Friday, November 13, 2009
Thursday, September 24, 2009
Hey i reached my hundred post and almost didn't realize it! Yipee to me, it's an achievement for me! I've learnt/learned one thing from blogging...the fact that i like writing and i think i do a better job expressing myself writing than talking...unfortunately, i can't be as expressive here anymore....
For my 100th post celebrating, i want to do an intimate post on my fears about marriage....
will be back!
For my 100th post celebrating, i want to do an intimate post on my fears about marriage....
will be back!
Wednesday, September 23, 2009
Wow, it's really been a while...GNG...i'm writing now for you so u berra comment....lol...
Don't even know what to write sef...i had some things i wanted to write about but i can't even seem to remember them now....
Anyway, they'll come to me....in the main time....
Last weekend, a friend of mine had a little birthday gathering for her 1 year old son. It was done at the house because it wasn't meant to be such a big thing....while the kids were downstairs, a number of the "mommies" were upstairs gossiping and drinking alcohol induced punch. Anyway, i found myself in the middle young mothers (that's what happens when you're about 30 and not married) who needed to talk dirty (then again maybe it was the punch...or not!) Somehow we got talking about sex and i just heard all sort of things that made me wonder...lol
The first question came from "S" a mother of one who was wondering or maybe just for conversation reasons asked if we thought masturbation was a sin...i can't really tell what the conclusion was, as it was with all the discussion topics it all became controversial until someone asked them to drop it or a little child came around looking for his/her mom or starts crying.
"B" who is married but no kids yet.... asked about oral sex next...note that all the questions were being asked in the confines of marriage. i think in a total of about 10 of us in a corner, 3 of us were not married. All the married women seem to agree that it was ok....they had to spice up their sex lives somehow....I seem to have had a shocked look on my face and "B" noticed and straight up asked if all i do is "chuk chuk"...lol....my other friend "B" was quick to answer that i should be left alone because i was not married while everyone laughed it off....saved by the friend huh....if i had to answer, i'm honestly not too sure what my answered would be....I agree that sex is important, maybe good sex sef, is important in a marriage especially when we know what men can be like....but i'm not sure if i would be ok putting a man's peeing equipment in my mouth....i could choke right?...i'll see when it time comes sha....
My friend "B" switched gears and mentioned how her husband had changed, and immediately, a number of the married ladies agreed with her. She claims that before they got married, they could have sex anywhere....indoors or outdoors, but now, her husband always looks at her funny when she suggests somewhere daring and would only do it in the confines of their bedroom. "S" was quick to agree with her...."S" by the way has no shame in her game, she opening declared that she liked having sex alot....infact she called her husband out of a party one time so they could go in the car to have a quickie and he just looked and her and asked if there was something wrong with her inside her head...lol...
It soon got switched to places they've done it which i won't even bother with details, they talked about anal, and those kinda pf people who like pain in the bedroom, i forget what they'll called now...
Anyway, i realized something though, the ladies who spoke up were married, we single ones listened and smiled unless the conversation was general...i remember saying that women are better at maintaining themselves than men who are usually horny or turned on first thing in the morning because i had read it somewhere about womens hormons and mens testorone levels.... i remember thinking while driving that not sure we didn't speak up because we didn't want to be judged? or we really lacked the real knowledge of how things worked in marriage....
Hmmm.....
Don't even know what to write sef...i had some things i wanted to write about but i can't even seem to remember them now....
Anyway, they'll come to me....in the main time....
Last weekend, a friend of mine had a little birthday gathering for her 1 year old son. It was done at the house because it wasn't meant to be such a big thing....while the kids were downstairs, a number of the "mommies" were upstairs gossiping and drinking alcohol induced punch. Anyway, i found myself in the middle young mothers (that's what happens when you're about 30 and not married) who needed to talk dirty (then again maybe it was the punch...or not!) Somehow we got talking about sex and i just heard all sort of things that made me wonder...lol
The first question came from "S" a mother of one who was wondering or maybe just for conversation reasons asked if we thought masturbation was a sin...i can't really tell what the conclusion was, as it was with all the discussion topics it all became controversial until someone asked them to drop it or a little child came around looking for his/her mom or starts crying.
"B" who is married but no kids yet.... asked about oral sex next...note that all the questions were being asked in the confines of marriage. i think in a total of about 10 of us in a corner, 3 of us were not married. All the married women seem to agree that it was ok....they had to spice up their sex lives somehow....I seem to have had a shocked look on my face and "B" noticed and straight up asked if all i do is "chuk chuk"...lol....my other friend "B" was quick to answer that i should be left alone because i was not married while everyone laughed it off....saved by the friend huh....if i had to answer, i'm honestly not too sure what my answered would be....I agree that sex is important, maybe good sex sef, is important in a marriage especially when we know what men can be like....but i'm not sure if i would be ok putting a man's peeing equipment in my mouth....i could choke right?...i'll see when it time comes sha....
