Ok, i was supposed to come back the next day and post the next story...but things don't always happen as we want it to rite? Besides, i sorta had to confirm with gist with person before i gossip bout it....In the process of gathering the correct info, another issue was brought to my attention and i feel like i should put that one down first...
Here goes it! I swear these things are really interesting and many times i find it hard to believe that some of the issues are true...but unfortunately, we do live in a very interesting world and shit happens:
Case # 2
Bayo hadn't spoken to Kike in about 2-3 months so he was really excited to hear from her...the conversation, like many others finally drifted to relationships hence:
B: Na wa o, really good to hear from you sha...so how is the man?
Kike: ahhh...i've missed u men! but the man is good sha..."we're just loving each other"
about a week ago, Bayo calls Kike up to chit-chat...not long before the conversation drifted to man again:
B: howz ur bf and kike goes "which one?" a rather long and hard hiss/abi it's smacking of teeth follows...
Bayo, as per he likes gist like that too, red flags/sparks is going off in his head...
B: what do u mean which one? the one you guys were "loving each other now?"
K: you mean the one in nigeria at the moment getting married?
B: Ahh...Kike and u didn't tell me, they're doing ur "mo-mi-mo-e" without you
K: jero, his marrying someone else!
Kike starts to give full gist:
apparently, the guy already had a fiancee in nigeria... their introductions had been done a month before he came to yankee and met Kike.
(i bet you're asking the same question i was asking...how did Kike find out?) the real gist....
well, dude was going to naija, and started packing his suitcases and all....that afternoon, he was had gone out...Kike being the good girlfriend and in the house of the man she was in-love with went over to make dinner like she always does....
she's done and nothing else to do so she decides to sha help the brother start packing properly...
opened the suitcase and GBAM! on top of a complete set suit is a program " Tunde weds Titi"
Kike decides to keep her cool....as she is a gentle person....Tunde gets home and they talk about it the situation...
K: but Tunde what have i done to deserve this? All of been is good and true to you...this whole relationship is really a lie
T: No my love, please don't say that...I truly love you but didn't know how to tell you this little situation...
K: You had so many opportunities to tell me and not once, in all ur love professing could u say i really love u but so so and so?
T: truth is, i didn't expect to fall in-love with you... i thought i was just going to have a bit of fun and then end it...but i realized u're really a beautiful person inside and out...i fell in-love with you and i just couldn't bring myself to hurt u like that....i couldn't tell you...i was going to fix things and tell you later...
K: fix things? fix things you say? How Tunde? How? U bloody have a wedding suit in your suitcase and then your wedding program...how were u planning on fixing things?
T: Baby, i'm going to Nigeria to go and end the relation, the marriage won't take place...i promise you it won't....i'm going to talk to my parents and end things....
K: (in btw tears) you promise me Tunde, u promise me....u promise me u'll come back to me?
T: Kike, i love you more than life itself....i'm going to have to end it with Titi and we can be together...i promise!
K: i'll be waiting for you my love...i'll be waiting...
Kike who had been saving herself finally gave in to Tunde that night...
hmmmm.....
Monday, December 22, 2008
Tuesday, December 16, 2008
In this case
I've been reading and hearing all these relationship issues recently and thought i would re-write and post a few i've heard recently...it's interesting how there are different dimensions in a relationship and one man's meat becomes another man's poison or u think u have a problem in your relationship until u hear someone else's...
I think this might be long....be warned!!
Case 1.
Ngozi and Segun met at a party and the flow was good...they started that phone talking and Segun must have figured he really liked Ngozi...Segun had asked Ngozi if there were any skeletons in her cupboards, the guys she had dated and what not...anyway, Ngozi clears the air, no one he should be concerned about...all the guys Ngozi have dated now live in a different state and probably much older than him...
All said and done, a month later the two begin to officially date. Two weeks after that, Segun is hanging with his boys and he mentions his seeing this new girl, ngozi; Toks, one of Segun's friends responds - ahhhhh...that girl! Nnamdi has had her before!!! Nnamdi is Segun's childhood best friend and cousin...
Ahhh! Segun is in shock! It can't be the same Ngozi his crazy about...the same Ngozi who is supposed to be innocent...never known a man.... His in so much shock his sober for the rest of the evening with the "boys"...
he later calls Ngozi on the telephone:
Ngozi: Hi, what's up?
Segun: Hi, i need to talk to u bout something but maybe tomorrow..i'm not in the right frame of mind at the moment...
Ngozi: No oh, now that u mention it, biko, u have to talk about it
After much back and forth about it...Segun asks
Segun: Do u know one Nnamdi?
Ngozi: Nnamdi? what's his last name?
Segun: Nnamdi Phillips
Ngozi: Oh yeah yeah...u know i completely forgot about him! jeezz...u know him?
