Females

As a woman myself, i love the power we hold as women but can't understand why some of us don't know how to handle it.


So there is this girl called "P." She's really one of my closest male friends sister so by default sha we know each other especially since i'm much older than her (recently, it's been hard to call her a friend like that). Sometime last year, am at drama practice at church when P calls me. Her brother is rite there as well and she begs, i must not let him know she's the one on the other end. I asked to just call her back when i'm done but before i'm even done, she's called me back like twice.


I finally call her back on my way home. P is on the phone weeping real hard. "S.Chic, i don't know who else to call, i don't really have any friends since i've been dating Mr. V i've not really been close to any one but Mr. V and i just broke up and i need to talk to someone."


I really don't know what to say to things like this especially since P had never called me for anything before that and if she really knew me, i would be the last person she would call. Maybe every now and then i'm at their house and we're all gisting but she's never gone out of her way to call me. Anyway, out of the goodness of my heart i said "sorry o what happened, feel free to talk i'll just listen (abeg is this what people say in such situations?)


After her small whining sha, i told her if she wants her man back she can get him back...lol... (don't ask me abeg i don't know how she was going to) told her worse thing she'll eat humble pie and beg the dude, she'll cook and take it to him if need be, she'll call as often as she can, u know, things like that. Oh, yeah so Mr. V is a much older guy, don't know exactly how old but we all call him Mr. V so that we're not calling him uncle or anything silly like that,and as per our yoruba culture, we all used "e" for him (which is how we refer to older people as a sign of respect...


Later that nite, P calls me back again saying she wanted me to be on the phone while she was talking to Mr. V so that i'll see why he won't listen to her pleas. Well, she gets Mr. V on the phone begins to beg him for another chance, talking bout how they can go for counseling together, she's asking for 21 days (please me sef i'm asking 21 days for what?), how she promises to change and all that... it was all too funny sha.(Me sef, i'm beginning to realize that i have no real work to do..lol)


By the time she was done talking and Mr. V started his own talking... i was ashamed to claim this girl for real. I mean i'm not saying don't sleep around if u can't help yourself, it's ur cross carry it abeg but please don't sleep with the same group of guys that u know they know each other and word will get around especially if they are all nigerians in a small community! This was P's story. Unfortunately the first time they put it to the guy's face he forgave her, this time he could not take it anymore. He just said a whole bunch of things sha. How if his going out she's whining and complaining bout him going out to meet other guys but she was roaming around the street like Bingo on heat and on the loose. After guy had said his peace, i know it was his peace and even i felt it for him because I never knew Mr. V was a stutterer, this man stuttered/stammered all through and that's how i knew he was angry. Guy sha finally agreed to give her time for some reason.

That was the last i heard from P again.

This year- day after Val's day, P calls me crying. Mr. V is going out of town with another female and he had the guts to come and collect the camera he gave her to take with him...lol... I didn't know it was over again. I had seen Mr. R at the house earlier in January. Infact while a couple of us were downstairs gisting Mr. V and P were in her bedroom. She sounded so devastated i went over her place after work. (I'm nice like that)

P has apparently been seeing a therapist. I'm thinking this girl na wa oh. I was convinced we had tougher skin as per naijas but i guess i was wrong. She totally broke down when i got there. The whole 3 years they were dating they never did anything for val's day. First year his dating this new chick, they are going out of town for the weekend...lol...



She's not even worried they've broken up now but she's determined that Mr. V must not marry before her and she does not have anyone at the moment. BUT she likes this particular guy...gosh i'm running out of names to call people...lol... Let's call him Bold. Ok, so she showed me Bold's picture on facebook. His fine as crap i won't even lie. My dear P is stalking him though. Bold is in professional school where P is. P knows what time Bold gets on the elevator each morning and she's there at the same time. P knows around what time Bold logs into gmail so she's on 24 hrs waiting for him. P goes through Bold's facebook pictures (his got like 3 hundred and something pics up) and she goes through them twice a day. Once in the morning before she lives the house, and once in the evening before she goes to bed after his logged off gmail.



P knows what his studying, when his finishing, and what his doing next. I asked her why she's not already confronted him as they have only spoken in regards to some society at school she is trying to make him be a member. She says she's not bold enough to talk to him on a personal basis yet.



B finds out Bold is friends with my cousin's boyfriend and she wants him tell Bold. When he finally makes mention to bold that there is a girl that likes him, Bold says his scared, lol... the girl is really wierd the way she stirs at him and happens to turn up everywhere he is.



Two weeks later i see P at a function. She said she finally got the guts to ask Bold over to dinner at her house but she's over him now. She's moved on to someone else. She's not going to follow up on dinner with Bold.



Hmmm... Some of us ladies do give others a name sha...