My friend "B" switched gears and mentioned how her husband had changed, and immediately, a number of the married ladies agreed with her. She claims that before they got married, they could have sex anywhere....indoors or outdoors, but now, her husband always looks at her funny when she suggests somewhere daring and would only do it in the confines of their bedroom. "S" was quick to agree with her...."S" by the way has no shame in her game, she opening declared that she liked having sex alot....infact she called her husband out of a party one time so they could go in the car to have a quickie and he just looked and her and asked if there was something wrong with her inside her head...lol...
It soon got switched to places they've done it which i won't even bother with details, they talked about anal, and those kinda pf people who like pain in the bedroom, i forget what they'll called now...
Anyway, i realized something though, the ladies who spoke up were married, we single ones listened and smiled unless the conversation was general...i remember saying that women are better at maintaining themselves than men who are usually horny or turned on first thing in the morning because i had read it somewhere about womens hormons and mens testorone levels.... i remember thinking while driving that not sure we didn't speak up because we didn't want to be judged? or we really lacked the real knowledge of how things worked in marriage....
Hmmm.....
Tuesday, September 22, 2009
Thursday, August 20, 2009
All sorts
Not Random, just different stuffs in my head at the moment:
I no longer work directly under my boss...I have another boss now...don't think we're going to work out well, she already looks at me funny.
Really sad about the people they just let go...those were cool people...but i still don't understand the reason, if you're letting go people, why hire these new ones? Admissions director is just a name...i'm going to start counting how many new people she brings in...*hiss*
Mr. B has been arrested in nigeria, i honestly hope that for everyone's sake, they can work things out...really praying and counting on God and Commissioner to help the poor guy.
Is hoping/praying the Mr. starts to feel better...sick people make me scared...
I'm really sleepy right now and need for 5 o'clock to come soonest!
Does not plan to pack up anything to the new school, everything in this station is going just like that...why would i want to empty cabinets full of folders and then plan to put things back...i already have a problem with folding clothes at home when i put them out....
I can feel aunty flo coming and just need her to come already...all these spots on my face and the way i'm eating...
I don't really want to go all the way out of town to visit daddy IB...if they couldn't reach me since he got here, they should have called daddy schic to ask for my right number...now i have to go out of my way to go visit them before saturday...*his*
I'm in need of money badly or maybe a second job
I wanna go back to school. Not sure if i want to do a PHD or just some sort of certification.
I've become even more convinced of what i'm supposed to be doing...thank you Lord
Maybe i should just risk it and go back to Nigeria...ok, maybe after i can pay of this one loan...
Finally decided that i'm no longer interested in doing aso-ebi with anyone...this summer has not been that bad though, compare to other summers:
Aso ebi that i did not accept:
I no longer work directly under my boss...I have another boss now...don't think we're going to work out well, she already looks at me funny.
Really sad about the people they just let go...those were cool people...but i still don't understand the reason, if you're letting go people, why hire these new ones? Admissions director is just a name...i'm going to start counting how many new people she brings in...*hiss*
Mr. B has been arrested in nigeria, i honestly hope that for everyone's sake, they can work things out...really praying and counting on God and Commissioner to help the poor guy.
Is hoping/praying the Mr. starts to feel better...sick people make me scared...
I'm really sleepy right now and need for 5 o'clock to come soonest!
Does not plan to pack up anything to the new school, everything in this station is going just like that...why would i want to empty cabinets full of folders and then plan to put things back...i already have a problem with folding clothes at home when i put them out....
I can feel aunty flo coming and just need her to come already...all these spots on my face and the way i'm eating...
I don't really want to go all the way out of town to visit daddy IB...if they couldn't reach me since he got here, they should have called daddy schic to ask for my right number...now i have to go out of my way to go visit them before saturday...*his*
I'm in need of money badly or maybe a second job
I wanna go back to school. Not sure if i want to do a PHD or just some sort of certification.
I've become even more convinced of what i'm supposed to be doing...thank you Lord
Maybe i should just risk it and go back to Nigeria...ok, maybe after i can pay of this one loan...
Finally decided that i'm no longer interested in doing aso-ebi with anyone...this summer has not been that bad though, compare to other summers:
- A's wedding $80 aso ebi & gele - sewn in nigeria
- T's wedding $25 ankara - sewing $60.00
- O's 50th b/day - $40 aso ebi & gele sewn in nigeria
Aso ebi that i did not accept:
- AY's wedding - $75.00 what's the point, it's the same day as A's wedding, and i already have A's aso-ebi, even though A's mother forced it on me...i'll be going from one to the other
- T's gele - $25.00i can't and don't like tying the thing anyway
- The other T's wedding - after spending all that money going to the wedding, no way would i buy aso ebi for $150.00 again...
