Blogging or Vlogging?

I know a lot of bloggers from back in the days that have now switched to vlogging and have capitalized on it (Apparently there is good money to be made with you-tube).  While I was thinking about starting a new blog I also considered vlogs. The thought definitely sounded nice in my head (as things in my head always sounds nice) but the reality was a total joke…lol (yes! I made a video).  Kudos to those you-tubers.

I am not much of a talker and it pains me to hear myself talk for even 10 minutes. I actually get tired of you-tubers that just sit and talk. No matter what it is they are saying I tend to tune out or change it away from channel after a few minutes unless they switch it around and show us something else. 

Blogging for me is therapeutic. It’s like I’m keeping a private (in a public space) dairy. I’m voicing the thoughts in my head but not to anyone in particular because sometimes it’s harder to articulate to someone you know. There really are times when I do have gist but there is no one to share it with at that moment. Being able to document it gives me comfort.

I actually enjoy writing.

Anyone who knows me well will agree that I am extremely private and secretive so doing vlogs will totally be out of my comfort zone (maybe I do need to get out of my comfort zone). I think this privacy issue was one of the hardest things adjusting to in marriage as hubby has “no secrets”..lol (story for another day). Ironically, I can spill all by writing. I can pretend no one knows me and write it all.

People who vlog tend to dress up and look good for the camera even if they are not going anywhere. I am too lazy to do that. With blogs I can write anywhere and anytime and won’t have to bother about looking good for the camera. I’ve heard some vloggers say they can’t be bothered dressing up, let’s be honest, we’re not all photogenic people. Please try some if you’re vlogging.

Ok, I think I’ve justified to myself why I shouldn’t dabble in vlogs just yet. Maybe someday! Right now, I’ll enjoy blogging.

All Africans are Democrats?

Yesterday, November 6^th was voting day in the US. It was the mid-term elections. For the first time I was feeling very proud to have exercised the right to vote and proudly wore my sticker like It was a badge of honor. After voting, I decided to make a quick stop at the closest African store as I had prepared this indomie noodles meal in my head all day (I watch a lot food prep clips on Instagram). I needed to make this meal a reality hence the quick stop.

When It was time to pay, the following conversation ensued between the cashier and I:

Cashier: So you voted?

Me: I sure did (with a big grin on my face)

Cashier: You voted for democrats, why are you a democrat?

Me: Excuse me (very confused at this point)

Cashier: All you Africans just say you are democrats; you don’t know why you are democrat.

Me: (Can I just say here that at this time, I could hear my heart beating faster, my ears ringing and my chest burning!) I am not an ignorant voter, I am informed. I f you understand why we need a shift in power in congress then you probably wouldn’t make such an ignorant statement; unfortunately, I have kids to pick up and can’t stay to chat.

Cashier: (With a silly smirk on his face as if he was sent to torment me…”get thee behind me”) We republicans, we republicans

Obviously at this point I walked off. As a drove off and processed the foolishness, I was really tempted to go back. I mean this guy does not know jack about me! He made an assumption or stereotyped me. “You Africans all say you are democrats.” (Dude is African too, Ghanaian). Then he insulted me by saying you don’t know why you are a democrat. I mean, not to blow my own horn but I do have a background in political science and public administration. Unlike Nigeria where you just select a degree so that you can gain admission, I was very intentional about what I studied.

To make matters worse, I doubt this guy went out to vote or was planning to as there was only 30 minutes left at the polls at this time.

People really do need to watch their mouth.

BACK AGAIN!

Blogging has really changed from the way we did it between 2007 to 2011. I think the reasons behind blogging has also changed. Do people even still read blog posts? or is everyone on Instagram, you-tube or twitter?

I've had strong urges to start a new blog for a while now and wanted to take a look at this old one(didn't even realize it still existed.) I've decided to use it instead of starting a new blog. I cracked up a lot reading through some old posts. I didn't even realize I missed this space like that.