Segun: His my cousin...you lied to me...both of u had something...
Ngozi: What the heck are u talking about?
Segun: The fact that you had something to do with my cousin and u told me you've never dated anyone in this state...
Ngozi: look, i met your cousin about 3years ago, out of the whole time i knew him, i saw him just once and it was a crazy night and all we did was kiss...now i'm soryr u had to find out from someone else, but i didn't think to mention it because technically he does not count...i saw him only that one time....
Segun: Well u should still have told me when i asked...that's my main man right there...right now, i don't even know what to think...i'm going to bed...
Well, that was it....Segun went to bed that night and the night after and the night after and so on for a week without calling...neither did Ngozi call...
Someone had to break the ice...
Ngozi calls to find out what the deal is...leaves a message for him as he didn't pick up...Segun later calls her back and act like nothing ever happened and they've been talking...
They later talk about the whole issue and ngozi comes to find out that Toks exagerrated the whole thing with Nnamdi. Nnamdi admits he does know Ngozi but Segun can't face asking him exactly what went down between them...
Well, appears that Segun is getting over it and works on the relationship with Ngozi.
Segun takes Ngozi to a club one day where she meets Nnamdi there - it's dark in there and they don't recognize each other...they even hug saying it's nice meeting u...It wasn't until later that Ngozi ask if that was Nnamdi because the guy had looked familiar even in the dark....apparently, Nnamdi asked Segun the same about Ngozi...
Ngozi had made up her mind she did not like Toks for starting bad gist...and even though he was one of Segun's boys, she still had not met him....it was a few months later when for some circumstance, Segun and Ngozi had to go by Toks house, Ngozi had first insisted that she was not going but curiosity i guess killed the cat...she decided she wanted to know who this Toks guy was....
Toks was rather nice, asking what ngozi wanted to eat, drink and all that...she was polite enough but she still made it obvious that she did not like him. Of-course, shortly after, Toks announces that Nnamdi is on his way...
Ngozi is not moved! she could care less or be bothered...
Nnamdi arrives, says his hello and sort of ignores Ngozi....even when Segun and Ngozi are about to leave, Nnamdi can't make eye contact, not until Ngozi says goodbye does he say something without looking up from the computer....
In the car, Segun begins to lament on how Ngozi and Nnamdi have to be friends...because Nnamdi is that friend that will be the best man if they get married. Nnamdi is also that friend that Segun feels he would call to take Ngozi to the hospital if his not there and Ngozi is having a baby...well, u get the gist...his best friend/cousin....
So how can Ngozi fix this?
Just leave things to air out with time and by itself or actually get Nnamdi's number and talk to him?
Ok, i confess.... i made up a good part of the story but there is some truth in it sha...i was trying to make it sweeter...lol
Case # 2 is coming up tomorrow....
I think this might be long....be warned!!
Case 1.
Ngozi and Segun met at a party and the flow was good...they started that phone talking and Segun must have figured he really liked Ngozi...Segun had asked Ngozi if there were any skeletons in her cupboards, the guys she had dated and what not...anyway, Ngozi clears the air, no one he should be concerned about...all the guys Ngozi have dated now live in a different state and probably much older than him...
All said and done, a month later the two begin to officially date. Two weeks after that, Segun is hanging with his boys and he mentions his seeing this new girl, ngozi; Toks, one of Segun's friends responds - ahhhhh...that girl! Nnamdi has had her before!!! Nnamdi is Segun's childhood best friend and cousin...
Ahhh! Segun is in shock! It can't be the same Ngozi his crazy about...the same Ngozi who is supposed to be innocent...never known a man.... His in so much shock his sober for the rest of the evening with the "boys"...
he later calls Ngozi on the telephone:
Ngozi: Hi, what's up?
Segun: Hi, i need to talk to u bout something but maybe tomorrow..i'm not in the right frame of mind at the moment...
Ngozi: No oh, now that u mention it, biko, u have to talk about it
After much back and forth about it...Segun asks
Segun: Do u know one Nnamdi?
Ngozi: Nnamdi? what's his last name?
Segun: Nnamdi Phillips
Ngozi: Oh yeah yeah...u know i completely forgot about him! jeezz...u know him?
Segun: His my cousin...you lied to me...both of u had something...
Ngozi: What the heck are u talking about?
Segun: The fact that you had something to do with my cousin and u told me you've never dated anyone in this state...
Ngozi: look, i met your cousin about 3years ago, out of the whole time i knew him, i saw him just once and it was a crazy night and all we did was kiss...now i'm soryr u had to find out from someone else, but i didn't think to mention it because technically he does not count...i saw him only that one time....
Segun: Well u should still have told me when i asked...that's my main man right there...right now, i don't even know what to think...i'm going to bed...