- V's wedding - $45.00 - thank God she called me too late and i could say no!
Must be sign that Mr. is getting better...sick people sha don't eat plaintain and just called me asking for plaintains...*hiss*
Monday, August 17, 2009
Granma
I lost my grandmother this past weekend and it honestly makes me very sad even though she has lived a life well spent and died at a very good age, she was the only grand parent i knew and i loved her dearly.... i also pray for God to spare me too to see that age....
I don't think there is a single grandchild, either direct or indirect grandchild that has not had a relationship with Maami (lol, that's what she was fondly called by all...lol...well, except for daddy who calls her mama)
I remember when mother passed, we had to make visits to maami every other week...funny, even though the house was not what we were used to, i remember we all looked forward to going...and occassionally spending the entire weekend with her because it would be a weekend full of goodies.
Maami had a "shop" attached to the house, right in front of her house and as long as there were goodies there, we got some of everything. I also remember maami making lunch and dinner for us herself even though she had a helper. She personally made amala and ewedu for us one time. I know my brother and i couldn't hurt her feelings by telling her we didn't like it much, especially since she wanted to make it herself so we shoved it down our throats just like that...and it really was good...maybe the fact that it everyting was done outside behind the house gave it a different taste...a lot of nigerians say food from outside joints are nicer...the food had that element.
I remember daddy sending maami some money through the driver when he took us down to her, and she always took out of the money and gave us like 20 naira each which was sure a lot fo money then to spend on chocomilo, buttermint, malta sweets and "minerals" (soda).
I could keep going with stories from maami...like how dad told her to stop sending eggs and chickens to us so that she can sell them to make a profit...imagine distributing all these to her all her childrens home....what's left to sell? Ok, so i've got to go back to work now...
Maami, I'm glad you've gone to rest now because i understand the pain you were in during your last days here on earth....i think many will testify to the life you've lived and the fear of God in your heart that you taught us all...I pray that if the Lord comes before my time here on earth, i would have straightened myself out well enough to make heaven just so that i can see you again....In the main time, rest in perfect peace my dear grandmother....Will miss you...
I don't think there is a single grandchild, either direct or indirect grandchild that has not had a relationship with Maami (lol, that's what she was fondly called by all...lol...well, except for daddy who calls her mama)
I remember when mother passed, we had to make visits to maami every other week...funny, even though the house was not what we were used to, i remember we all looked forward to going...and occassionally spending the entire weekend with her because it would be a weekend full of goodies.
Maami had a "shop" attached to the house, right in front of her house and as long as there were goodies there, we got some of everything. I also remember maami making lunch and dinner for us herself even though she had a helper. She personally made amala and ewedu for us one time. I know my brother and i couldn't hurt her feelings by telling her we didn't like it much, especially since she wanted to make it herself so we shoved it down our throats just like that...and it really was good...maybe the fact that it everyting was done outside behind the house gave it a different taste...a lot of nigerians say food from outside joints are nicer...the food had that element.
I remember daddy sending maami some money through the driver when he took us down to her, and she always took out of the money and gave us like 20 naira each which was sure a lot fo money then to spend on chocomilo, buttermint, malta sweets and "minerals" (soda).
I could keep going with stories from maami...like how dad told her to stop sending eggs and chickens to us so that she can sell them to make a profit...imagine distributing all these to her all her childrens home....what's left to sell? Ok, so i've got to go back to work now...
Maami, I'm glad you've gone to rest now because i understand the pain you were in during your last days here on earth....i think many will testify to the life you've lived and the fear of God in your heart that you taught us all...I pray that if the Lord comes before my time here on earth, i would have straightened myself out well enough to make heaven just so that i can see you again....In the main time, rest in perfect peace my dear grandmother....Will miss you...
Wednesday, August 5, 2009
MAMI
I went home today very happy and planned on doing some self grooming - change nail polish and all...Only to get home and find out that granma who we call mami had a stroke and is in coma back home....
So have they taken her to hospital? what doctor is taking care of her?
No hospital this time s.chic! they're going to just leave her at home...doctor A has already seen come to see her and she's been stabilized...
They're just going to let her die?
Yes, she's 97, has lost her vision, in pain, and wears adult pull-ups...she does both #s 1 & 2 on herself....She's spent her time....
MAMI, REST IN PEACE...
i'm going to write a tribute to mami when she officially goes to see the Lord...she just was not the regular granma...
So have they taken her to hospital? what doctor is taking care of her?
No hospital this time s.chic! they're going to just leave her at home...doctor A has already seen come to see her and she's been stabilized...
They're just going to let her die?
Yes, she's 97, has lost her vision, in pain, and wears adult pull-ups...she does both #s 1 & 2 on herself....She's spent her time....
MAMI, REST IN PEACE...
i'm going to write a tribute to mami when she officially goes to see the Lord...she just was not the regular granma...
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