I think the basic idea why I started this back then still stands; but since life has happened, content would be completely different but I look forward to writing once again. 

I can't promise even myself a structure, would mostly be THOUGHTSINSIDEMYHEAD!

I'm so excited!!!

Don't get it twisted - love is a beautiful thing

lool...Even as I type this, my husband and I are at different computers arguing over the content of a document he's working on and u can believe he's getting upset at my aggressive approach to correcting him.

GNG, my dear friend whom i've missed dearly and probably the only one who still follows the blog ask what i've been up to? Well, I can't begin to explain or rather it would take me a loooongggg time to finish the story so to cut it all short, "love happened!" fell in-love with the man i ended up marrying earlier on this year!

Just as the title explains....I promise this love thing is mad tasking but i can say it's indeed a beautiful thing -of-course only if it's genuine and based on a good foundation- that foundation to us is Christ!

In the few months we've been married, well, technically we've been married longer than that but a story for another day but let's just say the few months we married infront of family, friends, and of-course God, it's been a bliss and already full of experiences...

I personally thank God everyday...

I'm Back...I think!

Didn't think I'll be back here again...think i want to come back into blogging now...missed it!

Reflecting

If you dont' believe in God, please don't bother reading this post or listening to the songs, it may not make much sense to you...

Hmmmm...2010 has indeed been one of the most interesting years of my entire life! Am writing not because i feel obligated to come here or anything but i seriously just have an urgent urge to write or talk about what has been running through my mind today and couldn't find a better avenue and then remembered i still had my blog albeit my unfaithfulness to it.

I woke up this morning with a word from a song ringing in my ears and i've played the song over and over again since i woke up and got ready to go to work, i repeated the the "word" to myself pretty much all day, facebooked it (i've not updated fb status in a while), i BBed it on my phone and even as i write, am listening to it again.

"Only a God like you..do I give my Praise" the song itself was written by Pastor Wale Adenuga who i happen to have the Biggest Respect for his songs and even much more respect after meeting him in person..as in, i'll like to meet a more humble man than this guy!

As i said earlier, 2010 has indeed been a challenge but my soul, my spirit, everything that is in me truly exalts the name of the most High God i serve. Unfortunately, this has been the worst spritual life year for me. I've been so unfaithful to God that it's ridiculous! At some point, I couldn't even explain my finances so i stopped paying my tithes until I got a nudge again...thank God for that saving!

I've also had to take some rather big steps this year and am truly hoping and praying that God would put His stamp on them all...

Today, even while my heart was rejoicing in God's love towards me, i saw a video on FB done by Fela Durotoye about raising money for an education project; towards the end, they had these young boys and girls talking about what they wanted to be in the future and what was stopping them, my spirit literally dropped as i realized how much i had taken for granted for being abroad!

Am not sure if this reflections is because the year is coming to an end, but i really am thankful for where God has placed me right now and even more thankful for where i know he is taking me...I hope you're reading God, not sure how else to thank you but i truly am Grateful!

Please enjoy these songs i've enjoyed today and the video...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LC6wGMNmm-4

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BPCeUH5VHdU&feature=related

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gEWJm6DZL60&feature=player_embedded - i really want to help!

I remember saying i was going to try to blog more especially about the wedding; unfortunately, i can't seem to find the time still...how sad! Sorry GNG, i should really have posted the picture of the ring, but.....

Since the proposal, we've been working on finding a ceremony and reception venue. Well, Reception venue is what we have to concentrate on now since we're ruling out the chances of having the cerremony on some sort of grounds rather than the church. It's really been a difficult process too. Well, i guess it's only difficult when you're considering costs as well. A person who didn't have to worry about finding the best possible hall at an affordable price would definitely be having fun with this process. We've finally narrowed down our choices to two places. Let's call them Royal Hall and Ballroom.