Well, that was it....Segun went to bed that night and the night after and the night after and so on for a week without calling...neither did Ngozi call...
Someone had to break the ice...
Ngozi calls to find out what the deal is...leaves a message for him as he didn't pick up...Segun later calls her back and act like nothing ever happened and they've been talking...
They later talk about the whole issue and ngozi comes to find out that Toks exagerrated the whole thing with Nnamdi. Nnamdi admits he does know Ngozi but Segun can't face asking him exactly what went down between them...
Well, appears that Segun is getting over it and works on the relationship with Ngozi.
Segun takes Ngozi to a club one day where she meets Nnamdi there - it's dark in there and they don't recognize each other...they even hug saying it's nice meeting u...It wasn't until later that Ngozi ask if that was Nnamdi because the guy had looked familiar even in the dark....apparently, Nnamdi asked Segun the same about Ngozi...
Ngozi had made up her mind she did not like Toks for starting bad gist...and even though he was one of Segun's boys, she still had not met him....it was a few months later when for some circumstance, Segun and Ngozi had to go by Toks house, Ngozi had first insisted that she was not going but curiosity i guess killed the cat...she decided she wanted to know who this Toks guy was....
Toks was rather nice, asking what ngozi wanted to eat, drink and all that...she was polite enough but she still made it obvious that she did not like him. Of-course, shortly after, Toks announces that Nnamdi is on his way...
Ngozi is not moved! she could care less or be bothered...
Nnamdi arrives, says his hello and sort of ignores Ngozi....even when Segun and Ngozi are about to leave, Nnamdi can't make eye contact, not until Ngozi says goodbye does he say something without looking up from the computer....
In the car, Segun begins to lament on how Ngozi and Nnamdi have to be friends...because Nnamdi is that friend that will be the best man if they get married. Nnamdi is also that friend that Segun feels he would call to take Ngozi to the hospital if his not there and Ngozi is having a baby...well, u get the gist...his best friend/cousin....
So how can Ngozi fix this?
Just leave things to air out with time and by itself or actually get Nnamdi's number and talk to him?
Ok, i confess.... i made up a good part of the story but there is some truth in it sha...i was trying to make it sweeter...lol
Case # 2 is coming up tomorrow....
Wednesday, December 10, 2008
Consequences
In the last 2 days i've chatted with 3 different guys that at one point or the other liked me but nothing came out of it. Not because they were not good guys but i recently concluded that maybe i'm hard to please...(i don't really think i'm hard to please sha)
Anyway, GM comes online yesterday and first thing that shows up on his screen is " my runaway wife"...i usually appear off-line if i'm at work but somehow i had left the thing appearing online so he found me...
We ended up going back and forth on who was really the "runaway" even though i argued that he was the one that left me i can very much say that i did disappear...
Shortly after my chat with GM i started to think back to all the guys that have one time or the other tried to establish something with me and by God, i realized they are a good number too... Some i wasted no time in saying -"No thank you," while others, i must admit, i led on! I led them on either because i was bored at the time they were talking to me or i actually enjoyed talking to them but got bored after a while and had to cut them off...while a select few i had to cut off even though i liked them, there were other factors that i found would not let the relationship progress and so i had to let go before it was too late.
Now i've come to a point where i'm afraid! I'm afraid of the consequences of my actions. I strongly believe that everything in life have consequences; either good or bad. I know for sure that some of these guys i've actually hurt in the process but am a tat bit too late now....
Now i'm afraid that any relationship i'm in now will yield to those consequences before anything else...I'm afraid that for this i cannot give my all in a relationship...i'm afraid that i could get seriously hurt...
Hmmm...
or is it all me being paranoid???????????
Anyway, GM comes online yesterday and first thing that shows up on his screen is " my runaway wife"...i usually appear off-line if i'm at work but somehow i had left the thing appearing online so he found me...
We ended up going back and forth on who was really the "runaway" even though i argued that he was the one that left me i can very much say that i did disappear...
Shortly after my chat with GM i started to think back to all the guys that have one time or the other tried to establish something with me and by God, i realized they are a good number too... Some i wasted no time in saying -"No thank you," while others, i must admit, i led on! I led them on either because i was bored at the time they were talking to me or i actually enjoyed talking to them but got bored after a while and had to cut them off...while a select few i had to cut off even though i liked them, there were other factors that i found would not let the relationship progress and so i had to let go before it was too late.
Now i've come to a point where i'm afraid! I'm afraid of the consequences of my actions. I strongly believe that everything in life have consequences; either good or bad. I know for sure that some of these guys i've actually hurt in the process but am a tat bit too late now....
Now i'm afraid that any relationship i'm in now will yield to those consequences before anything else...I'm afraid that for this i cannot give my all in a relationship...i'm afraid that i could get seriously hurt...
Hmmm...
or is it all me being paranoid???????????
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