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I've been reading and hearing all these relationship issues recently and thought i would re-write and post a few i've heard recently...it's interesting how there are different dimensions in a relationship and one man's meat becomes another man's poison or u think u have a problem in your relationship until u hear someone else's...

I think this might be long....be warned!!



Case 1.



Ngozi and Segun met at a party and the flow was good...they started that phone talking and Segun must have figured he really liked Ngozi...Segun had asked Ngozi if there were any skeletons in her cupboards, the guys she had dated and what not...anyway, Ngozi clears the air, no one he should be concerned about...all the guys Ngozi have dated now live in a different state and probably much older than him...



All said and done, a month later the two begin to officially date. Two weeks after that, Segun is hanging with his boys and he mentions his seeing this new girl, ngozi; Toks, one of Segun's friends responds - ahhhhh...that girl! Nnamdi has had her before!!! Nnamdi is Segun's childhood best friend and cousin...



Ahhh! Segun is in shock! It can't be the same Ngozi his crazy about...the same Ngozi who is supposed to be innocent...never known a man.... His in so much shock his sober for the rest of the evening with the "boys"...



he later calls Ngozi on the telephone:

Ngozi: Hi, what's up?

Segun: Hi, i need to talk to u bout something but maybe tomorrow..i'm not in the right frame of mind at the moment...

Ngozi: No oh, now that u mention it, biko, u have to talk about it

After much back and forth about it...Segun asks

Segun: Do u know one Nnamdi?

Ngozi: Nnamdi? what's his last name?

Segun: Nnamdi Phillips

Ngozi: Oh yeah yeah...u know i completely forgot about him! jeezz...u know him?

Segun: His my cousin...you lied to me...both of u had something...

Ngozi: What the heck are u talking about?

Segun: The fact that you had something to do with my cousin and u told me you've never dated anyone in this state...

Ngozi: look, i met your cousin about 3years ago, out of the whole time i knew him, i saw him just once and it was a crazy night and all we did was kiss...now i'm soryr u had to find out from someone else, but i didn't think to mention it because technically he does not count...i saw him only that one time....

Segun: Well u should still have told me when i asked...that's my main man right there...right now, i don't even know what to think...i'm going to bed...

Well, that was it....Segun went to bed that night and the night after and the night after and so on for a week without calling...neither did Ngozi call...

Someone had to break the ice...

Ngozi calls to find out what the deal is...leaves a message for him as he didn't pick up...Segun later calls her back and act like nothing ever happened and they've been talking...

They later talk about the whole issue and ngozi comes to find out that Toks exagerrated the whole thing with Nnamdi. Nnamdi admits he does know Ngozi but Segun can't face asking him exactly what went down between them...

Well, appears that Segun is getting over it and works on the relationship with Ngozi.

Segun takes Ngozi to a club one day where she meets Nnamdi there - it's dark in there and they don't recognize each other...they even hug saying it's nice meeting u...It wasn't until later that Ngozi ask if that was Nnamdi because the guy had looked familiar even in the dark....apparently, Nnamdi asked Segun the same about Ngozi...

Ngozi had made up her mind she did not like Toks for starting bad gist...and even though he was one of Segun's boys, she still had not met him....it was a few months later when for some circumstance, Segun and Ngozi had to go by Toks house, Ngozi had first insisted that she was not going but curiosity i guess killed the cat...she decided she wanted to know who this Toks guy was....

Toks was rather nice, asking what ngozi wanted to eat, drink and all that...she was polite enough but she still made it obvious that she did not like him. Of-course, shortly after, Toks announces that Nnamdi is on his way...

Ngozi is not moved! she could care less or be bothered...

Nnamdi arrives, says his hello and sort of ignores Ngozi....even when Segun and Ngozi are about to leave, Nnamdi can't make eye contact, not until Ngozi says goodbye does he say something without looking up from the computer....

In the car, Segun begins to lament on how Ngozi and Nnamdi have to be friends...because Nnamdi is that friend that will be the best man if they get married. Nnamdi is also that friend that Segun feels he would call to take Ngozi to the hospital if his not there and Ngozi is having a baby...well, u get the gist...his best friend/cousin....

So how can Ngozi fix this?

Just leave things to air out with time and by itself or actually get Nnamdi's number and talk to him?

Ok, i confess.... i made up a good part of the story but there is some truth in it sha...i was trying to make it sweeter...lol

Case # 2 is coming up tomorrow....