Royal Hall is offering to provide everything including the food and a personal wedding planner about 6 wks prior to the event all at a rather good deal if we consider the original cost of the hall, it's location, and as ive named it - Royal Hall because of it's Regal. I personally like it because it saves us a lot of stress in regards to finding different vendors (did i include that it also includes the cake?). W e would be able to shift our attention to finding vendors like DJ, live band, hair and make up person, etc. With Ballroom, we would have to find all the vendors by ourselves well, except for the drinks which they would also provide. The problem with Royal Hall is that the time is not very reasonable, we can't begin our reception until 7:30p.m. It would mean we would have to shift church to later than we wnated it. Even if we pushed church to 5, assuming that they finish by 7, our guests still can't go inside the hall when they get there till 7:30p.m. and there is no outside area for cocktails. Besides, 5p.m. is too late for me for church....i think i would be crazy by then...lol...For Ballroom, we're currently getting quotes from different vendors so that we're better able to compare.

At the other end, this past weekend was our first formal family introductions. We heard it went well and waiting to see pictures. At that meeting, more introductions were done...oh, the YC's family were asked to come with 8 people to meet 8 from our sides...they must be a really big family because they ended up with 12 people. Still, all went well sha. They were also given the list below to bring when they come next:
LIST FOR INTRODUCTION
Obi - (11)
Orogbo - (11)
Atare - (11)
Salt - (1 dish)
Sugar - (1 dish)
Adun - (1 dish)
Fruits
Sweets
Biscuits
Hot Drinks - (2 bottles

LIST FOR ENGAGEMENT
Bible with Ring
Handbag
Wardrobe
Atare - (42)
Orogbo - (42)
Obi - (42)
Yam - (42)
Sugar - 1 Roll
Iyo (Salt) - 1 bag
Adun
Honey - 2 bottles
Schnapps - 2 bottles
Wine - 2 bottles
Soft Drinks - 2 Crates
Fruits - 2 baskets
Biscuits - 1 Carton
Dowry
Opening of Gate
Iya gbo
Baba gbo
Iyawo Ile
Omo Ile
Ijoko Agba
Isigba
Aeroplane
Owo letter Reading

I've heard that compared to some, it's a pretty reasonable list. lol.

At this meeting, my people also presented his people with tentative dates for both intro/engagement and wedding. Apparently they are supposed to go consider it and let them know if it's fine with them.

We'll see!

The Proposal

I figured i'll start from the proposal...trust me, it's easier...

WARNING : THIS POST IS LONG BUT I DIDN'T WANT TO SPLIT IT INTO 2 SO I TRIED TO FINISH IT

It was one of those February 14th cliche'.

After church on that sunday afternoon, SH ( as he would henceforth be called) got on the phone with a friend (Pops as he would be called because his role from now on will be vital) and talked about going to see another friend who was having marital problems and how they thought they could talk some sense into him.

I was kinda/sorta upset that of all days he had chosen sunday to go and solve someone else's problem. Not because i wanted to do any thing special because the restaurants were going to be packed anyway but i wanted us to just chill...i had gotten him a pair of shoes for our monthly gift exchange...so vals day was no biggie. He wanted me to wait till they got back but i was having none of them, made it clear that i was just going to go to my house. He did mention that we should go have dinner afterwards but i was turned off already.

I was napping at home and silently beefing him when he calls and says we should go out and eat...of-course i was quick to say no! He asked that i cook then and of-course nothing like that was going to happen so i quickly agreed to going out. I remembered that he had not changed from his church clothes so i decided to put back on what i wore to church as well so that am not looking like the help...

We got on the road and assumed we were going to his favorite spot but when i noticed we went a different route, i asked where we were going and that's when he mentioned that we could do something different today...so i complained no more... and just enjoyed the ride...

We had been tlaking about visiting this particular place as we had heard some nice stuffs about the place but we never got around to going so it was a very pleasant surprise that that was where we ended up.

