Thursday, January 31, 2008

Nothing Important

I'm bored and want to post something but cannot think of a thing to write about...

In light of that i want to say:

I'm tired...
I'm bored, even though i'm at work...
I'm hungry; skipped lunch and the nearest chinese place takes cash only, i have no cash on me...
I need a proper vacation real bad
I want to relocate to naija
I want a man that would be at my beck and call

Oh sorry, just remembered something i could have written about instead of this nonsense i'm joting...

So i kinda, sorta work with kids rite?(Yeah me sef i don't know) I've noticed something about parents, and maybe i would not understand rite now because i have no kids. Anyway, I've noticed that parents find it hard to acccept that there is something wrong with their kids or their kids need some sorta of special help. (ain't that why they bring them here in the first place? Early Intervention abi it's detection)Yeah, only in Yankee abi? In niaja we say just beat some discipline into the children and the child with straighten up. But it's just not with behavior oh, even though some of those behaviors are off-the chain...

Anyway, recently i over heard a conversation from a co-worker about a child she feels may be dyslexic but i think the parents no wan gree. The child apparently sees things upside down even though she appears to understand the concepts. She mixes up a lot of things even her colors yet her parents insist she just needs one or one attention.

There are many more cases. I remember one mother being told that maybe she should get the child's ears tested because he may not be hearing properly. Na fight the woman dey fight o, say nothing do im child ear say the child just no wan answer...

Ok, i can't think of another now, but i've seen quite a bit like the crazy one i posted about one time. Now i understand all those stages of development stuff to a "T" but these kids truly need help. It's not normal, as sad as it is to say some of them need to seek counseling. I learn something new everyday and i'm quick to compare to niaja sha. Like i remember growing up and don't think i remember them labeling kids with different "big words" labels in any of my primary/secondary years. Now Provisions are made for kids according to what their IEP's says they need

Is this a generational difference? Or truly we africans tend to beat the nonsense out of our children early enough. (Then again i was not beaten as a child, well, expect in boarding school and i think i turned out ok)

Wow... so much for having nothing to say abeg hunger is nacking me i dey go find chops for real...

1 comment:

Good Naija Girl said...

Hi S. Chic! I'm adding your blog to my feed reader so I don't miss an entry.

I read a lot of blogs of oyinbo "mommy bloggers" (why I read them when I am neither oyinbo or a mother is beyond me: let's chalk it up to boredom) and a lot of them have written eloquently on this matter: you give birth to a child you think is perfect and it kills you to have to admit something is wrong so you try to ignore it as long as you can.

I too am not sure why there is such a high incidence of disorders and conditions that kids and even adults can be labelled with today. I'm starting to think it must be environmental factors to be honest.

It's sad that these parents remain in denial and seem to think they know their kids better when they are not the ones who are dealing with the kids in this educational setting and seeing the concerns. I don't know how you guys can communicate the importance of getting the child the help they need: surely that is more important than pretending there isn't a problem?

Wow! I guess I have a lot to say on this matter. Have a great day :)