, and immediately, a number of the married ladies agreed with her. She claims that before they got married, they could have sex anywhere....indoors or outdoors, but now, her husband always looks at her funny when she suggests somewhere daring and would only do it in the confines of their bedroom. "S" was quick to agree with her...."S" by the way has no shame in her game, she opening declared that she liked having sex alot....infact she called her husband out of a party one time so they could go in the car to have a quickie and he just looked and her and asked if there was something wrong with her inside her head...lol...
It soon got switched to places they've done it which i won't even bother with details, they talked about anal, and those kinda pf people who like pain in the bedroom, i forget what they'll called now...
Anyway, i realized something though, the ladies who spoke up were married, we single ones listened and smiled unless the conversation was general...i remember saying that women are better at maintaining themselves than men who are usually horny or turned on first thing in the morning because i had read it somewhere about womens hormons and mens testorone levels.... i remember thinking while driving that not sure we didn't speak up because we didn't want to be judged? or we really lacked the real knowledge of how things worked in marriage....
Hmmm.....
Don't even know what to write sef...i had some things i wanted to write about but i can't even seem to remember them now....
Anyway, they'll come to me....in the main time....
Last weekend, a friend of mine had a little birthday gathering for her 1 year old son. It was done at the house because it wasn't meant to be such a big thing....while the kids were downstairs, a number of the "mommies" were upstairs gossiping and drinking alcohol induced punch. Anyway, i found myself in the middle young mothers (that's what happens when you're about 30 and not married) who needed to talk dirty (then again maybe it was the punch...or not!) Somehow we got talking about sex and i just heard all sort of things that made me wonder...lol
The first question came from "S" a mother of one who was wondering or maybe just for conversation reasons asked if we thought masturbation was a sin...i can't really tell what the conclusion was, as it was with all the discussion topics it all became controversial until someone asked them to drop it or a little child came around looking for his/her mom or starts crying.
"B" who is married but no kids yet.... asked about oral sex next...note that all the questions were being asked in the confines of marriage. i think in a total of about 10 of us in a corner, 3 of us were not married. All the married women seem to agree that it was ok....they had to spice up their sex lives somehow....I seem to have had a shocked look on my face and "B" noticed and straight up asked if all i do is "chuk chuk"...lol....my other friend "B" was quick to answer that i should be left alone because i was not married while everyone laughed it off....saved by the friend huh....if i had to answer, i'm honestly not too sure what my answered would be....I agree that sex is important, maybe good sex sef, is important in a marriage especially when we know what men can be like....but i'm not sure if i would be ok putting a man's peeing equipment in my mouth....i could choke right?...i'll see when it time comes sha....
My friend "B" switched gears and mentioned how her husband had changed, and immediately, a number of the married ladies agreed with her. She claims that before they got married, they could have sex anywhere....indoors or outdoors, but now, her husband always looks at her funny when she suggests somewhere daring and would only do it in the confines of their bedroom. "S" was quick to agree with her...."S" by the way has no shame in her game, she opening declared that she liked having sex alot....infact she called her husband out of a party one time so they could go in the car to have a quickie and he just looked and her and asked if there was something wrong with her inside her head...lol...
It soon got switched to places they've done it which i won't even bother with details, they talked about anal, and those kinda pf people who like pain in the bedroom, i forget what they'll called now...
Anyway, i realized something though, the ladies who spoke up were married, we single ones listened and smiled unless the conversation was general...i remember saying that women are better at maintaining themselves than men who are usually horny or turned on first thing in the morning because i had read it somewhere about womens hormons and mens testorone levels.... i remember thinking while driving that not sure we didn't speak up because we didn't want to be judged? or we really lacked the real knowledge of how things worked in marriage....
Hmmm.....
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