Did i mention that all the while, another friend of our's had been calling and he would not pick up?

We had options on where we could eat and finally settled for an Italian cozy buffet after walking around like some serious lovers and observing other lovers, fireworks, jazz pianists, and different kinda people sha... During Dinner, i think we had to different proposals take place with the ladies crying and all...

I must mention that all through dinner, this friend of our's kept calling again but SH would still not pick up.

After dinner, i expressed my thanks and even mentioned that it would be nice for us to come spend the weekend there sometime. We left after paying our $8 parking fees.

Shortly after we left, this friend calls again and i just had to force him to pick up, atleast i thought that was what i was doing..he finally picks up and puts the phone on speaker...our friends where mighty excited on the other end and screaming that they just got engaged. I sure was happy for them but i think i felt a little pang of jealousy especially since i know their beginning as well...They mentioned they were at the same place we just left but in the hotel wing... and after telling them we just left there too, they asked/begged that we turn back and come have drinks with them. SH even asked me if it was ok or we should just go home, of-course it was ok!

We had to find the next exit and find our way back to the place. So SH wants to take his laptop in and i totally disagree...we kinda/sorta argue about it as his claiming that he want to show him some business ideas they had been talking about and am insisting that not on a day like this. We finally go in and his even asking for where the elevator is while am trying to act like am used to coming to places like it...He calls friends back and ask for room number and letting them know we are on our way up.

We get up and can't find room #...we walked from one end of the block to the other and am asking him to call them back to ask for the room again since we can't find room 301....For some reason he refuses to call and just keeps walking along the block checking while am just standing there. Of-course am upset at this point (yeah am impatient...well, my heels were not for doing a lot of walking) He finally calls them and they mention the right room only to find out i had been standing infront of it for the last 5mins. While his on the phone with them and telling them we're outside, i step aside and his knocking on the door of the room and at the same time his pulling out a card to open the door. I was not paying much attention or maybe it just was not registering properly what was going on. The door comes open and then just as i step in looking for the happy couple, and barely closing the door, SH is kneeling down in front and saying a whole bunch of stuff i can't remember now because i was busy staring at the " will you marry me" written on the floor with rose petals and the bottle of champagne in the bucket with ice.

Getting back to him still kneeling, i see he has a ring pulled out and my eyes are popping open while i snatch the ring away from him to look more...lol...his at this time asking for an answer that came out quick enough...

He puts the ring on the right finger and we seal it with a kiss and then was told we were spending the night there....I first disagreed because i have to be comfortable when i go to sleep and that means i can't sleep with make up on my face and besides, i aunt flo was visiting and since it was lite i didn't bring a change...SH just ask that i look in the closet and to my surprise, he had all of those things taking care of....(yes, even up to security for aunt flo) i was impressed!
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The rest of the nite was spent calling family and close friends who already knew and were waiting...Even daddy in Nigeria was still away and this was like 3-4a.m in nigeria...

Gift of life

Between our daily struggles sometimes we forget to appreciate God for something as simple as the gift of life. I was once again reminded how precious and great a gift life is....

Early this morning i got a call from my daddy saying my Brother's father-in-law was killed by armed robbers on his way back from their home town.

It's got to be one of the saddest things i've heard in a long time for several reasons...

***well, first because his somewhat a relative albeit by marriage but somehow him and daddy became close...
***His only son's wedding was to take place this coming weekend in london...the parents were supposed to leave for london Tomorrow.
***my sister-in-law is the last born and somehow daddy's little girl even though with two kids.
***It was not a peaceful death

Am especially saddened because my father has gone through the same experience with armed robbers fortunately his life was spared...

A lot of people are already in london for the upcoming wedding including daddy not only to play in-law but because the son is also marrying a cousin who is daddy's niece....yeah we're keeping it in the family...lol...Daddy and the man had planned to chill together on Wednesday upon their arrival in london...

I pray the Lord will comfort the whole family at this time...I spoke to sis in-law and she sounded strong!

My blog

i know i have so ignored this blog, not because i lack what to blog about but i think laziness plays a big part in it....also, i no longer have the sort of privacy i used to have during work hours; i now constantly have someone looking at what am doing...*hissssssssssssss.*

I've been thinking about how i could also get motivation to update the blog so i've decided to join the wedding lot and thus, am going to document my journey down the aisle on this blog.

I think i have about a year...which should be good...God help me! I can't promise i'll do this all religiously but i'll be here from time to time to catch up.

Not sure where to start though so once i figure it out i'll be back to start am thinking for the sake of my special friend GNG who is probably very very mad at me now, i'll start from the proposal...hehehehe...

Gotto go now!

We going to the Chapel and We...

Thankful

So i've been thinking about the year coming to an end and about the many reasons why i have to be thankful to God or grateful. To be honest, i've had two particular things i've been looking unto God for and this year, out of frustration i've not been good with being thankful for all His done. (Lord pls have mercy on me).

Anyway, after 2 full days of being snowed in, we got a chance to go see a movie on Monday, saw Avatar on 3D, it would have been really really cool if not for the too many times i had to take off the 3D "shades" because it felt so close and was almost having a headache with having all that illusion of things coming into me....the movie was good though but LOOOOGGGGGG!

On the way back, sitting and hiding and shivering under their Jackets were 2 people at a bus stop. Could not identify if they were males or females, but we realized that that was their abode for the nite.

I said a little thank you to God at that point but for some reason, today is Wednesday and i realize that since Monday i have thought about those people more than once! And i've been disturbed by the thought.

So, God, if you're reading, I'll really like to say a big THANK YOU from the bottom of my heart!

The fact that you've provided me with shelter, food, and clothing.
I'm thankful for those things that i've called basic needs and for others are necessities.
I'm thankful that even when i'm really broke, somehow i still get to buy what i want from subway costing a little of $7.
I'm thankful that i can change from one winter jacket to another to suit my outfit.
I'm thankful that my closet over flows and yet am still able to say i don't know or have what to wear.
I'm thankful that i have all my body parts complete.
I'm thankful that i drive a car and can turn on my heat.
I'm thankful that i have health insurance after seeing what my last drs bills are just for regular check-up and blood works.
I'm thankful for the position you've placed me at work that does not allow my time to be cut and my job to be cut off.
I'm thankful for the professional exam i had to take earlier this yr and passed it at once, B told me she had to retake it which meant she had to pay alot of money for it again.
I'm thankful for that particular prayer i did for M and the lab results came back negative.
I'm thankful that you indirectly worked on teaching me patience with the Mr.
I'm especially thankful that the Mr. and I have come this far since we've had all those glitches along the way.
I'm thankful for daddy's life

I just realized that i could go on and on with reasons why i'm thankful. But God, you already know that a thousand tongues would not be enough to express my appreciation...But i ask in the name of your son Jesus Christ to accept what i have to offer!

I don hope that i can find a way to reach out to those people out there....

Is this not sexual Harrassment?

This is the third time this is happening to me at my job with a male parent and it's kinda getting annoying.

The first two parents who are no longer with us, one was nigerian...and he started one time we had our international day program and and i wore one very nice ankara skirt and blouse....from that day on, that man told me how he wanted to take the clothes off me and would always say things in yoruba in front of everybody that i could not respond to. It got to a point where he actually told me he had left his Jamaican wife and moved to an apartment and wanted me to come and visit. That finally went away when he realized he could not get through to me.

The second one was an african american parent i used to chit chat with. His daughter was in the first grade then and i always messed with him to hook me up with someone. He would always say he did not believe i was not saying anyone as "nice and fresh" as i was...lol....We were cool until one day he actually called me during work hours to tell me he was no longer with his wife and wanted to know if he could take me out (infact i think i blogged about this when it happened). At that point i ended up telling him i had already started seeing someone.

Now this current parent...
I'll call him the twins father - The twins used to come to us as early as when they were 4 year old and were in K4. They left only to come back this year to join our 2nd grade class. I noticed during the registration period, the father always wanted me to handle all the papers. He would call ahead of time and if i was not at the office, he would not come. When he did come, he would always give me a hug which i innocently assumed it was a friendly hug...because his wife did the same thing....as per they are also africans and always called used gentle endearments like "hello dear." I stopped the hugs when one day i was walking out on my lunch break at the same time he was leaving after he had picked up the final enrollment papers.....he put his hand over my neck/shoulders and asked if i had a boyfriend and when i replied yes he said something along the lines of my boyfriend was not smart enough as he had not married me and he knew what he could have done with me if he was in my man's shoes. I found that uncomfortable but moved on from it. He would occasionally come come pick up the kids but i've managed to still out of his way or maybe there were just always people around.

Today was a different story. He dropped of the kids at school this morning and since he was off work, i asked if he could help me with a program on the computer. The next thing that comes out of this idiot's mouth is that it will cost me. I simply smiled and told him to take it up with boss lady... assuming he was referring to money. While telling him and showing him what i needed done, I noticed he kept looking at my mouth until he whispered again that it would cost me. I stepped back and wondered why he whispered before i realized exactly what he meant and the fact that he probably thought that was sexy. After telling me he needed to check if he had the program on his computer at home first, on his way out, he was quick to mention again that i must not forget that it will cost me.

This mugu later calls me back to tell me he didn't have the program at home and was off work for the rest of the week so he could not do it from work either.

So, parents are required to put in 3hrs monthly of volunteer work into the school in one way or the other, this fool then proceeds to ask me how he can help tomorrow at our christmas program. I asked him what he wanted to do since he had gotten a list of ways he could help, and his reply? "Maybe i can supervise, I'll like to supervise you too" and then went further to tell me his serious! I immediately mentioned his wife in the conversation and how both of them can split the work since they have two kids....I think he got a bit of my message there.

A part of me actually wishes i was a different person so i could get some money out of the sucker but gosh! God don't like ugly! Besides that, his wife is truly a sweet lady and actually very pretty, light complexioned, red lipstick lady...lol....

I need to cut his tail short a little bit more though, i kinda have a feeling i would still be hearing more from him...

Things Happen...

Sometime last week i watched a nigerian yoruba movie where a grown married woman with a child was sent out of her husband's house because she was a bed wetter. Because of the way the story line went, i remember saying to myself how my people exagerate a lot.

I was talking to an old guy friend of mine this evening when he told me he had been talking to this babe for a while and that the first night she slept over at his place, she wet his bed! I couldn't understand it....

In the movie, the ylater found out that the husband's father was behind the whole thing...and bla bla bla...

In real life, the dude said they had to throw away all the beddings and the girl left embaraased. She called him back once to apologize saying that has never happened to her before.

My friend now kinda thinks that maybe another babe may have put something fetish on his bed...lol...

Interesting..but don't hink i want to try to guess or analyze...

Concern for tomorrow's child

I'm sure many would agree with me the importance of Education in today's world. Even President Barack Obama reinforced this fact earlier this year when he was signing a new bill for Education. He said something along the lines that America is in search of highly skilled professionals and if they can't get it within, then they would go outside and get it! In other words, if America can't produce the best skilled in different fields, then they will look unto other countries who have individuals trained to be the best and bring them in.

It's interesting to know that some people would still argue and justify that education is no longer important and it is what you can do and how you apply yourself.

I said all of that only to say this:
A grandma in the school where i work just picked up her granddaughter. The teacher escorts the child to the hallway where grandma is waiting and the following conversation went on: (o, by the way, the office where i am is right by the way so i heard it all by myself and not from someone else...lol):

Teacher: Ok A, tell grandma what you learned today? Eu?
Child: the continent of Europe!
Teacher: Very good!
Grandma: wow! A, very good...and we just came back from there, we went to Mexico!

I'm in the office laughing my head off when the teacher peeps in to look at me a few minutes later...

Missing my man

Ok, so i thought i was going to last a couple of days without missing the Mr. since he was so much trouble before he left...but by gosh! i miss my man! and his only been gone 2 days...Now i have to count down....

Recipe for Okra Soup

Here u go GNG and for any other lady or even gentleman interested in making this dish:

I found the recipe on this blog http://foodandnutritionclub.blogspot.com/

it was really nice with pounded yam...I didn't use everything they included thugh but i made do...

My soup was perfect! yipee to me! and yes, i sent him away and used the recipe i found...hehehehe.... but can u imagine, now his telling me Vegetable soup is the next thing to make this weekend...men! i have to go find a good recipe and figure out which kind i can make: one with locust beans or plain....

I also discovered Always Infinity....I will no longer use Always super - long for my heavy days...Yipee!

Cooking - Naija Style

Am a pretty good cook but i'm not too sure about the very traditional nigerian soups. I mean things like egusi, ogbono, okra soup (ila alasepo), bitterleaf soup, etc. There is a common phrase that implies that good food is the way to a man's heart.

I want to start practicing some of these things by getting recipes online and doing it. Now i'm wondering do i outrightly tell the Mr. i can't do these things and i'm going to use recipes until i'm perfect them or do i sneak around and cook them while his away at work?

I'm going to try a recipe this evening for ila alasepo. I've done it several times but i realize it never really draws like i want it so i'm going to follow a recipe and see if i'll get it right! Maybe i'll be done before he gets back from work! hehehehe

A Post i should have done Since!

GNG my dear friend, here my story....



I think it was either late December or January 2008 when i did a post about my "supposed" adventurous/ignorant trip out of town...unfortunately i went back now to find the post to see if i could link it on herebut it must be part of the posts i deleted a while back just in case the Mr also finds it...funny, now he read my blog but only when i open it....

I guess i should have saved it anyway. So one very interesting evening we were having some serious/honest conversations...it included us asking each other what each person could do that would warrant for unforgiveness...so u can imagine the seriousness of the conversation.

Anyway, apparently, the Mr. had been curious about how i knew the people i went out of town with and how we ended up where we went because he also knew them and could not understand the connection. I honestly thought since we were "playing" honesty i should be honest and tell him the full story (i could have lied or just said don't worry about it)...which included the fact that i slept in the same room with the guy that invited me and nothing happened between us....I'm not saying he didn't make advances but i practically had to beg him!lol

in my original post about the event, i explained that i somehow assumed that the females would be sleeping in d same room and all but it really was not the case and there was nothing i could do about it! I truly didn't even think he was interested in me that way and thought he invited me on the trip only for pity sake after i had poured out about how boring and routinely my life was....

Anyway, the Mr. flipped! he would not have it! Infact he almost started crying explaining that he did not want anyone in that cycle to have even seen me evenhalf naked! lol mind u this was after i explained that i did all my changing in the bathroom and there was nothing half sexy about my pjs....hehehehehe...and for the 3 days were were at the place, the guys were downstairs almost all through gambling...and i mean even late at night....

even though i tried to apologize, my stubborness would not let me because i truly felt like this was all the way in 2007 even before i dreamt of meeting him. I couldn't understand why he could not accept i had a past...i mean, am almost 30 and unless i live elsewhere all my past will be in this same state...but thank God i somehow have a clean record....lol...yeah like i know that many people!

To cut a long story short, even though the story may already be long....lol...we ended up not talking for about 2 bothering days before he called me back with only this statement after which he dropped the phone "i miss u" ....yeah! i was tripped but still had to let it drag for one more day before we could talk it out....hehehehehe